Marriage first... or child first?

I don't think less of anyone who has a child before marriage. I sure had a close call with my now husband before we got married. I agree, that as long as they love each other and will love the child, it's all good. Remember that really messed up unhappy married people have children all the time!

HI I had my son first but If I could do it over again I would for sure do it the other way around but would not trade my kid for anything.

I am sorry but I guess I would have to agree that if at all possible it is better to be married before you have children. But I will be honest in that if someone chooses to do the oppisite it is not for me to pass judgement on them. This is just the way I was brought up and I just want is comfortable to me.

i agree with you, if there is love when the child came, then they get married during the pregnancy or after, its okay... but for me, i would like to be married first then plan when i will have a child... i think its much better for me to have all this planned out well... ;)

I think if there is really love exist,any way is ok so far as both of them like.But for me,I think I will not choose child first,because I do not want to have baby,hehe.

My son and I had a discussion kind of like this. He is 12 and all my neices and nephews had children before they got married, some did not get married or didn't marry the babies father. Anyway, I think in todays' society there are more babies first then marraige. My son thought that he was in my stomach in my wedding photos and I had to explain to him that he was not. I was raised in a family who believed that marraige should come first, that having children out of wedlock was wrong. This is just my belief and I did not try to push it off on my neices, I think that everyone should have their choice. A lot of times accidents happen, and the children do come before they are married and settled into a lifestyle. It is just everyones choice which way they handle it, I wouldn't look down on people who do it either way.

i go to marriage first. because to have a blessing in your life. and so that my children can have my family name.

I would go with marriage first and then a child. I am married now and do not have kids yet. I want to wait a few years before having them just so we can be settled and have our time as a married couple.