Do You Have A Close Knit Family?
By Rozie37
@Rozie37 (15499)
Turkmenistan
April 23, 2007 10:51pm CST
My family is pretty close, but these days it is a struggle to keep it that way. Every one is so busy doing their own thing that if you don't all live in the same household your chances of seeing each other are few and far between.
Then there are some old spats, differences, and unforgiveness thrown in. I actually have a pretty big family, but everytime someone dies, the family scatters a little bit more. It would be nice to have a good old fashioned family reunion, that every one would attend and vow to remain civilized.
Some people don't see the importance of family until they are much older and some people never see the significance of it. I am one of those people who as always recognized and cherished family. How about you?
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@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
24 Apr 07
My mom and dad are still alive. Mom is in a nursing home in town and I do her laundry and her bidding. She is a self center witch. She does not care about my sisters or her mother. My sister are wonderful. I have an older sister who is 18 months older than I am she takes care of our grandmother (mom's mom) and works and has an eight year old. Then I have a twin sister she is 10 minutes older then I. We talk almost everyday on the phone she lives two states away. We both have one of those long distance phone plans that we can talk all we want for a flat rate. I love it.
Then there is dad. None of us girls are close to him. He is remarried and she is really bossy. At times his wife will not even let us talk to dad on the phone if he is busy. I cannot even talk to my dad we have nothing in common. I do not even know how to have a simple conversation with him. I consider my family to be my sisters, my children, husband, and grandmother. It was a little over a year ago that we were together. We have so much fun with our grandmother we laugh and tease.
I have learned that some family members should not be in the same room together so I do not want to even be around them.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
25 Apr 07
I know how you feel. Not to long ago, my nineteen year old niece and I got into it and she actually jumped up to try and fight me. The fight went on for about a year. It completely broke my heart because she was my first niece and had always been my favorite and she knew it.
The fight started over a very small thing. Her mom, my sister, had been experiening very bad back pain. I had called one night to check on her and I guess my niece was about to use the phone. She tried to hurry and answer my questions, but I was really worried about my sister, so I asked her if I could talk to her.
She said that she was in to much pain to come to the phone. I wanted her to take the phone to her. When I tried to inquire futher, she hung up on me. I was both hurt and angry. She had been this type of child all her life and I had kind of tiptoed around her, but after she turned eighteen, i felt like I shouldn't have to do it any longer. I called my sisters house back and she kept hanging up on me.
By the time I got through to the answering machine, I was so upset that I literally cussed her out on the machine. Big, big mistake, during this time, she was pregnant with my first great-nephew. With us fighting back and forth, I missed out on her baby shower, being there for the birth and I didn't see him for a long time.
Thank God, I didn't miss his first birthday, I had a blast. I said all of that to say this, sometimes, we have to make that effort if we want the relationship to grow stronger. I was willing to go the extra mile to get a relationship with my niece. Although, it may never be the same again, we have something.
I have lost to many people in my family to cancer, to allow a fight to drag on for years and years. If a problem in my family is dragging on for years and years, it is not because I am not doing everything to make it right with them. My family is everything to me and I love them. So I am willing to do what it takes to make things right. If it is worth it to you, never give up.
@sudeshna22 (390)
• India
24 Apr 07
In our modern life style, everyone is engage with one's own work. So some times even living in one family, they become separated. I think it is the outcome of our civilization, our spedy life. Day by day even people are getting more selfish that they are unwilling to live together in a large family. Nobody is ready to adjust, so families are breasking.
People who are separated due to busy work life, a family reunion can make them together.
In my case, I live in a family with my parents, brothers, grandparents. so I understand that living within a family is living in care and support.
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@CaroleeKaufold (1853)
• United States
24 Apr 07
Yes, I do. we have 4 sons that live in 3 differnt states and we talk to them at least 3 or 4 times a week. we try to get together at least 4 times a year, by visitng the out of town sons. 2 live here in Florida and we see them 2 times a month.
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@haiku1018 (49)
• Philippines
24 Apr 07
I have a close family also and we always see to it that we gather during special occasions.I think hurts and disagreement are natural in a family.In my family there was a time of forgiving.Though there were times that differences cannot be patch up immediately but we never stop in reaching out. Eventually time heals the wounds and we are back.Forgiving is a big factor to keep a family
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