It is not destiny that determines love, it is choice....
By cheenlly
@cheenlly (3476)
Philippines
April 23, 2007 8:18am CST
This was caught my attention and somehow realize something. Perhaps if you read it, it will caught yours too.
Its said that - It is not destiny that determines love, it is choice. Our so-called destiny is a lie. Relationships last long not because they're destined to last long. Relationships last long because two brave people made a choice - to keep it, to fight for it, and to work for it. Meanwhile, other relationships fail not because they're destined to fail. They failed because one of the two, or both, made the choice - to set each other free.
well for me i think the above statement is true. It is a choice that determines love. Relationship do last long if both choose to keep it, fight for it and work for it.
So what about you friends, whats your point of view on this?
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25 responses
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
3 May 07
I agree with part of it but not all of it lol
As I know the Man I am with now has walked into my Life at the right time, I do not believe that is was not destined for him and me to become Friends at the time we did
And after 3 years of being Friends we knew we wanted more then Friendship and he has been a solid Rock ever since to me
So part of it is true but I still believe that People are destined to meet
@neenasatine (2841)
• Philippines
3 May 07
my case is different. i'm always trying to meet a blind date with a certain person but even though we made both efforts to see each other, nothing happens due to some situations that both of us cannot control.i really want to meet this guy but i really dont know why destiny dont give us a chance to meet.
@gaylordfocker615 (389)
• Philippines
24 Apr 07
Destiny plays a part since you've never would of met the other person in the first place if you were not meant to cross paths and then make a relationship out of that single unique moment. After that, it is a choice since both parties choose to be with each other or part ways. Whatever the outcome, fate dealt a hand in it so it's safe to say that destiny does not determine love but introduces it :-)
@carolynpb (647)
• United States
26 Apr 07
I REALLY believe this! My husband and I would never have made it if we hadn't have fought for our marriage. It was our choice. No destiny involved.
@summergorgeous (674)
• Philippines
24 Apr 07
i agree in this. we make our own destiny because of the decision we make. we shape our own destiny and not the other way around.
@sunita64 (6469)
• India
24 Apr 07
This is one relationship in which person is helpless even if you chose a person other might not choose you. Secondly if you want to keep the relationship but other might force you tofree him. So I feel it is destiny which decides that whether two persons will remain together or not.
@gemini1960 (1161)
• Philippines
24 Apr 07
For me it a matter of choice also, it I or you have choosen to live with someone or be with him forever if you decide to terminate some relationships you can do so , in this destiny had nothing to do with relationships.
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@mykykko (424)
• Philippines
24 Apr 07
i also agree to that!i myself almost give-up my marriage but because of everything that is important for me and my love for my family i chose to stay and make the best out of it.and thank god i know things are working better for me and my husband.
@rafichang (35)
• China
24 Apr 07
I bless all of you who believe in this. but for me, sometime, i have to give in my destiny.
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@Chelseachan (204)
• China
24 Apr 07
I very agree with you.Relationship do last long unless both keep it,fight for it and word for it.If one of the two sent free,it's no need to keep continue.
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@livvy092002 (1032)
• Philippines
24 Apr 07
I agree with that saying.. I believe that Love is a DECISION.. I don't believe in the crap they are saying that they had fallen out of love, their husband/wife has changed..that's why their relationship didn't work. I agree with what you said that relationships last long because two people made a CHOICE - to keep it, to fight for it, and to work for it. That's COMMITMENT. Thats why love and commitment goes hand in hand. We dont need just Love.. we need both LOVE and COMMITMENT. in order to work things out in our relationships. We should DECIDE to LOVE and TO COMMIT.. this makes our destiny.
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@austere (2812)
• Philippines
24 Apr 07
yeah, i belive that too. that's realing making sense! i mean, like what my boyfriend said, our choice is our destiny..what we choose to have is actually what we are destined for. but above it all, it is still a choice!
@maple_kisses (2156)
• Philippines
24 Apr 07
Well, your post is a perfect explanation of the cliche: "Destiny is not a matter of chance, it's a matter of choice; it's not a thing to be waited for, it's a thing to be achieved", which is of course one of my most favorite quote because it really brings you into the reality of life that even if Fate has plans for you, you are given the rationality to think back and decide whether you wanna hold on to that plan or not. Your own decisions really play a big part in your life...
@rodeotexas (1153)
• United States
24 Apr 07
I think I agree with this. I do agree that two people have to fight for it and work to keep it and that is their choice. I believe there is someone out there for everyone you just have to find that one person. You can't ignore your heart and if you heart is telling you something then it is more than likely true.
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@Malfred (134)
• Philippines
24 Apr 07
it's true.. that when it comes on a relationship its a choice that was made by the couple itself that last or set them each other free. or i might say you need to have a right choice for you to have a good relationship to last. what about if we make a wrong choice? and at that choice we tried to put love on it to make it perfect. they say love is blind, but love conquers all. for any strange difficulties we tried our best to make that right choice happens
but at the end we end up something we did'nt expect to have. you said its a choice,you're right but if we made a wrong choice and we tried to make those choice to be right?
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