Wow!!

I have actually belonged to this site for about 10 years and met him by accident. I was only going into the instant messenger so that my profile would once again come to the top of the list and it would get more hits. No one was messaging me, so I picked a name at random and started chatting. We instantly hit it off. In 10 years, this has never happened. I did meet one guy that I really thought I liked but within minutes, I discovered that he was actually married -- newly married in fact! And he had the nerve to say, " that isn't going to be a problem, is it?" Geez!! But I hear what you are saying. It will actually be very easy for me to take it slow as he doesn't live anywhere near me! Thanks for the advice and the response!

OH my I wonder if his new wife would have a problem with it :( I'm guessing yes, a big problem. This was really funny, several years back a lady who lived in the same town as me were on a singles site and this guy was doing copy/paste letters to all the women. He explained his wife was ill and she encouraged him to meet women because she didn't want him to be alone. We flipped a coin and I 'won/lost' and I made a date with him in a town half way between him and us. I didn't show up for the date but this friend and I sat in the parking lot watching and got his license plate number off his car when he left. LOL - she worked for the Department of Motor Vehicle and on Monday looked up his number, got his name and address. He had lied about where he lived and when we called information and called his wife. She was not fine with it and actually got the information about the singles site and signed up herself. Don't you know he was shocked when she messaged him on the site and had the information about our "date" the week before right down to what he was wearing and all. BUSTED!

That is TOO funny!! I really admire you for that! I wish I had done somthing similar but I just told him that there was NO WAY I was goning to do that to another woman and that was that. You are truly and inspiration!

LOL! Caution is the byword even if you are meeting someone face-to-face! Anyone can be a creep or a weirdo and I have met my share! But this time feels really different. I hope I am not being duped. I am taking a leap of faith here. (Something extremely unusual for me). Thanks for the well wishes and I will be careful!

I plan to be careful. I have met a few flakes online and I know that some people seem to think that being on the computer gives you a license to lie. I didn't get that from him but I have been fooled before. I am being cautious!

I agree. Some people are on the internet soley because they CAN be anonymous. And ordinarily, I am VERY suspicious, but this time feel different. I intend to be cautious, but I am still elated!