Would you mind getting divorce?

When I was reading the title ,the exact thought that you discussed crossed my mind.Who would 'Think' of getting a divorce untill the situation arises.Who can predict it? But at least we can share how we feel about divorce.I think when in a relationship ,it won't be superficial for me.So,if things don't work I'd try all I can to compromise and make it work,but if a relationship reaches a point of no return and we hurt each other so much that we can't heal the hurt or start over again,then divorce is a means to give yourself a new start .It will still hurt very much ,but at least over the time the pain will subside and perhaps we will find happiness again.Oh but I hope I never have to consider it,lol.

here in the philippines, marriage is still highly taken cared of by families. as a filipino as well, if i get into marriage, i prefer and hope that i will not get into the situation of getting divorce one day. i wanna have a complete intact family until the day i die. but ofcourse, i respect people who got into divorce. if it's their preference to do so, then be it. i respect them for their reasons of getting into it. there are some reasons which are really taken into consideration. just that i wish, i won't find myself being divorced one day. happy myLotting!

I would try all that I could to prevent a divorce from happening but in the end if there is no other solution I would get a divorce If nothing can be worked out and nothing is changes you kinda have to I want to be happy in my marriage not miserable and just learn how to live with it

i think infidelity or violence are the only excuses or justifications for divorce in my opinion. Marriage is a game of compromise by which two people spend a life-time trying to out do each other. Divorce is the ultimate surender, something i would not contemplate unless he met someone else. Its easy for me, I have a good, tollerant man. Oh how he has neaded to be, in my wild youth i used to lead him a merry dance but we stayed together. blessed be

For sure, about half of marriages end up in divorce. I have to ask myself the reason for that. Is it becasue so many make poor choices when it comes to picking a partner? Or does it have something to do with people changing during a marriage? My conclusion is that many people simply make poor choices when it comes to partners. They expect to much from the beginning and don't see the signs that their partner might not be the best one for them. But they get married anyway hoping it all works out. I still believe, despite 2 divorces, that I can attract the best person for me in a relationship. It is a matter of knowing what you want most in a partner. And also knowing what you will not be able to accept. Discovering these qualifications ahead of time is important. It is not so much that you are looking for the perfect person, just the person most compatible with your beliefs and ideals. Once you find that person, you do everything to make the relationship all that you desire.

Sometimes divorce is the only answer. Nobody ever expects that it will happen, but it does. I was married to a soldier during Desert Storm and it lasted only a couple of years. I have now been married to the most wonderful man in the world for 10 glorious years. I thought than divorce was a bad thing and that you should stay in a marriage no matter what. I was wrong. Look what I would have missed out on. You have to make this decision yourself and for yourself.

I feel divorce is really the last or the ultimate resort.You can always be open-minded & have a free-frank discussion with your partner or even both the partners can meet a marriage counseller & mend their ways.If you have faith in God prayer helps a lot,so does +ve approach.List down all the things of common liking between you & your partner & both of you indulge in those activities or go for a long vacation with your partner.These things help a lot in building up a lovely relationship.Discuss with him in such a stress-free atmosphere of what went wrong.Keep an open mind so that both of you can adjust & be flexible.I too have differences with my wife,but we hammer it out by going for long walks or with surprise gifts or surprise dinners,movies,etc.Life is meant to unite,love & thus enjoy as long as we are here on this earth.Its also too short so make the best of it.Have you really tried all the options?Sit calmly & reflect.Are all the doors really closed?Pray to God for help if you have faith since PRAYERS DO WORK MIRACLES.In India the divorce rate is extremely low.Here every1 from the friends to in-laws pitch in to save a marriage.Also think about how it will affect the kids.I wish you best luck & may God bless you & help you.

i believe marriage is a sacred commitment. it is a lifetime commitment to you spouse, no matter what. its not something that u can just ignore once your in it. i know that in a relationship two people will always have arguments and problems that they will encounter as the days pass. u promise god to love the one your with no matter what it takes so i guess if someone plans to get married everyone of us should take it a hundred times if we are sure of it so that later no can be blame and no one will go into divorce. it made me sad knowing that there are many families who had broken due to some mistakes or problems that they encounter, if only they are always keep in there heart and mind what they are committed of for sure there will never be marriages that is broken.

When i was still a kid. I never imagine the word divorce/separation/annulment.Because i belong to a big,loving,happy family.Until i married and encounter a lot of differences with my xhusband.Now, we are separated for almost 4 years.But still not legally separated.We have 2 boys and its really hard to have a broken family.I still dont know what may happen next.And i dont want to say anything.Either i want or not to get annuled.

When two persons are coming together from different family background, different types of bringing ups, thoughts friend circle, environment, circumstances etc. etc., naturally difference of opinions will be there. Misunderstandings creep in. But ultimately it is how much we can adjust with each other, give way for the other and tolerance level, that matters. In the outside world and office, we adjust for so many people, our colleagues, boss etc. Why not adjust a bit to our life partner? Keep quiet when he/she is angry then slowly try to talk and put forth the facts before them. Give two or three chances for them to change as childhood habits are hard to die. In spite of this the person has not changed, then call it a day. After all you cannot be fooled for ever. Never allow other person even if he or she is your spouse, to take advantage of you. You have your own self respect and a life to lead.

I am not married but I strongly believe that rough times are bound to come in every marriage. But people have to be willing to sacrifice and give up their ego for the good of both and the relation. If these things are not cultivated by every person then the rate of divorce will go higher and higher everyday. So I strongly believe that I won't divorce - will never enter into a marriage which has high chances right from the beginning.

I will not divorce unless I really could not put up with my lover and I could not live with him for a while. I will be serious to marriage and I think no one want to divorce . if we really need to face it, we should confirm we already try our best to save it.

I really dont believe in divorce. because what god bind as one cannot be separate by any things in this world even if it is sword or other people. In my opinion all of problems can be settled down, it is only trials in your marriage that you have to face ant it will be much stonger than you thought.

I understand how most of the married couples we'ved heard ended up divorced, news from some famous movie stars, people whom we've known, unfortunately, it happens everywhere... Love, as being described in the bible is unconditional. Vows exchanged by two people in-love includes not only "for better" but also "for worst". Problem is, few couples have taken the latter seriously. Still, no one knows if the marriage will last. Some people say it's practical to end in divorce, yes it is a better option when either of the parties are being physically,mentally,and emotionally abused. But as much as possible, it would still be a better option to keep the marriage and do every possible ways to work it out. If I'm going to rate it-- out of a 100% chances, the probability of finding ways to resolve it should have been 99%, and 1% is doing nothing about it and end in divorce. In other words, I'm not totally favorable of the idea of getting divorce, unless the 99% ways to resolve it had already been done. To all of us who are planning to get married, may God be with us all.

My partner would say, "It is just a state of mind." Yeah, right. ha ha That comes from a man that has commitment issues. ha ha I was married once upon a time. And believe it or not, I am still with my ex-husband. ha ha Confusing, huh? Well, we were married and we both did not believe we would ever divorce. But, things happen and relationships drown...and we got a divorce. However, not long after setting the divorce in motion, I discovered I was pregnant. And once I was big pregnant, we decided to try at our relationship again. ha ha Well, going on 10 years after the divorce...we are still together. Mind getting divorced? Well, I guess not...we did. Now, the real question would be, Would you mind getting married? ha ha

This is a weird question to try to answer, especially considering how likely it is my husband will read my answer. But, honestly, there are some situations in which I would get a divorce. Abuse is an obvious one (not that I think my husband WOULD abuse me)... but there are other reasons I could see for it. If it got to the point where neither of us were happy in the relationship, I would rather divorce that continue making each other unhappy. Not only that, but there's my child to consider. Recent research says that children who grow up with parents in an unhappy marriage are even more prone to problems that children whose parents divorce. Living in such a stressful atmosphere, day after day, just isn't healthy for a child. So if I ever got to the point where I felt that my marital problems were affecting my child, I would definitely go for divorce.

I agree. If you have tried everything and you still can't make it work then dicorce is best. It is better than staying in a marriage that makes both of you miserable.

My first marriage made me unhappy for all the elven years, I was not prepared for the demanding lifestyle my ex expected of me. I was also treated badly by his family and friends, like a second rate human being. It was really sad and I ended up like a lifeless zombie. If I had stayed in that marriage it would have killed me I think, so divorce sometimes is the only option, not a desired one though, I did not divorce lightly.

Hi Augustta, I have been there and done that! Divorce is a very painful thing, but it was still the best thing for me to do, after being married for nearly 20 years, I have now re-married and this ones for keeps! Lol.

This is a very difficult problem to solve because even if you think the relationship is unrepariable, who is to say you are giving up to early? I believe you should do everything in your power to make it work unless you are in danger of physical harm. However, again, who determines when enough is enough? Not too many relationships end with both parties believing that time has actually come. My marriage is on the verge of ending but I refuse to give up at this point. Actually, I've decided that I will not be the one to end it. There are so many things that can be done and if you can atleast get to the point that both parties are atleast willing to compromise, then you can being to work out the issues. Compromise; however, is the first step. Divorce usually occurs, in my opinion, when both people are polarized and only their point view is the important one. If you are thinking of divorce, stick it out as long as you can unless you are being harmed.