Parents and Children

I live in an extended family. My mom has lived with my children and myself for years. I have always seen this as a benefit. My children have a closer relationship then her other grandchildren. My partner knew that my mom lived with me when we began dating. I also expressed that my mother would be living with me until her dieing day. He understands this. I have spanked my children from time to time. I first try to talk to my child about what they are doing wrong and why they shouldn't do it. If they decide to repeat what they did wrong again then normally they are put in to a time out. There are other offensives such as starting fires or such that I feel after talking to them they decide to do again is when I spank.

I like a small family..for the most part. Extended family is good..in small doses. I did live with my parents when my son was little, along with his father. He loved the idea, but mainly because he was cheap. We moved out as soon as I started working again. I definately prefer it this way. Having too many people in a household does not work well for me. I need my space and my private time. why do you want to live with your parents...and what are your partners reasons for not doing so. Don't jeopardize your relationship over this. and spanking...I shouldnt admit to it, but yes I do. It is a rarity, and I do not hurt him, but it is used on occasion to express to him just how bad his actions were. A young child does not always comprehend the words and needs a rememberance of what will happen if it continues...well at least mine seems to. I know many parents don't spank their children anymore, and if you have worked out another system, I think that is great. I would if I could.

I like my small family, it works well for me. There's just my partner, myself & out 10 month old daughter & things work nicely for us the way they currently are. I don't think an extended family would be my thing. I think there's something odd if you & your partner had to live with your parents. If it's traditional then you probably need to find someone that shares your beliefs but most people i know would rather be independent & live outside the family home. I do not spank my daughter & think that a firm NO or a firm NO with moving her away from the item she's not supposed to touch works well for me. I think if others choose to spank then that's fine coz everyone disciplines differently, it's a personal choice how you wish to go about it.

i would prefer living in an big extended family and my life had been from such family only. iselected her because of that only. living together is something that you could never forget. there can be some obstacles but try to enjoy your happiness remaining together you wont desire to live in solitude. bringing up children in such a set up is something rewarding.