Do you think it is wrong?
By krysy1982
@krysy1982 (1041)
United States
April 23, 2007 11:24am CST
My husband are planning to go to the beach for a few days by ourselves. My mother in law is going to watch our kids for us. My family is giving me alot of grief about leaving my kids. This is the first time we have ever done this. We didn't even get to take a honeymoon. Am I being selfish for wanting this time to ourselves?
5 responses
@phonevolts (919)
• Ireland
23 Apr 07
No you are not being selfish have some time to yourselves. Just ignore what those people are saying. Every one needs time on their own even if it's only an hour. Couples need time on their own with each other. I have a son and my mam takes him every Friday night so that my boyfriend and i can spend some time together on our own, so we can have at least one meal a week in peace and we can talk etc.
Our public health nurse also told us when the baby was born, to make sure we got time on our own to keep our relationship going. Don't feel guilty or selfish. Enjoy your few days away and your children will also enjoy their time with their grandmother. You deserve a break now and again.
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@krysy1982 (1041)
• United States
23 Apr 07
We have 4 kids together and this is the first time we are going to leave them. We are planning a family vacation this summer.Thank you for your advice
@LoganzMom (618)
• United States
4 Oct 07
i completely understand the feeling! i am the same way. my son and home life in general makes me crazy but as soon as i go away i feel horribly guilty and want to come back. i also worry like crazy. you deserve the right for time to yourself most definately! i can see someone being upset if you were leaving for a month or something! thats the trouble with most relationships mine for sure included, there's no time for the two of you anymore and so many relationships get rocky because of this and ultimately end in divorce. just remember it was you and him before the kids and make time for ther two of you as a couple but dont leave yourself out. you need time alone too...
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@carolynpb (647)
• United States
26 Apr 07
No you are not being selfish!!!!! Couple NEED to get away once in while for their marriage! You need to have time with each other without your children. Your marriage will suffer if you don't! It also gives your kids time to enjoy grandma and grandpa! It's so sad that your family is making you feel like you are doing something wrong. try not to worry about it! Go, enjoy yourself!
@TheSponsor (19)
• United States
23 Apr 07
No its not wrong people do need time to themselfs and married people need to spent time together just by there self so they can keep there love strong
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@mrsbrian (1949)
• United States
23 Apr 07
Not at all every couple needs time alone together,I think as long as you maby do something with the kids at a different time than I think it would be good to get away, just the two of you rekindle the romance just relax or whatever.
I think its sad that your family is giving you a hard time about it, but go and enjoy yourselves.
