What would you do if a little girl says she's in love with your young son...?

It's very scary how young girls are these days. I am assuming that she is also 9 yrs old, or is she older? You might have to take into consideration what kind of family she comes from. Some of these young girls are learning about "going out" at very young ages and it is inappropriate. I would just talk to your son about this situation and tell him that he is too young to date. When she calls the house tell her that he may not talk to girls on the phone. Set your rules and keep strong. She may think that she loves your son, but someone else will come along who is willing to play her game.

How old is this little girl? Maybe she really loves him. Well, since this seems to be the case, I'd recommend you to ask her what love is. What is love to her? Depending on her answer, you can surely know if it's love or not. If it is, and if the little girl is decent, why not try to put both together? (Do not force your son if he doesn't want) But if she is not in love, or if she is not decent, tell her she can't have him as a boyfriend. Not until he decides for himself.

I totally agree with you. You did the right thing. I would even think about talking to her parents about her behaviour. That is certainly very odd for such a young girl...there has to be something going on with her family..or circumstances for her to act that way. That is far to sophisticated behaviour for a six year old. I think you just need to keep her away from your son as much as possible and maybe he could tell her that he is not interested in having a girlfriend. They are far too young for this...I wish you luck...and hopefully she will stop ...after your son shows no interest in her...and move on to someone else.

Well it seems that she has a crush on your son and at that age it is very much possible. She would not know the meaning of love and this is just a crush that she will over come with time. Just let her know that your son likes friends more than girl friend and she may end up being happy with just being friends with your son. Trust me it used to happen to me a lot of time but it was more serious like phone calls at 2:00 am in the morning and mysterious love cards stuff at our door! Just try to have an easy going conversation with her and since she has a crush on your son, you can use it well to change her mind. Best of Luck!

Can you talk to her parents. Perhaps letting them know the situation could help ease how you handle it. Let them talk to her and explain that her actions are a little overbearing. At that age, she is the responsibility of the parents.

Don't worry abut this,they are always a child,maybe the girl feel too lone in house,and she want to go out to play with other child,you son has the same age as the girl,so they have many interest in common.Child's word don't believe,they can say things can fly,but for a while ,they can forget what they say.so don't worry.

They start earlie these days *lol* On a serious note.. When i was 9 i also had crushes on boys - girls do get them earlier than boys who just thinks that girls are disgusting =) However just leave it be, she will get over it with time and who knows in a few years they might make a great couple *lol*

Talk to the little girls mom. If you don't want them togehter in school you need to stick to that at home also. When she comes over ask her nicely to go home. My daughter is 11 and I went to parent teacher conference and found out that a boys mother told the teacher she had a problem with her son and my daughter being boyfriend /girlfriend.(I had a problem with it to cuz of the age) But them she was letting him come to my house all the time and she even let him get her a gifts for her b-day. Make sure you are sending the same message to everyone involved.

When I was 4 or 5 years old some new neighbours moved in a few doors away from Ireland, they had never seen Indian people before and within a few weeks their son (who was the same age as me) decided he wanted me to be his girlfriend and invited me over to tea. My mum bought him a box of chocolates and I went over for tea (with my mum too who had tea in the next room with his mum) and it was all very sweet and innocent. The following week he came around to our place for tea and he bought me a lovely little doll. We were boyfriend and girlfriend for about 2 weeks before we got bored of each other and school started again - he made new friends, I carried on playing with my old friends. It was all very innocent and the most he ever did was kiss me on the cheek and shake my hand when he came around for tea in full view of his and my mother! That was an innocent childrens thing. What this neighbour of yours seems to have though is something a bit more scary and less innocent. You son is 9 years old, kids don't really need their parents fighting their battles or he might get called names at school, encourage him to put her off himself. Boys at the age of 9 don't fancy girls, they tend to really hate them and pull their hair instead of kiss them, so don't worry, your boy is too young to even consider returning her feelings and I doubt he'll change his mind. In a few years time she'll probably have started dating other boys (and older ones at that if this is how she's behaving now) who actually show an interest in her and your boy will be off the hook! x

Id just brush it off to kiddy love...you know we all went through it where we thought we loved someone when we were like 10. Maybe she sees alot in her home and that makes her this way...you never know. I think you are doing the right thing if she is being that persistant.

Well, it's an interesting story. I guess you have to take it easy. Talk to the girl's parent and let her parent educate her the meaning of friendship and love.

My god.she is so young,why she had such feeling,i can't imagine,maybe she just felt that she plays well with your son.When i was at this age i knew nothing.

well, im still 18 and i dont have a kid. but i've been there. i use to follow this boy around. i really like him. i was seven and he's 14 or 15 i think. i now he's always annoyed with me but he's really nice so he didnt do or say things that would hurt me. well, i alwys followed him but i never actually called or talked to him. i just followed him around. then there came a time that i just stopped. i got busy at school, and i got busy with my friends. a few years later, he left for college. i think the girl would just stop what she's doing. im not sure though cause im not that obsessed with the guy i followed around. i just like to see him, and that was enough for me.so..... sigh!

I would be very happy if there is little girl has crush on my little boy, it means that my boy is really charming ;p And honest, I won't really look into it, until my boy tells me that he feel disturbed.

I think that is a serious matter and I think you and the mother of that little girl should have a talk. I think that little girl think that love is just and easy thing that can be said and done just like that. You'll never know what she might done if she didn't get the real meaning of the things she is doing. Though I know she is just a kid that might have a little bit of confusion with your son. I think the best is to have a talk and always watch both the kids.

Well I would thing it to be so sweet if it wasnt so sad. That little girl is only 9 years old and already she is being so overbearing. Your son needs to stop talking to her at school and you need to stop having her over at your place. talk to her parents if necessary. The kids are too young to know what they are doing.

Oh dear that is way too young to start to have a boyfriend and I am wondering if her mother knows about the way this little girl is carrying on at such a very young age. If this was my little girl and I knew the way she was carrying on I would have to a have a very strict talk to her and tell her that she is way too young to be thinking that she could have a boyfriend and that she would have to wait until she was old enough and not torment your son like she is doing. Children should have much more time to be children not grown ups.

I would just leave it alone - they are just kids. I went through this with 2 of my daughters. The first one was on love with my oldest girl from the minute he saw her and it phased out then returned in their teens. They are both in their 40's now and still good friends and confidants - he is married and she is a widow. My youngest had this boy in school telling her he loved her. they were both 6 years old. They went all through school together. That too fizzled out - she is married now with 2 children and he too is married and lived just down the road from my home. Its just a kid thing. If you ignore it then it will be over before you know it.

With some difference in certain aspects, this actually happened to me and my 6 year old son. It was his birthday and it was customary in the school to have a kid celebrate his or her birthday in school. My wife and I went to the school with some food to share with all the kids and when it was time for me to distribute the cake, there was this small girl who approached me. She gestured that she wanted to whisper something to me. I thought that she wanted an extra piece of cake and I was ready to give it to her. But as I let her come near me, I was totally speechless after she whispered, "I have a crush on Arvin". It didn't register with me what she actually said, so I asked her "What?" She said again, a little louder this time, "I have a crush on Arvin!" Then I realized what she just said, and I was so surprised I simply stared at her and then said, "Ok". Later, I asked my son if he knew that this little girl has a crush on he and he said yes. It appeared that she had already told my son that she had a crush on him. I asked him if he also has a crush on her, but he said none. I was relieved though it actually wouldn't have mattered at all. I think at this age, kids just say whatever they want, without actually meaning it. They just mimic what they see and hear. Unfortunately, if what they mimic are things that may bring harm to them, then this behavior should be dealt with. In this case however, I would just let it as it is, without making too much of it.

She's still little though. That could be a part of their play. or maybe they have been so exposed to these kind of sensitive ideas even though they're young.