do you agree with arranged marriages?
By hazeru3
@hazeru3 (136)
United States
19 responses
@ssh123 (31073)
• India
21 Oct 06
I like arranged marriages and latest trend is arranged love marriage. Boy and girl love each other and they decide to marry. They inform the parents and the parents of both parties meet and decide about the marriage. A lots of such marriages are taking place now a days in India. After all parents should have a say in the marriage of their children and here that is satisfied.
@achilles7 (1276)
• India
21 Oct 06
mine was an arranged marriage. Now it is arranged love marriage.
@nickel1191 (2790)
• India
21 Oct 06
one can be happy in a marriage regardless of it being arranged or love......all it takes is some effort on their part to share , help and make it a success.
@magikrose (5429)
• United States
24 Oct 06
I believe in getting married for love. When my children decide to get married yes I would tell them my feelings on there chosen mate, but I would leave the final decision to them. After all they are the ones who have to live together and work together. Marrage takes alot of work. Sometimes it works well and others it dosnt. We all have to make mistakes in order to learn from them. Marrage is a quest we choose to take as adults and we need to learn as we go. I have learned many things in my 6yrs of marrage to my husband and I wouldent change them.
Let your kids make the final decision. Yes voice your opnion but let them make up there own minds. They are adults let them act like adults.
@sirensanssmile (3764)
• Netherlands
24 Oct 06
I do not personally agree with arranged marriages. I am sure that it works out well and is necessary for others but personally I wouldn't do it. My parents considered this for me as I am 27 and not married. They started to think of this when I was 25 bu I told them that they could mind their own business. Some of the guys they were trying to introduce me to left me wondering what their problem is. Yikes.
@maya_n_bennett (4687)
• United States
21 Oct 06
I dont really care for arrnged marriage. It my life and I dont think I can have people choosing my partner for life. Even my parents try to, my answer will be no. My marriage to my husband is from meeting through friends and date and fall in love. I would never push my idea of who they need to marry with for my children.
@hazeru3 (136)
• United States
21 Oct 06
:) I married someone that my parents did not want me to, we had known each other our whole lives and i do have to say our hardest tribulations have come from them........all in all weve made it 6 yrs so far:) still friends still in love and still happy. and getting happier since my parents r finally coming around
@supercool (169)
• India
21 Oct 06
man... if you cant find a gal who loves ya..... you have to go for arranged marrige onlyyyy
@cuddlebug79705 (2003)
• United States
21 Oct 06
No, I don't agree. Marriage is a lifetime commitment that should be based on love and friendship.
@all_n_one (2003)
• United States
21 Oct 06
A arranged marriage is ok i guess for some cultures depends on how you were rasied i guess. I was brought up in america and that doesn't really go on here and am glad it doesn't. I just feel you should be able to choose who you wanna be with.
@hazeru3 (136)
• United States
21 Oct 06
yes good ole america "home of the free" while i'm happy my parents didnt arange my marriage i do think that their imput should matter....i listened to my parents and felt i was making the right decision for me....I was right, but i feel i should have went about things differently
@AprilNicole1983 (564)
• United States
21 Oct 06
I am against arranged marriages. I think a person should be able to choose who they want to marry. I don't think I would be happy in an arranged marriage and I would not make my kids go through it either.
@LizWoodward (189)
• United States
25 Nov 06
I do not know much about arranged marriages, but I shudder to think of what the hypothetical person my parents would pick for me if my marriage were arranged. I know that it works for a lot of people...and I am glad for them. I do not think that in my culture my children would agree to an arranged marriage. As some people have mentioned an arranged love marriage sounds more my style.
@claudia413 (4280)
• United States
25 Oct 06
I don't believe in arranged marriages. I do believe in discussing marriage plans with your parents, but not letting them decide if you can marry that person or not (I'm assuming no minors involved). I never would have wanted to arrange marriages for my kids...gee whiz, they might blame me if it ended in divorce. If it works for anyone else, that's fine. Just my opinion.
