My Neice is dating my Crush
By AcousticSoul
@AcousticSoul (1309)
United States
April 23, 2007 3:01pm CST
What would you do if you found out that your neice was dating a man you were interesting in. My neice and I are 6 days apart. she is avery pretty girl... well I had a crush on a guy for about a year... we flirted with each other and people would say oh he has a crush on you but we never took it any futher... word got back to my family that I like the guy and My neice tried her best to hook us up because she new his sister. and I just found out today that they are now together...I'm not really mad... because he is a good guy and she needs a good guy plus he was never mine to begin with but I do have to say it hurts... but after finding this out I notice my neice feels bad but her attitude towards me is defensive... what would you do...
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4 responses
@disvachic (10117)
• United States
30 Apr 07
In my opinion I really think its wrong for your niece to be dating somebody you are interested in.If she knew you were interested I really think its fowl.If it was me I would really be hurt as well.I wouldnt let it ineterfere with your relationship with her,because men come and go.I would just tell her how you felt about the situation so that she will know the next time,not to say they are not going to work out,but to tell her niecy dont do again this is how I felt.
@rodeotexas (1153)
• United States
24 Apr 07
I would be really hurt and mad if my neice had done that to me. But if youare okay with it then just call her and tell her you are happy for her and are not madat her.
@AcousticSoul (1309)
• United States
24 Apr 07
Yeah Im a little hurt... I Started to feel as though I maybe a little sensitive but it is really a messed up situation...I'm okay because I love her and I wish her luck because he was not meant for me... I will never keep a grudge towards her because I love her that much... its just the moral aspect of it all hurts really bad... but I will get over it
thank you for your honesty
@fellowlife (988)
• Nigeria
23 Apr 07
you should call her and tell her you have no grudge against her. Since you also said you are not really mad about it, i think you should let her know that she didnt hurt you by snatching him cause you were not really into him.
Its her guilty conscience that is taking its toll on her and she thinks you must have been hurt pretty badly that you might want to have a pound of her flesh.
Best bet is to sit her down and you guys talk things through.Dont hide your feelings aight
@AcousticSoul (1309)
• United States
23 Apr 07
In the aspect of not really being mad at her because he wasn't mine to begin with. I mean I had a crush but as far as a mutual understanding there was non. she know's that im not mad at her, but more hurt. and not because she pursued it, im hurt because she has been holding this in for so long and never once thought to call me before this was brought to my attention from someone else. a man is so easy to come by, but now i have to deal with the politics of the situation for one I work with him and she is may family...
@crimsonrose (147)
• Bangladesh
23 Apr 07
It is a complex situation that should be handled by the elders with matured mind and understanding. I think you are the elder one.. and you have decide or judge which is the best solution. perhaps you have to sacrifice for the sake of the decision ..but be bold and upright .. you can get your answere from your heart ..surely. and go for it without hinking twice.
@AcousticSoul (1309)
• United States
23 Apr 07
Well technically she and I are the same age. as far as wisdom goes I think I hold more weight... we both are mature about the situation, as I try to see it from her point of view I can't help but not to be mad at her... he is a good guy, and he was never mine to begin with, the only thing that hurts me is she was trying to hook us up... and she new how I felt... so why didn't she call me... to let me know thats all...its just an unfortuante situation, a serious growing pain... but I will not let it get the best of me I will grow from this
