Would you date your friends ex?

Hi Marie, hope all is well. I too have the opinion that dating a friends ex will only get you into trouble or it would haunt you forever. I am married now, but when I was single I never went out with a friends ex even if they said they were over him. Sometimes a woman can think she is over a guy and not really be and when she sees them together freaks out then boom a friendhip is lost because of it. I just played it safe and avoided the situation alltogether!

No way. from my experience there is always some kind of feeling when the relationship story has finished. he has got over her, she did get over him, she didn't get over him, but he got over her, she thought she got over him but when she saw him with you after she told you that it is alright because it was such a long time ago and she is already married with 10 children, but when she saw him with you, she realized that she still feels for him, and that is way she is suddenly not answering your phone calls, and he suddenly realizes that he did not know that she is still having feelings for him and it changes the whole situation now, because he realized he too wants her, and he does not care that she is married, oops they slept together, her husband found out, and moved out, and yes dear it was because of you, you should never have dated her x, it is because of you that her life has been destroyed. Lol. and that is what i call. SPAGETTI BOLONEZ. a new definition that indicates that we all are in the same little pond, switching places with each other. Lol. No. i would never do that, i know maybe i 'painted' an extreme scenery, but there is always trouble when you date the x of one of your friends, and if not now, there will be in the future. I would never do that to my friend. It is off limit. and i also could not face her face when i meet her, and it also disturbs me, that this men has been intimate with one of my friends. so NO.

~ Ouch ~ I actually did this before I learned my lesson not to, when I was in my mid-20's my very best girlfriend broke up from her boyfriend, after about 4 months of them being broke up I ran into HIM at a bar, we hit it off, of course we had known each other for awhile just never hung out without her, well needless to say we slept together and then started sneaking around seeing each other, it was a very passionate relationship and as fast as it started it ended, but it ended with us staying as friends. Several years later my friend found out about it and was furious with me for doing it, I felt her pain and understood how she felt, I felt horrible. I would never do it again.

I was going to say absolutely no to this but then I remembered! My ex husband used to date a friend of mine from school. But by the time I started dating him, she and I had fallen out over something she did to another friend and she had also emigrated to the USA. I never ever heard from her or anything about her again but wish I'd listened to her about him as I wasted 14 precious years of my life on him. She did always say that he was too much into his family but I thought it was his age plus they didn't have a long relationship, literally a couple of months and she was 17 and he was 20 at the time. Since then I have never considered going anywhere near any of my friends' exes regardless of whether or not my friends have happily moved on to someone else or have got married or left the country :)

I did this...once. It was back in junior high. Though I don't think it could actually be called dating, but more of a school thing, as my ex-boyfriend and I were only together during school time. Before my ex and I got together, my friend (from the same school) had been dating him. The three of us hung out together almost everyday during lunchtime. One day my friend broke up with her boyfriend, though at that time I didn't know why. He and I still hung out and the ENTIRE school thought that we were a couple as we were always together (somehow we had every single class at the same time, though only one of the classes we had together). I told people no, that we weren't. One day, he even asked me if we were going together. I told him no, he asked why not? I didn't have a reason, and I didn't even think of my friend (his ex) as being a reason not to date him. So we ended up "going study". After that everyone in the school wanted to see us kiss, as we hadn't done so. This freaked me out, not only because I had never kissed a guy before, but because I had seen my friend and him kiss when they were together and I didn't want any "sloppy seconds". We ended up breaking up a few days later (not due to the no kissing thing LOL). I never again dated a friend's ex. Though I do think it's possible where the friend's ex boyfriend/girlfriend may hit it off better with the friend then they did with their ex. But most likely you'd lose a friend in the process...

That's really, really low! Geesh, like there aren't enough guys/gals in the sea that u got after ur friends ex?! Plus i don't think these things that are kind of naughty ever work out. I think they are just exciting, forbidden fruit things. Go ahead if u don't value your friendship and want to be a real snake!

there's no such rule in my circle of friends. but i never dated or even thought of dating any of my friends' ex. as for me, i look at it as a sign of respect to my friends. even if they are totally over the person, i still am not up to dating their exes. happy myLotting!

I have not been in that situation, nor would I want too. If I found that I was attracted to my friends ex, I would talk it out before preceeding with a relationship.

There are so many reasons not to date the ex of one of your friends. For one, think of all the times you would listen to your friend complain about her partner and you would agree about his/her actions and swear that you would never be with someone who had such character. Then you show up with this guy. Uh, loser.

LOL, marie, I don't have too many exes for my friends to choose from. Fortunately, it never happened to me nor will I ever dare to date my friend's ex-boyfriend. In case this happened, I will have a talk with my friend first. She might said that she has no feelings for her EX, but I still prefer to have the air clear out before taking chances. Its a show of respect as well as taking into consideration what my friend's feelings will be.

I remembered once one of my friend had a crushed on cute guy that we've both known. She definitely crazy about him and while me on the other hand has no feeling for him except just being friends. One night, she bluntly told him about her feeling. Surprisingly, he said no to her and to my surpised that guy said she liked me instead. Gosh...as much as I'm flattered and surprised at the same time, I said thank you and no to him. But up till now...my friend still mad at me because the guy she crushed on liked me...what would happen if I said yes (not that I would) ??? I'm sure she will more furious and haunt me and gosh...you'll never know what's on jealous woman's (friend's) mind... So my answer still "NO"....

Hello,marie2473.I did not have this experience before,but i think there is no problem in doing so,as they are your friend's ex, that mean everything was passed,they were not together anymore,so I do not see any problem in dating your friends; ex.

No, I don't think it is a good idea , you know , you can love our friends ex, but you know , love is love , do pay any action, you know , it will hurt your family ,included your wife/husband and your child. just keep it in your monery , you can share with you wife or husband, but never do something foolish. that my opoint.

I actually am not comfortable with the situation I guess if I would be dating my friends EX. I do respect my friend and no matter how she totally get over with that person, I will never ever date that person for my friends sake. it's kinda awkawrd you know. I cannot get into the idea honestly. Things will for sure be different if that happens. I love my friends so I'll never do something stupid to break our friendship most especially if it's only for a boy! ;) LOL!