"You're Fat!" said your boyfriend.

That's quite mean. A friend of mine, who happens to be a guy doesn't want her girlfriend to go on a diet because his girl might get sick. And he tells her she's sexy always. I wish to have a boyfriend like that, don't you?

Hi galatea! If my boyfriend said that to me... i'd say thank you, with a smile. You should not kill yourself to please other people with your appearance. COntinue your exercise and diet and eventually everything will pay off. Being lean and staying lean takes time and discipline. Not because your boyfriend says your fat you really are fat... Another thign i can say is re-think your wardrobe.. Wear something flattering for you that way you can strut your assets and not sulk on what you don't have at the moment. Accepting yourself with who and what size you are is the start of really trimming down those unwanted numbers on the scale. :) Goodluck.

That was not a very nice thing for him to say. You should try not to let it get to you, although I am sure that is not easy to do. I do not think he meant for it to come out that way, but sometimes people do not think things through before they say them. It might help to tell him how it made you feel. Maybe at least he might think about it before saying something like that again. In any case, do not let it tear down your self-confidence. Keep up with what you are doing towards reaching your goals, and in time you will reach them. If he wants you to be healthy, then he should not want your weight loss to be rapid, so just keep it at it slow and steady and you will get the results you both want.

In my part, it would not matter if my partner is fat or thin. As long as he is healthy I would be more happy. Do not deprive your self for someone who wanted you to be someone else. If that person really loves you, he would accept you for who and what you are. But still, you can have your proper diet. Goodluck!

That's bad, you need to tell him that it hurts your feeling when he call you tah. He should be sensitive on commenting about appearance as most people get hurt about it. My wife also, who is thin, get irritated when ever somebody commented on her appearance. It's just normal to feel that way.

Screw him girl..... you are a beautiful person from the inside out..... sounds like you are working your but off and eating right...keep up the good work...and dump his but...he'll regret it when you walk into a room all slim, tone, and sexy....the only weight you need to lose right now is his negative but....bet that will make you feel 110% better.....keep up the good work and don't give up

No offence, but I would tell him to stick it and if he doesn't love you for who you are then tell him to bugger off. Thats a mean thing to say to you and I wouldn't tolerate it if it was me. I hope your not going to do double workouts and eat less just because he says your fat? You should be losing the weight because YOU want to and not to please him!

hi galatea i have read few of your responses so i know you really love your guy very much and on the other hand you are even trying to loose weight!! i agree he told you the truth that is good but girl he should even understand and appreciate what you are doing even though you are not much sucessfull in loosing weight he should be happy that you are trying just to please... no doubt you love him but if you are thinking of a long term relation then you sit and think once again... will you always be able to take such attitude in life??? if i was at your place i would have atleast made him realise how it hurts!! and you dont give up keep trying hard work always pays!!! and a tip: include soya beans in your diet but consult your doc/dietion before. it works!!!

I think you need to drop the boy! If he's concerned about your weight because of your looks, he isn't worth it. If it's for your health, then from what you've described, he's overzealous. He needs to take the log out of his own eye, etc., and consider your feelings! Good luck! Also, I'm female and straight, but from your pic it looks like you have a lovely smile, so I doubt you have anything to worry about. Just one girl helping out another. :)

Can I ask if your fella is perfect? because if he had said that to me I would have pointed out all of his bad points and said but don't worry about it because at least I love you!

What your boyfriend said is just mean. do you tell him things that are wrong with him? not everyone is perfect. are you happy with your body? your opinion is the only one that should count. fat, skinny,tall, thin....everyone is different, he should value you the way you are. too many people gain an eatting disorder to please someone else. your boyfriend might or might not always be there, but you're the one that has to live out the rest of your life with yourself. dont let someone elses opinion get you so upset. I'm sure there are other great things about yourself that you like. is he with you only because of your body? did he say this because he is worried about how you look or is he worried about your health? there's a big difference in the two.

One of my daughters is nearly the same height and weight as you are. That is NOT fat! She is perfectly beautiful with a curvy figure and I bet you are too. Men that want ultra skinny women are not concerned about the woman's "health." For Heaven's sake, you wouldn't even be in the "fat" category on a stupid BMI test and those things are ridiculously inaccurate, making everyone seem heavier than they really are. Even if you were overweight, so what? If he doesn't accept you the way you are he's not going to cherish you the way he should not matter how skinny you get. Dust off your self-esteem sweetie, and tell that boyfriend of yours to stop being so shallow. I'm sure plenty of men would find you adorable if he doesn't appreciate what he has.

He should have said it in a nicer way. Of course he mean't well, but when a comment like that is made from your boyfriend, it hurts like hell. You want to be pretty, not for anyone else, but from him. So im sorry your feeling so low, your gorgeous dont think any different. He has diarhea of the mouth lol (like my boyfriend) he means well but the what he says come out all wrong. If you want, maybe you should tell him it hurt your feelings, then move on.

nice! but this is my story reverse to you! i have girlfriend before when im was in college days... so one day he told me he want me to gained weight, because im too slim.. so i eat alot of foods but still it didnt work... i want to gained weight!

Let that motivate you for weight loss and not to get you down! That was very rude for him to say and let him know it hurt you. I looked at your pictures on your profile and I don't think you are fat at all! you are a very pretty girl. Do what makes you happy and lose weight for yourself not for a boyfriend

I looked at the pics in your profile and there is absolutely nothing wrong with the way you look - you're very pretty and you certainly don't have a weight problem. Men can be so insensitive sometimes - they just open their mouths without engaging their brains first! He probably didn't really mean it to sound the way it did. I will tell you though that one thing I have learned as I got older is that your confidence and self-esteem should never be dependent on the opinions of anyone else - no matter who they are. That's a more important issue to focus on than losing weight.

You know men can be insensitive at times. And the funny thing is they don't admit that they're insensitive but saying that women are too sensitive and emotional instead. Does he know that you've been working on losing weight or getting fit? It's probably just to motivate you more. Last night my husband told me that my leg's hair are getting too thick and asked me to shave jokingly. Of course I know it's half meant. I've not been shaving because I just stay home lately after I resigned from work so I thought it was unecessary. Anyway, I was hurt a little bit, I felt ugly and unattractive all of sudden, but I've gotten over the feeling because I know he just wants me to look good. Don't always take what your boyfriend says in a wrong way. Like I said they could be insensitive at times.

Hey hun, if my guy said that to me I would say, "Thanks for your comments and close the door on your way out" The nerve of the guy, I bet he's no hunk. Seriously don't let his comments upset you,

Oh dEAR IT ALWAYS TAKES THE SO CALLED NEAREST AND DEAREST TO MAKE US FEEL LIKE TRASH EH? wELL NEXT TIME LOL, TELL HIM HIS NOSE IS TOO BIG OR SOMETHING, SEE WHAT HE FEELS. DON'T TAKE IT TO HEART. YOU ARE TRYING YOUR BEST, WEIGHT IS A VERY SENSITIVE ISSUE. WHEN MY HAIR NEEDS DYING MY HUBBY KINDA GIVES ME A HINT. IN THE BEGINNING IT USED TO REALLY OFFEND ME, BUT NOW I TAKE IT AS A COMPLIMENT THAT HE IS LOOKING OUT FOR ME. If he mentions it again just take it shrugging your shoulders saying, well that's what I am doing, unless you haven't noticed. Take care and don't let any one get you down, I bet he isn't perfect.

normally i'd give a longer answer but in this case i'll keep it short and sweet. tell him in the nicest way to shove off.