Enabling child support laws.

Tell me about it i am so overwhelmed with it all i want to shake the woman and yell at her for her stupidity!!!!!! LOL but unfortunatly it will do me no good. As for the child support thing we are working on it We went to the Child support enforcement office and let them know where she was living and they are still taking out the share for his oldest girl and said we have to go to court by ourselves for it even though they are the ones who went after him when she requested it. Right now it is more or less the wait for us to come up with the money to go down to where she had changed the Venue and get it back in our courts. It is all a huge headache but it will come togeather sooner or later Thanks for listening to me vent Adawna

She's living with you now but your still paying support to her mother! Thats patheric! There should be some way to get this situation fixed & make her mother pay you back with interest & back support she owes you since the girl moved in without the whole lawers & court fiasco. To deny letting her daughter bring her stuff... That B*@%$ needs to take a long walk off a short pier.

Their spending so much time making laws to prevent people from haveing to think & make their own decissions its nuts. Each case should be looked at without all the beurocracy involved. That No Child Left Behind Law is now on my hit list too. My youngest daughter has a reading problem but they continue to advance her. Now all her subjects are suffering bacause she can't read the books & tests well. Yet they'll pass her again. She should have been held back last year so she could catch up. Whoever is coming up with this junk needs to be hit in the head repeatidly & often. I'll happily volenteer to do it.

The one in my state wouldn't be sooo bad if it didn't allow custodial parents to become "Welfare moms". As it is the less effort she puts forth to better her condition the more handouts she gets and the more she takes from me. My wife and & work hard day in and day out strugling to get by while she sits back and collects for nothin other than the fact that she has my kid. While I had custody we had no need for support either from the goverment or her because we WORKED. As for your situation thats terrible. Who came up with those laws? Monkeys?

Thanks, unfortunantly it looks like she's going to put the screws to me for the next 3 years.

Unfortunantly its not so easy. (1) lawyers cost a lot (2) I don't have definite proof, I see whats going on but I don't have access to all her records in order to present them to the court. (3) She's got my daughter brainwashed. My daughter is almost 15 so the court actually asks and considers her opinion & She won't stand up to her mother. (4) local courts almost always favor the mother anyways (5) proving her unfit would require proving she neglects my daughter or puts her in unsafe situations. She safely stays above that level, its just at other peoples expense. (6) I don't actually know any of the lawyers or judges in your area ( they live in murphresboro ). My ex moved away from all the family. Her own dosen't even like her. I do see my daughter every other weekend or so if her mother dosen't muddle up the schedule ( which she commonly does).

Unfortunantly its not so easy. (1) lawyers cost a lot (2) I don't have definite proof, I see whats going on but I don't have access to all her records in order to present them to the court. (3) She's got my daughter brainwashed. My daughter is almost 15 so the court actually asks and considers her opinion & She won't stand up to her mother. (4) local courts almost always favor the mother anyways (5) proving her unfit would require proving she neglects my daughter or puts her in unsafe situations. She safely stays above that level, its just at other peoples expense. (6) I don't actually know any of the lawyers or judges in your area ( they live in murphresboro ). My ex moved away from all the family. Her own dosen't even like her. I do see my daughter every other weekend or so if her mother dosen't muddle up the schedule ( which she commonly does). Rated! Where in Murfreesboro does she live? It doesn't matter, you can still get a lawyer that knows a judge in the area where you live. Honestly, they prefer you to go to court in the city that you live in for the past 6 months or more. I haven't been here that long myself to be familar with the lawyers and judges. You still can talk to a lawyer for free, there's many of them out there that give free consultations. There are pro bono lawyers. You just have to call around to see if anyone is willing to help you. You can also threaten your ex, explain to her this is what your getting or I will quit my job then no one will win. If she's smart, she will smarten up. Also sad to say if all else fails, she will be 18 in 3 years, then you can tell your ex to kiss your a*s. Plus tell her that you will be wanting her at your house at the time that you stated or you will take her to court on the grounds of not following the custody hearings. Most of the time all it takes is threats. If she has odd jobs here and there, she can't afford a lawyer either. I know this might be a really bad idea, but you could also tell her you want to lower the child support payments, or you will sign over your rights as her dad. Heck you hardly see her, she thinks her mom is the sh*t and your dirt. Not saying you don't love her. But you can use those as forms of threats towards your ex. I told a friend of mine to get her husband to tell his ex the same thing I said to you, threaten her with signing over your rights as the dad, or lower the child support payments. It worked, plus he get's to see his son more during the summer. If she's smart, she will know once you sign over your rights as the dad, all child support stops right then and there. So honestly sit down with your wife and do a pros and cons of all of this. The pros would be you get to keep the money you worked hard for. Your other daughter will finally get to enjoy things that she hasn't gotten to. Your ex will have to get off her butt and get a real job. Cons, the other daughter will probably won't feel hurt except for the money coming to a end. You will feel bad, but honestly, do you want this child growing up getting everything she wants. You can always set up a savings account that she can get once she turns 18, so her mom can't touch it. Maybe if you do that, she will see who her mom really is. These are just ideas. I do hope this get's better for you.

Nope, They're supposed to be looking for work but when they get a job they call out sick the second day. I wouldn't keep an employee around like that.