Who Should Ask Who Out?
@warezrepublic (63)
Philippines
April 24, 2007 10:11am CST
I've debated this a lot and still not satisfied. Who should be the one to ask their partner out, the guy or girl.
Guy Prospective:Traditionally the guy ask out the girl. This goes way back whether its the guy is the leader, chivalry, or it will make the girl look desperate. A couple should only get together if the guy ask the girl out
Girl Prospective:It only makes since for the girl to make the move because she truly decides what goes on. Often its hard for a guy to read the signs of a girl because certain behaviors from the girl.
Both:Shouldn't be a certain preference. If you are interested in someone just go for it.
Personal Note: I hate when girls get made when a guy doesn't ask them out, being the ones who believe in option (Guy Prospective), because guys can get just as timid as girls, and girls can look intimidating sometimes when trying to attract a guy. Just a personal note.
Discuss Please
2 responses
@camar_lyn (1028)
• Singapore
24 Apr 07
I personally think that there is nothing wrong with a girl asking a guy out. When i just got to know my husband, it was me who made the first move. I called him and asked him out. Then again, i'm not a traditional girl. But if you are looking for a traditional girl who asks you out, then probably that might not happen. I might be wrong as well :)
I grew up with men around me. We had a family house and i had 7 uncles. I was the only niece as i was the first. So i'm basically very comfy with guys and i can sort of know how a guy would react.
True enough, my then boyfriend and current husband, was pleasantly surprised when he got the dinner invitation. I insisted that i pay for the dinner since i asked him out, but he said he's the guy so he should pay. We end up splitting our bill. That i think was cute!
Go with your guts. Have confidence. don't wait for the right moment. don't wait for the girl to ask. If you like her, go for it! - Lyn
@cyclonewriter (2168)
• United States
24 Apr 07
I think that if you are interested in someone, you should make the move to ask that perosn out. It does not matter if you are a guy or a girl. Why sit back and miss an opportunity to get together with that special person because you did not make the first move. It is all about taking then risk. Girls and guys are equally afraid of rejection, so in my opinion it should not be left up to just the guys to make the first move.
