Do you have forgiveness in your heart?

i think so..because i don't feel any baggages in my heart and mind..not before when my bf leaved me when i'm still pregnant, and without knowing that he's already engaged to other woman..that makes me feel mad and i hate him of what he has done to me..but it was 2yrs. ago, and all the pain was already healed and i'm happy with my kid and my new bf which has more love, respect and trust on me..

Forgiving comes easy to me and once I forgive,I do a favor to myself.I no longer dwell on the issue and can move on.There might be certain issues that are hard to forgive, but time helps to lessen the pain by fading the remembrances and makes it easier to forgive.Whenever I can't forgive myself ,I try to peep into my future and analyse if I will be as mad at the person after two years as I am at that moment and almost instantly I get a better perspective.

Yes, I have forgiven alot of people. I forgave my step-dad for knocking the crap out of me when I was younger. for mentally,emtionally, and physically abusing me and my brother. He was very strick. He'd give you two minutes to do something if you didn't, he'd hit us. He went as far to use a whip on me several times and beat me with a belt and buckle so bad I couldn't go to school for over a week. Yeah, it has been 16 years and I have forgiven him. He is not that way anymore to much. Thank goodness. He is on high blood pressure meds and and Zoloft. Seems what made him so mean was that he was getting cluster migraines and they would last for days and since he has started taking his meds he has changed alot. I have forgiven people for stealing off me. Now I am dealing with a situation that is very hurtful to me. I was told by a few of my husbands family that i am to fat to ride in their cars. I mean yeah I am overweight but cars are made to hold atleast 1500 lbs I think and I don't weigh that at the time they told me this I was 350 lbs... I was so hurt.. I really think they are ashamed to be seen with me being so big. I always clean and dressed nice so i know it wasn't that. It hurt me becuase I thought of these people as not only as family but friends one I thought of as my best friend. So you can imagine how I felt about that. What hurts the most is she puts more weight then I weigh in their car.. Can I forgive this.. I don't know I have tried but so far I can't or I have emotionally not to. You'd think being told this that I would lose the weight at first I got down to 300 lbs just to be told "cool a little more and we can start going places again..well that made me depressed and I put all the weight back on within 2 months. and I have gained a few pounds a month since. to me I'd rather take a beating then to have to go through that again..So here I sit stubbornly overweight. That hurt me o bad that when I think about it it just makes me break down and cry like a baby yeah I need to get a grip and get over it and take my life and put it back together and forgive and forget otherwise I'll not be able to get past it just when I am losing weight I start to think about it and then it ruins things for me because it depresses me if I could I would hypnotis it right out of me then i would be able to live a more emotionally stable life.

Hello,mamasan, I would always forgive other people as longas they will not do the same mistake later on, I think you do not feel good to hold a grudge in your heart,by forgiving other people, you just release yourself and other people will appreicate your generosity. I was cheated by my ex-boyfriend before, at the beginning, i was angry,but i forgave him as the situation would not be better even I did not pardon him for cheating me.

Always. If the Lord can, why can't I?

If I have encountered this question six years ago, i would definitely be negative about the idea of forgiveness. Forgiving was one thing I couldn't do easily. I don't know, maybe I was just too proud then that I always wanted the other person to say sorry to me first. Especially if the person who wronged me used to be a dear friend. Before, i thought of forgiving as forgetting, if i don't get to see that person more often, or if i don't see that person at all, then i would be able to forgive him/her. As i matured more, i realized that forgiving doesn't mean forgetting. Forgiving is more of accepting the fact that somebody has done mistake. I also learned from some unforgettable experiences that a simple misunderstanding should not be a reason to break a relationship, or a friendship. Saying sorry and forgiving should always be put into consideration to settle the differences. But more than forgiving others, the best thing i learned about forgiving was to forgive myself first. I was too hard on myself before, maybe that was also one of the reason why I find it hard to forgive others. Letting go of the grudge simply made me feel refreshed and optimistic.

I try to forgive and forget. I have, though, done something that I was forgiven for, that I didn't think I should have been forgiven for.

The more you can forgive, the lighter your heart. It is never impossible to forgive, unless that is how you see things. Hanging on to that anger and hurt is doing you no good. The situation that you felt hurt from is long gone, in the past. Why hang on to the past? Let go of it, release your feelings of anger, and see how wonderful you will feel. To forgive is always a choice you can make. There is nothing stopping you from forgiving but yourself.