being a mother is a very difficult job..
By cherriemae
@cherriemae (3370)
Philippines
April 22, 2007 11:54pm CST
specially, i'm a single mom..it's so difficult for me..but as for now, i'm fortunate because i already living to my parents house, if there are times that i dont know how to do things for my kid, my mother who is always there to teach me..well, mommies, i know being a mother is a very difficult job, right? it's difficult because most of the time mommies are the one who clean the house, clean the mess of the kids, wash the clothes, wash the plates, change diapers for the babies, teach the kids for school assignments, etc...wheew!!! tough one, huh!!
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@mssnow (9484)
• United States
23 Apr 07
Yes it is tough, but mothers have been doing it for centuries. I learned alot from reading. if you can find some things about parenting online. read it. I learned how to take care of my babies. how to discipline my children and how to raise them the right way just from reading parents books. My boys turned out wonderfully. I am very happy with the all.
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
23 Apr 07
it is true that we can learn so much about parenting from various readings. the internet is of course a good help, as you have pointed out, mssnow. by the way, cherrie, you will have to read about child and adult psychology. this will help you to understand the demands and behavior of your child during the growing up years.
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@Calais (10893)
• Australia
23 Apr 07
Yes, but I suppose thats the joys of motherhood. Just do it and get on with life. No point in complaining because no one is going to come around and do it for you...lol. You are very lucky though, being with your parents knowing that they are there for you if ever you need their help.
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
23 Apr 07
I noticed that you have already changed your avatar. I just simply presumed then, that you have already given birth to your baby. I was among those who had encountered your discussion about teenage pregnancy. What I can say now is, that you are very lucky to be in your parents house. It is not easy to take care of a baby if it is your first time yet. Congratulations for the beautiful child and I hope the best in the world for both of you.
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@bbkks18 (79)
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23 Apr 07
really it is especially when u have a hyper 3 and half yr old little girl. even my husband can't handle her sometimes...
i don't mind doing all the home chores, i believe thats my job for i am not working @ all except taking care of my little girl. but i would say that being a mother is a tough job... but it is really fun watching ur kids grow everyday and learn lots of things. my little girl keeps me busy all day long, its hard to be bored even just a little bit hehe beacuse she's just a handful and i loved it.... it is tough being a mom but this is what i've been dreaming of, to become a mother!!!
@Nardz13 (5055)
• New Zealand
23 Apr 07
Hi, Im a mother of two, no doubt its a difficult job raising children, But I found by getting myself into a steady routine, as well as my children I could better cope with all the chores and everything else that comes along with being a mom or dad. Good luck to you!!!
@xuyan8219 (16)
• China
23 Apr 07
I will be a mother in the near futher.In my opinion,Athough it will be difficult,I will be happy to learn to be a good mother.I think the process will be interesting.Is it right?
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@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
23 Apr 07
You are very lucky to have your mom to turn to while you are raising your child. Being a mommy is definitely a tough full time job, and it can be overwhelming at times. But the smile on your baby's face always makes everything worthwhile, and makes things seem not quite so difficult.
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@paulsy (1263)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
Yes, you are absolutely right! Being a mom is definitely a tough job! I have three kids, a 15 and a 12 year old, both go to school everyday, and the youngest is 3 years old. I don't have a househelp, so I do the housechores. My 15 year old daughter helps me with the chores and my 12 year old son runs errands for us. When they have all gone to bed at night, I start cleaning up the house and begin preparing their uniforms for school the next day. Before they leave for school early in the morning, I need to be up to fix their breakfast and pack their lunch. When they have all gone to school, my 3 year old also needs to be attended to, all day long. Everyday is a busy day for me. But I love doing what I do. I call it a "labour of love". The nicest and the most beautiful thing about it is knowing that my kids acknowledge the things I do for them whenever they say words like "you really love me, don't you?", and whenever the two big ones wrestle each other just to be the first give me a good night kiss.
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@Zelmarq (12607)
• Cebu City, Philippines
23 Apr 07
Its the greatest challenge and the most difficult role to play. Lets thank God for giving us mothers who care of us through the years and for being always there when we needed them. I cant imagine what kind of mother would I be but I pray to be a good mother to my children.
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
23 Apr 07
Yes, being a mom is tough work! It is very rewarding though. I wouldn't give it up for the world. It is good to learn from someone elses experience. Your mom is a good reference tool, haha! I know I used to call my mother all of the time to ask for advice. I guess it works because I have a wonderful 12 year old!
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@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
23 Apr 07
my mom told us that, too. becoming a mom is something she won't trade in for any money in the world. it's something she's proud of becoming... our mom. and though it is tough she claimed... it's the best experience she ever have.
@thanuarun (290)
• India
23 Apr 07
yes really a tough job...i'm very much knowing this without anybodies help i'm look after my baby.very difficult cant even do my own things like going to bathroom...nobody is here to advice me about how to take care of him like that..but have servants for cleaning the home but mostly i needed to clean they do only in the floor then wash my babys cloths...preparing food is my duty...but getting so much happy and love from him whenever i became tired i will look at my babys face all tiredness will go suddenly..lol.
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@mitchacoy (251)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
Yes, It think it really is a difficult job. Well, I think it's better to be a single mom rather than having a husband who bothers you a lot and thinks he is "king kong". Well done, girl! go girl! you can do it! I know you can! God bless you and your family!
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@cherriemae (3370)
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
yes, i really agree with you friend..it's better to be a single mom than to have a bad husband..thanks..
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
23 Apr 07
i am not a mom yet. but i can feel how difficult it is to be a mommy. my mom had gone through a lot just to raise us siblings in a good way. she taught us good manners and good behaviors, respect and trust. although my dad had taught us such things, too, it's our mom who are able to be there for us most of the time.
happy myLotting and i am happy to know that you are with your parents to help you out.
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@krislouiebaby (2346)
• Philippines
23 Apr 07
yes it is, but it is the most beautiful thing that happened to a woman, to become a mother.
being a mother,you need to be more patient, loving and understanding to our kids, because they look upon us, and everything that they see and feel about us may affect them.
it is difficult but rewarding, seeing them growing up makes me smile. a heartfelt experience for me.
@cheenlly (3476)
• Philippines
23 Apr 07
eventhough im not yet a mother, i could also say that indeed its very difficult to be a mother because i can see it everywhere. From our own family, friends, relatives, neighbor and all women that have a child. I also feel your hardwork girl as a single mother of your daughter but on the other hand, your daughter is still the one who ease the pain and reward you by seeing her grew very well by your love and effort. She is your reason to live and she is a precious gift that God has given to you.
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@venkyvenky (621)
• India
23 Apr 07
ohh thats news and am going to be one soon. Please doshare more experiences of yours so that i will know lots before beoming a mother.i will learn lots from friends like you.but in ur case, try to share the work that u have at home and u might feel at ease
@aciddrop (798)
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23 Apr 07
i guess so.the most difficult part is you have to think of ways to cultivate them into good and cultured persons.being a good mom,its also a duty for you to help them develop their interests and, listen to them and give them advise when they're in trouble.also try to let them grow up to be happy,optimistic persons.there are a lot more to do.i know its really hard.so for me,giving to a baby or not in the future still remains to be seen.
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