Can cheaters change ?

I also believe to some extent that its true, because of my personal experience. I got a girl friend. In fact we became close after she had a breakup. Then in a relationship of 3 years, she cheated me twice. Both of the times, i caught up with her, she begged forgiveness. She was forgiven, but now i feel very confused, as to really accept her back her not. I love her a lot, but everytime she hurts me.

I think it depends entirely on the reason for cheating. If someone realizes that it was a mistake and both parties make a genuine effort to make the relationship work, then cheating can be forgiven and never happen again. Personal experience tells me that "Once a cheater, always a cheater" is not true. Of course there will always be those people who give a bad name to everyone else, who keep cheating over and over again. My opinion is that everyone deserves a second chance, but not a third. When a person cheats twice it means he/she did not learn from what happened the first time and it's time to kick them to the curb.

Yes, "once a cheater will always be a cheater".... this is base on my experience with my bestfriend before.... the first time she cheated on me, she was really sorry and I forgive her and forgot about the issue... the second time she did the same thing, it took a while but then again she was still forgiven.. but when the third time that same thing happened, I was already furiously angry and forgot evrything about her.... so yes, once a cheater will always be a cheater....

I think that if the person tries really hard and makes an effort to change then no they are not always a cheater. Now if they do not make an effort to change then no I would not take them back and I would consider them a cheater still until they can prove they can change and actually show a change.