Do you know what you would do?

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I have a close friend, who is over the age of 40. She has 7 children. They range in age from 21 to 1. For her last two children she had to do fertility treatments, and even IVF I believe. She was not planning on becoming pregnant again, and in fact felt that without a doctor's assistance wouldn't be able to. However, she did become pregnant. About three weeks ago, she went in for a routine ultrasound to get a baby profile, which is, from what I understand, standard practice with her OB for mother's of "advanced maternal age". The found markers, three of them, to possibly indicate Down's Syndrome. They ordered a CVS test, which is as accurate as an amnio, but from what I understand has less chance of a miscarriage. The test results came back (2 full weeks later) indicating that her baby does indeed have Downs. There are many people telling her that God will not give her what she can't handle and that her child has a special place in this world and purpose and all of that. I, however, am not saying that at all. I am the mother of a higly special needs child. My son has a whole plethora of disorders, none of which can be tested for before birth, and don't really make themselves known until he is much closer to the age of 2. If they could do a test for a child like my son, and had I found out in advance that he was the way he is, I know that I would be as torn up as my friend over ending my pregnancy or not. She has a teenage son who is having a great deal of difficulty in life right now, and she has her younger children too. A child with moderate to severe Down's (which from what I understand is what this child would most likely have) would be a huge burden to this family. And I use the word burden because I truly don't believe that any child with a special need is a blessing. And before you go cutting my head off and sending me hate mail, think about (and only the parents of special needs children can voice in on their experiences here, if you don't have one you DON'T know, that simple)all the time and extra effort that child requires of you. What about your other children, if you have them? How often do their needs get set aside because you are trying to care for, in one way or another, your special needs child? Yes, I am sure that you are a stronger person for having your child, however, if you could, would you change it? Don't pass judgement on my friend, however what would you do in a similar situation? If they could test for ADD/ADHD, Autism, Apserger's, or any behavior or sensory disorder, what would you do? What about the things that you do test for? I will say, that because of my older son, I didn't have the "optional" testing for disorders done, I am also just going on 30, so they are still optional for me. And I won't for our next child. Having been the parent of my son, I know that ANY child after him would be a cake walk compared to him. But that is my choice, and I don't pass judgement on my friend if she does choose to end her pregnancy. And I understand her point of view too. What would you do? Don't just automatically say no, think about it, think about all the child would require of you, and all that child would give back to you. And then answer.