Both choices would hurt. However,if i had the choice...

I think if someone is with a person it does love, the relationshio will not last long anyway and the feeling of both have faded and finally disappeared. If a woman is with a guy because of money and not for love,there is no problem as the woman still get something she wants, she will not be hurt even she does not love the guy at all. If you love someone but you are not able to be with him/her,this feeling will hurt ,you will think of him/her more and more as you cannot with him/her, your love may exist in your heart for long time.

when we are ready to get into a relationship, it just means we are ready to face all the risks there is. my boyfriend and i live separately. and we will be having our first anniversary on the 25th. it was difficult at first. but when we were used to being apart, we are able to deal with the distance. we trust each other, stay loyal and true and kept the love alive by doing things which will make each other so happy. we do argue at times and hurt each other. but good thing is, both of us are willing to talk about issues and we never end a day without fixing things together. and we're both lucky.. soon within this year, i will be going to sweden to be with him for the rest of my life. happy myLotting augustta!

Having been in both situations, I would say that being with someone I'm not in love with would be more painful. Because you know you are doing harm to the person, keeping them from finding the person that really would love them. In the other situation, being in love with someone I can't be with, it's my own pain I would have to deal with. And I would deal with my own pain rather than causing someone else pain any day of the week.

You are right, these two choices are painful. But if I will choose I'd rather choose loving someone but won't be able to be with him. I won't compromise how I feel. I will not choose a person to be with just for the sake that I can have someone by my side.

I don't like to be in both situations and I honestly have not experienced either, so it's really difficult to answer a discussion that I haven't dealt with yet. Theoretically, if it boils down to making a choice between the two (as to which is more painful), then I guess it's more painful to not be with the one you love. At least in living with someone you don't love, there is still 'someone' in the equation, especially if it's difficult to deal with being alone in life. I just hope that the person whom I don't love wouldn't hurt me physically, otherwise that's a different story altogether. It's really difficult to not be with the one we love. There would always be memories that would stay there forever. Happy myLotting!

I think the situation that im not with the one i love. It really hurts for me just to think about it. Even if someone has to be there with me, i think the one i love is the can only take away the pain that im feeling.

Yes it is tough to love someone and living apart!! (sorry for changing the question) But when the question is changed to something like When you are forced to be with one who you don't love is much more painful..!! Because when you love someone he is always their with you in your heart!! So there is no question of being apart!! I recently came thorugh a long distanec relation ship..!! It is hard!!! But love can bear anything!! But still I cannot stand for my reply unshaken!! Because I never experienced it - being with one you don't love- so as I am not familiar to the other part of your question I cannot answer it easily!! have a nice day.

I don't think it would be very pleasant to live with someone you don't love. I would think that it would be more painful because you are living it for real with a live partner right there. It would be like living a lie. Long distance love could survive with the hope of eventually getting together. Having hope could go a long way toward easing the pain of not being with the one you love. Your feelings might be stronger, but then so would your hope of getting together, I believe.

I think among the two choices you gave,the first one hurts more,but had the second choice been 'to be with someone who doesn't love you' ,then I would have chosen the second one.It's not very hard to live your life with a person who you don't love but who loves you with all his/her heart,but it's very difficult to live with someone who doesn't enjoy or want your company.

Hi my friend, I agree that loving sb and not being able to be with him is very painful. I lived such situation (actually I still love that girl) and I know how difficult it can be. But I think living with sb you don't love is more painful. 1-situation you can sometimes work on forgetting that fact, you are sure u ll suffer late when you will remember your beloved, but you re still able to live your life. 2- you cannot forget that you re lying to yourself and sometimes to this person. Everytime you see this person, you will rmemerber that you re suffering and that he/she is not the person you want to spend your life with. If I have an advice to give never accept the 2nd position. Hope you won't have to suffer from any of both situations and hope you happy relationships

Though loving someone and not being able to be with that person is very painful, specially when the person you love is also the best friends of yours with whom you spend most of your time, share your dreams, happiness and sorrows, yet more hurting and pain full could be to live with someone you don't love. For me my wife is the most beautiful and wonderful lady on the face of the earth. she is the best friend among all the friends, i have. some times we have to live thousands of miles away because of professional/study schedules and/or administrative issues yet our hearts are never away from each other. we often share the dreams and tell each other the next day, with striking similarities about what we saw. we share feelings even though we are spacially far away. I can tolerate living away from her for all my life than to love or live with any other woman. I can't just do that, a sort of impossible thing for me to even think. It wil not be a justice to other person as well whom you don't love. So, if given choice i'll chose to be away from my love than to live with anyother person.

Good question. I have thought this a lot, because in my life there is a one girl which I like very much, but we are just friends and I am not sure will we ever be anything else. Then there is another girl which I dont like so much, but I think that she likes me. So I have thought that is it totally wrong to be with someone just because you like that feeling that someone likes you and besides I don't know that girl so much so maybe I will like her after I know her better. To your question: I think loving someone who you cant be with hurts more, because in that case you have stronger feeling. In other case your pain cames from seeing that you hurt someone, but feeling sorry for someone doesn't hurt so much than person who you feel sorry is hurt.

I'd choose to be with you ;O)

I better live together with my love one because pretty sure she was once my best friend. In my case I married my best friend and she was everything. I have flings before her but only a worldly attractions. I can't choose a situation you'd given because both is not what I want in life. Be yourself if you want with someone.

Oh, no. I'll never opt to be with someone I do not love. That will be a living hell. I'd rather be alone and be by myself rather than have a life like that. Just imagine how will life be like if you live each day with someone whom you do not love. It will be hurting me excessively each day to see a guy around me and yet in no way do I desire his presence.

I think this two situation is equally painful, the only question is which one can I bear with? As for me, I can bear loving someone and not be able to be with him, at least the loving feeling is there. I can nurture the feeling which is something beautiful. It is harder to be with someone you don't like. Just think of him kissing you and touching you makes my skin crawls. It is as if you are being raped every time he makes love to you. What can you say?

I would choose to be with the person whom i don't love, loving some one and not staying with them doesn't make any sense to me. Loving some one is precious but still being loved is a gift. Let me the person who is gifted with that love. People who stay with me may love me even though i don't love them but at some point of time i may feel that love for them since they will be there by your side in good and bad times.

Both choices hurt for sure But more painful is -- to love someone but not to be able to be with them.. It feels like life has no purpose or you will definitely think why God gave u this type of bad punishment .. u will feel lonely as well as depressed and it simply spoil our mood and our days.

I think the most painful situation is to love someone and not be able to be with her or him. I know that when you love somebody you always think about him /her and the idea that you'll never have that chance to be together will make you suffer a lot . And the worst part is when you are with someone that you don't love and always think about your true love . Life is so unpredictable an no matter what will happen we have to hang on. I had never been in any of this situations but maybe I'm to young and that's why, but I really don't even want to be .

Me, it is to be with someone I don't love. Really. . I had to imagine the two scenarios. . of course, it is hurting not to be with the man I love, but what is truly more disappointing is to be forced to be with a man I DON'T LOVE. This is only a matter of choice, a hypotheical one. . a "what if" question. I have experienced both in the past, and I say that what I chose is really more painful. If I am not with the man I love, I can sacrifice for a reason. Don't just force me to love someone I don't love.