When Couples Are Getting Married

There are a lot of things to consider before my daughters can marry. Aside from the ones mentioned above like: right character/values of the person my daughters are marrying, the family background, religion, I would like to add: 1. All marriages go thru conflicts. How do they deal with conflict? are they a soothing force for each other? When they have stresses outside the relationship, what makes a big difference in happiness is whether the relationship is a port in a storm, or a storm in a storm. Also, when talking about difficult topics between each other & start to get upset, how good each of them are at soothing each other and calming the situation down is also predictive of their happiness. 2. I would give them a few backgrounds of being married and the major things that they need to agree upon when they get married like: how they would discipline their children, responsibilities of each other, etc...

I'm far from having a child but i would really like to participate on the discussion... I know what would my mother prefer for me. Someone who can support a family. He should have a stable job, on the right age, positive attitude towards life, good family background, criminal record hahaha. For those who gives standards, i think it is just right for parents to do so. You've taken care of your child for years so it is not easy for you to just entrust her/him to a stranger who claims to be in love with her/him. He/she should give and show more than that.

I wish it were all that easy. Here in the US the child will do as they please in this regard. we can teach them how to chose a good partner but we can’t chose one for them. My 10 year old granddaughter is very serious with a young man that is too easily manipulated by his friends. He loans them money all the time. He’s nice enough boy just not too bright. If The family were to say something our relationship would be damaged for ever. We can only gently point out his faults

Common questions to consider before getting married: 1.How do we set a budget for our dream wedding? 2.What are the joint financial decisions we should be thinking about now we are getting married? 3.What if we have different views on how to manage money? One of us is a spender, the other thriftier? 4.Do we need a Will when we are married? 5.Do we need insurance?What types of insurance are there? 6.Are there any special financial considerations? 7.What is a prenuptial agreement?

First, I would consider attitude. I don't want my child to have a bad attitude. Secondly, I would consider a good family background. And third, I would consider if that person has a good job and can support my child's needs and future.

I think the things to consider will include, The money that you have right now, if you have the job, and the love for each other. You must think first if you are ready to have a responsibility not only to your husband but also to your kids. think first if she or he is the right for you. Can you imagine him or her spending your rest of the life with. If no go and find another, if yes go on marry her.

I am a boy and will look for only 2 things in a girl. i.e. good looks(need not be 'hot') and good behaviour. I don't understand why people look for caste(here in india) and family background and all. If its a bride, he should be having a good job as to support his family and a good behaviour.

apart from very usual things like money, family background and other things, i'll see if the guy is good or having any bad habits.... i'll see if kids are really understanding each other or not.... i will also make sure that both of them will maintain their patience while dealing with each other..... because marriages are something meant to be forever.... not to break up in the middle because of ego clash, or fight....

This is interesting. In the US, the parents have nothing to do with the marriage of their children. The Children pick their own mate with no help from parents. I am thankful for this too. When I was choosing an eternal companion. I looked for someone who was good and kind and that I really loved. He loved me and we felt like we had known each other forever. He knows what I am thinking and I know how he thinks. We have been married for nearly 29 years now and he is my best friend. I know that I did choose the correct mate.

The way you make your discussion make me say that you really are a good parent. Yes your right. I am still single and no plan to get married yet but once that time comes, I will consult my parent regarding this matter and ask for opinion on my decisions. That's being a good son and on the other hand, a good parent to their son. Its a wonderful discussion you have. keep it up.