Do you accept things from anybody?

I don't think it is right or wrong. It's what you believe in and the way you think, that's all. I don't usually have problems accepting something that is offered to me the same way that I often offer things to other people as well. In my opinion when someone offer us something they don't necessarily expect anything in return, special small things like the snack you mention. I often buy things and sometimes it's not what I wanted or mean to buy and I usually offer them to someone that I think might appreciate it. It doesn't mean that I want something back from them. I wouldn't use it anyway, so I give it to someone who will use it that's all. If we're talking very expensive things then it's something different and to think about. But I might offer if I feel that the person really wants me to. For example this Christmas things were a bit tight money wise in our home. We had spend quite some money on the ticket for my daughter to visit us during Christmas and then my husband quit his job and things were a bit hard for a while. One of my best friends that always gives me a special Christmas gift called me and said she wanted to give me something special. She wanted to pay for me to go cut my hair and have it streaked before my daughter arrived. This was a bit expensive and I had to think a bit about it, but I know that she really meant to make this offer and wanted me to accept, so I did.

lf your reason for not accepting ur friend's snacks was because of the price, l think its wrong. She doesnt want it and you accepted in the first instance to take it, the sudden change of mind is immature. you wont have ever accepted it. Allow your b/f to buy you things when he wants and what he can afford. A man feels more of a man when he can provide for his gf/family. lt boost their man-ego. Stoping him, may mean that you are telln him, you dont need him, that you can do without him, its a slight to some guys. Theres nothing wrong to your family values, but implementation of these values should differ at every stituation and envrionment, and you have to add a tip of diplomacy in the implementation.

i generally accept if its given with warm friendship. If it hurts anybody else i don't. i have got so many gifts from my friends as they think i'm a nice person. there are so many signs of great friendship. I generally don't think so much while accepting a gift.

yup ....i take them easily after all ....becuase by any reason ...it is from my dearest friend ...but i cant understand one thing wheever we take any thing from any one we always say thankz ......it was a plesure or something like that ...i cant understand why ... :D is this makes us feel good or what ? ....we are trying to say that the person giving the gift and reciver is very very happy from this exchange of taughts ?? ..... same as giving things ....some body gives you a thing you say oh wow ....thankz i love it ...feels nice some times ...but sometimes it looks like we are just pretending to be what we are not !!

I only accept present or gifts given to me if it has an occassion, a birthday, anniversaries and etc., i think its not proper to accept gifts if there are no occassions, except if the giver is your relatives but if not it sbetter not to accept to avoid any misubderstanding in the near future, the giver may expect much of me in return.

Well, I think if she's your good friend you should not refuse it. Besides she told you that it was because she didn't like the spicy favor. So she wouldn't think she has given you an expensive gift and espect a return of same value. In fact, if you didn't refuse it properly, she might not be happy for your misunderstanding her kindness. Of course we should not accept all things from else. Your parents' words are not wrong. But things are all different, you should make your decision under different condition.

Yes I accept gifts and things from others. I feel special that they want to give me something. I would not want to insult them by not taking what they want to give me. I won't take it, if they are just trying to get something in return, but if the gift is from the heart, whatever it is, yes I will take it. We all need people and sometimes we all need help sometimes. We are all in this world together.

I am usually the same way. I don't like people giving me things or gifts...but if they won't take no for an answer then I will take it and thank them. I think it is nice that people want to share and give you things...and let your boyfriend buy you gifts...you deserve it...lol.

Usually I do accept things from friends and relatives because I know it is sincerely given. I have to measure the sincerity of the gesture. If a person would ask me if I want a thing she will be giving away and I don't need it, I would politely refused that I got plenty (esp clothes) and if she donates it, there are less fortunate who would be happy to have them. We have a family friend that they are really well to do, they only have one granddaughter who is 2 years older than my daughter. They gave us all the clothes and toys that her granddaughter had outgrew, many of them still new or hardly used. This I really appreciate because I know they are sincere in what they are doing and not insulting us that we can't afford to buy anything for our daughter. For special occasions, they would give my daughter gift cards from Toy's R Us. But other people that I don't quite know or will offer something, I politely refused and encourage them to donate it to Goodwill or things like that because many would benefit from it.

Sometimes I do depending on what it is. If its from my hubby then of course as its a sign of affection, his love for me, i feel special when he does that and if he wants to spend his hard earned money on me, then by all means :). When we moved to USA we started out with nothing in terms of furniture for our apartment. My neighbour had 4 storage areas and gave us most of her stuff she had in storage because she wasn't using them and was looking to give them away anyway. She also had a few friends that were getting rid of stuff and asked if I wanted them. Of course I said yes because we had nothing when we arrived here except a few suitcases of clothes, and starting from scratch again is not easy. We were thankful for all the kind help and bought them dinner, I bake them the occasional muffins and cakes and take her out to coffee now and then, just to show my appreciation. Sometimes I wish I hadn't taken the furniture because she always reminds me what she did for us, and I feel obligated to return the favor everytime she mentions it. She even does this in front of my husbands work friends that come around and play a casual game of poker with us now and then. So even though its ok to accept it, sometimes it isn't especially if they are things given from strangers i.e neighbors. So now i am very weary when she says she has something for us - I now tell her that its ok, I don't need that but thanks anyways. If it was my family then I wouldn't have any problem with accepting things from them and vice versa. Thats what family are for :)

yes i do accept things from other people but only when i know from whom the present is from and if i know that person giving it. it feels good to accept presents because it feels as though you are very important to be remembered! it feels like you are very special to deserve a present! but if feels much better to be giving presents especially when you see the joy from the eyes of the person receving the gift. how happy he or she feels to have received your gift! that feeling is more wonderful!

No, I just accept things from my close friend or my families, things cent by a stranger might be a bomb! Be careful!

Like with most things, you need to find a happy medium. For instance, you mentioned your bf buying you gifts. He wants to do that then let him. You may tell him that he doesn't have to, but if he wants to then you are denying him the pleasure of giving you a gift. On the other hand to that, if you had known him for a month and he was giving you diamond earrings, I may hesitate on that and be inclined to say no thank you. That is what would set the tone for wanting something in return. It is absolutely normal and a good, cautious behavior to think about how accepting a gift can affect future relationships with anyone (friend, roommate, bf, etc). Keep in mind that people close to you are doing it because they want to with no expectations of getting anything back. If you are uneasy, think of how you could repay the gesture in the future. A friend of mine and I have been testing the pay it forward theory. If someone does a random act of kindness for you, then you need to do a random act of kindness that will equal to what was given to you. I know that it isn't exactly the same thing as the situation you present, but maybe when you accept something randomly you could do something in return for someone.

well my mother often said so too, but until now i don't know how to reject ppl's thing. well i usually get things becoz i did something to him/her. so i take that as a thanks from them

Yes I do, anything from my friends and relatives. Sometimes my relatives would give me something just because they have no use for it. I do still accept it, and if it's useless to me I give it away. I know they won't feel bad about it because they just want to give these things just so they don't go to the waste basket. But if they're like gifts I would gladly take it. Never mind the price, I didn't ask for it , they gave it, so I should be happy that they remembered me. I'm a very thoughtful person, I like giving and sharing and I don't expect anything in return. I would be insulted if I give something to someone and that person thinks that I'm waiting for something in return. You shouldn't worry too much, don't feel obligated to give something back. Some people, like me are just genuinely thoughtful.

Yes i do if they are my friends. If they are strangers i seldom accept any thing let that be more precious and i might be needing it. If some one wants to buy some thing for me then i will let him buy that only if they are close friends to me, else i would go and buy things for them. I don't accept any thing from strangers since i may not be giving them anything in reply as a gesture of respect other than a thanks. My mom never will let me accept any offerings from strangers.

I'm uncomfortable accepting things from others, unless of course it's my birthday or christmas. I guess it's hard for me to accept that some people are so generous, and get pleasure from giving to others. I often try to talk my wife out of buying me expensive gifts for my birthday, I just feel as though her love and well wishes are better than anything she could buy me.

I do agree that it probably is the way we were brought up. I was raised just the opposite, to accept with kindness and thanks and then in return you do the same.. i think it's okay as long as you are giving as well.. when that person is in time of need or it just may be something that like you said she thought you would like, then just give something in kindness. She may have been hurt, not realizing the reasoning behind it. good luck and have a great day..

nope.. i don't like to accept things from others.. i think that it's not good taking something that don't belong to you.. it's not like we're desperate for that thing.. we can also afford it right? maybe someone wants to offer something that i can't afford.. but i will still reject it.. i think that's like a discrimination towards me.. i will only accept if the person insist of me having it.. then i might accept it.. there's once i reject the offer. .then.. someone advised me.. they told me not to let that person feel bad by rejecting his offer.. then i say okay.. if you insist.. then i'll take it.. but if someday you need my help.. do ask from me without hesitation.. and thanks again for you offer.. that's what i will do if i'm being offered something =)

i just want to add a bit more...... there is a lot of waste in this world..... and lanfills are getting so full now that.. they are really pushing the recycling issue.... i feel we should go back to the attitude... we had in the war.... make do and ment.... and recycle....and do not waste anything..... and appreciate what we got ....and try and halt this throw away attitude.... i get a great satisfaction...when i recieve.... and give any items that i know that i will not need or use any more......