sending your kids to a stranger

That is bad. I would never do this either. I can see maybe stopping and allowing the kids to play together, but I wouldn't send my daughter alone to play with a strangers kid. That is reckless.

Unfortunately...you are right. We had a similar situation with a neighbor and her child. She didn't even know me and just ran right into my house one day...then it just got worse from there. They turned into the neighbors from hell...the mother drank and partied and the girl swore and gave people the finger all the time. Needless to say...my son never played with her and we kept out distance...best we could...but we had our battles...until they finally moved out. I would tell you to stay away from this woman and her child...because unfortunately they sound like bad news...

I don't do that but I have a small daycare in our home and people often leave their kids here without knowing anything about me. I have had them to come home from school with my daughter. I have spoken to the parent on the phone of course but really what do they know about me? I am a good mother and we have a modest, safe home. They don't know for sure though. I am just too much of a worry wort to do anything like that. My kids only stay with people I have known for a while and family. I for SURE am going to know where they live.

I Have the same problem where I live. I am always outside with my children {unless I have to pee lol} Half the time kids I dont know come ask to play. I dont know who they are or who the parents are. I would never send my kids to someone house unless I know them. And I guess some people just dont care enough to watch there own children. Its easier to send them somewhere else so they dont have to deal with them. Some people!

some people just dont care. If they can get rid of there kid for awhile thats all that matters. I myself am too protective and dont let my kids go anywere unless i know the parents personally.

Some arents just dont care but sometimes children lie to thier parents and say that they are going outside to play and come over to your home and say somethin different to you. That may not be the case in this situation but it happens. Ultimately, it come down to thae parent not really caring at all about where their child is or if the stranger they are with is some weirdo. This woman needs to wake up and watch the news, and go to parenting classes. That's a big NO NO what she did!

nope i haven't done this cause i am not yet parent. but my parents have done it. i am currently in new zealand for my higher international studies. they have sent me to new zealand for studies.i am living with a indian-german family which is very nice though. it was a great decision sending their son far. there were not going to see him again so soon, at least till my couse finishes which is 1 year. family i am living with is a bit stranegr for them, cause they haven't seen it. i am living with a family form my college's support only, we contacted.

that's an irresponsible act by parents. I can't condone parents who make such mistake.Have they ever think of the consequences of their act ?Tsk...it is a shame when they could do such thing to their children.I never would leave my child under a stranger's guidance.

That is so incredible. I cannot imagine a mother sending her child off to a strangers house without knowing anything about them. She could not have even known that you would still be there when her daughter got there or something might have happened to her on the way there. It is also incredibly rude of the mother to expect someone else to look after her child without an invitation or some prior arrangement.

she's entirely a very irresponsible mom that kid has... letting her child spoke to a stranger... making friends into the entire neighborhood is ok.. asking someone to babysit my child is also ok as long as i know who babysit my child and i did ask someone to babysit my kid... i mean being a parent should know that we should take care of our kids and be responsible to the welfare of our children... even if our kids are old enough we still should know who they hang out with and where they are going.... we should not let anyone harm our children...i couldn't believe she just actually let her kid send to a total stranger... much better if she just introduce herself first...

I think that is terrible!! I can't imagine just sending my kids off to play and not know the people they are with, or not even asking if it was okay! I just don't like people that expect you to watch their kids for them, it is hard enough for me to watch my two and I certainly don't want someone else adding their kid to my responsibilities without asking if it is okay. What did you do? How long did you watch the little girl? That is just crazy!!!

I knew someone that did that with her daughter so she could go out. She would send her daughter over to someone that was outside and ask if they could watch her, that her mom would be back soon. Then she wouldn't come back until late. The lady ended up loosing her daughter.

some parents think it can't happen to them they don't take the responablitiy of having a child seriously until something jolts them into it wait until she goes thru a scare that will kick her motherly instints into gear

I can't believe this!i wounld never and ever send my kids alone to stranger,i cant understand why the mother do like that.If you find the girl's mom,ask her for the reason for me!

I can not believe that a parent would do that. At the very least she could have walked over to you and said my daughter would like to play with yours would you like to set a play date or would it be ok if i sat here with youas the children play? Nothen against you but you should never allow your children to play with a stranger you have no idea what kind of person they are.

I would probably have reported her.. it might seem harsh but hey. this mom is sending her kids to a strangers house blocks away and the kid is only 4?! this lady is nuts! my kids werent even aloud out of our yard at that age. I never even let them play out there unattended. I cant believe some parents.. where I used to live there was a 5 and 6 yr old girls acrossed the street, the mom worked at night and the dad (when he was home) would be in the house while the 2 little girls were outside playing and running in the street.. it would be midnight or later.. I would always try to tell them its late and they shouldnt play in the road but I guess as long as their dad wasnt saying anything it was ok.. the mom pulled the older son out of school and told the people she was homeschooling him but never did... he was always stuck home babysitting or just being treated like a dog by his mom and step dad..some parents just need help I guess...

Wow, what a poor excuse for a mother. I would never do something like that. That woman didn't know a thing about you! Also, what if the child had been abducted between your home and theirs? People are crazy sometimes. I like the way that you handled the situation.

Yeah thats wrong maybe the child begged her mom to let her go until the mom finally said OK go. Some parents should be parents. They don't know how to handle a child. Next time just tell the child you are sorry but unless her mother comes over and says it is OK then she may not play here. or if you don't want her to play there. Then tell her you are sorry but she can't right now. Tell her goodbye and don't let her ask questions.

Obviously she doesn't care where her child goes. I wouldn't do that to my son and leave him with a complete stranger, never!

I am in agreement with you. I would never send my child over to play at someone else house without meeting their parents first and then being invited. Either hse is a terrible parent or she is just too trusting. I had a friend once who had just moved into a new place. She saw another little boy outside playing that was about the same age as our children. She looked at our kids and said to them "why don't you go over to the neighbors house and play with that little boy we saw." I put my hand on my daughters shoulders to stop her from going, looked over at my friend. I said" I don't allow my daughter to play with children at their houses till I meet their parents and feel comfortable with it. She thought I was being over protective. Unless my children are invited and they are going to be outside playing I am always wityh them when they are at someone elses house. You can never be sure who you can trust.