Family or friend

@eseomame (1146)
United States
April 23, 2007 6:27am CST
When you come across something exciting and thrilling or when you encounter a problem who comes to your mind first (that is who do you think of informing first)? Your best friend or a very close member of your family?
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
23 Apr 07
Depending on what it is, I usually tell my husband first, then my twin sister, then my best friend. If its a girlie thing then I tell my twin sister and best friend.
@eseomame (1146)
• United States
23 Apr 07
Yea, you are right. It depends on the situation. You have a twin? That's cool... Thanks for participating.
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@laila675 (528)
• United Arab Emirates
23 Apr 07
i dont usually involve family and friends together. I mean if the problem accurs within my family i come to a family members that is close to me and within my friends therefore i come to a friend also. Coz confidenciality is important especially problems within family. It's not good to share other people or even your best friend a family matters, it might be a bit complicated.
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@eseomame (1146)
• United States
23 Apr 07
You are right. I see it from your point of view, some issues may not require family interference while some may not require friends' interference. Thanks for participating.
@eseomame (1146)
• United States
23 Apr 07
Yes, you are right. You have to leave your information to someone that can help keep you secure without broadcasting you. Thanks for participating.
@coolmailraj (2460)
• India
23 Apr 07
Fortunately all of my family members are really good friends of mine so whenever something like that happens I can tell anyone of my friends or my family members about it and one thing more about them is that they are all very close to me and to each other too so there is no question of priority there.
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@eseomame (1146)
• United States
23 Apr 07
That's good for you. Unfortunately, not everybody has good relationship with members of their family, so they turn to their friends or best friends to share their joy or pain. Thanks for participating.
@emjay9 (249)
• Philippines
23 Apr 07
hmm it depends. when it's a family matter then i tell my family first. when it's something that my family won't understand i tell my friends first. but normally the frontliners in my list are my friends and my mom and sister. they are the first people to know something about me because i want to share with them my moment for i know that they will be there for me.
@eseomame (1146)
• United States
24 Apr 07
Yes, some close friends and a handfull of family members are always there for us, no matter what. Thanks for participating.
@kajal28 (83)
23 Apr 07
whevr i have to share sumthng i sms my best frnd thn phn my close frnd thn write in my diary... i rarely tell my family anythng..
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@eseomame (1146)
• United States
24 Apr 07
I think I'm like you in a way, only that I don't know whether I even tell much in the first place (to best friend or close friend)... I tried maintaining a diary, but that didn't work either. Thanks so much for participating.
• Philippines
23 Apr 07
Hmmm... come to think of it, it never even did cross my mind to tell those kind of stuff to my family. Whenever I want to share something with somebody, I would usually tell this to my girlfriend, who just happens to be my best friend. I'd talk about it, she would listen (she's not very talkative), and she would comment on it. I guess I would find it very uncomfortable to share those kind of stuff with my family. My mom is so busy most of the time. She does make time for us, but we don't really talk about those kind of stuff. We talk more about our family business, and school, and my baby sister... that's it. I would feel very uncomfortable opening up to her. As for my baby sister... Well, you can't really open up to someone who can't even speak yet, can you? :)
@eseomame (1146)
• United States
24 Apr 07
At least you have someone that you can actually count on... no matter what, that's enough to be thankful. Thanks for participating.
@magikrose (5429)
• United States
23 Apr 07
Other than my husband I tend to run right next door to my bestfriend and tell her. Then I would be onthe phone to my mother and the rest of my family and friends.
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@eseomame (1146)
• United States
24 Apr 07
Ok, pretty sequential (LOL!!!). Thanks for participating.
@KissThis (3003)
• United States
23 Apr 07
For most of my life I have always told my Mom everything first. She is my best friend. There isn't anything that I can't share with my Mom. My partner comes in at a close second but I find that if I have a problem or need advice he isn't as understanding. He sees most things as black and white. Next is my brother. I can tell him most anything.
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@eseomame (1146)
• United States
24 Apr 07
it's good to know that you have a very sound relationship with your mom. Moms are always understanding when the relationship is smooth. Thanks for participating.
• Pakistan
23 Apr 07
A person should be called lucky enough if he or she got some real friends. If your family members are your friends then you are more lucky than others. Friendship is greatest relationship beneath the sun. A friend deserves to know all about me as he or she is my friend. My friend should as close to me as myself. So I would never hasitate to disclose my problem to him.
• Pakistan
23 Apr 07
I want to add that "Our all relatives and family members are by chance, but our real friends are by choice."
@rodeotexas (1153)
• United States
23 Apr 07
Depends on what it is but I usually tell my husband.
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@eseomame (1146)
• United States
24 Apr 07
For married people, that would be the best bet -- to tell your spouse. Thanks for participating.
• Malaysia
23 Apr 07
i usually will tell my bestfriend first :-) i dont know why but thats how it's been for a long time. but during the days when i had a bf, i usually tell things to him first, then my bestfriend..by the way, my bestfriend IS a close member of my family
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@eseomame (1146)
• United States
24 Apr 07
Yes, subconsciously, boyfriends most likely replace the places of the closest people for a long time. Thanks for participating.
@skbadhan (879)
• India
23 Apr 07
it totaly depends upon the type of information or idea i got in mind so as to whom i should talk about first i have few grate friends among then the most is my wife i usually talk to her first about any excietment or any new funny idea
@eseomame (1146)
• United States
24 Apr 07
right, the situation depends on who gets informed first. Thanks for participating.