I'll Take That Back

I really do not know what is right or wrong in that situation. I know what i would have done. IF i choose to buy my partner a present, i would never take it back, even if we seperated a day after. A present is a present. In the case that you told here i would never do what he did. You did not ask for the present, but your partner choose to give it to you. to deduct the money they paid for the computer from the rent or somthing. THis you do not do!!

I would never take back a gift. When I left my first marriage I left every thing to my ex husband as I wanted a fresh start. I think taking back a gift from a loved one is very petty. A gift is a gift and when it was given, it should have been given unconditionally, don't you agree Wolfie? How are you now any way? I hope you find some one that really values you and appreciates you. Even if it wasn't for Christmas or Birthday I think it was wrong of her to take the money for it. Sorry, but this is just my two cents, my personal opinion, I hope you don't mind.

When a relationship is over, I don't take back gifts, and I don't give back gifts either. That would be wrong in my opinion. The only thing that gets given back is engagement or wedding rings. Now if I had just bought someone something expensive and they break up with me a month later, and they knew they wanted to break up with me all that time but was just stringing me along until something better came along or until they felt confident enough, then I would expect that item back. In your situation I don't think it was right. He gave it as a gift... and it's wrong to take it back.

Hi Wolfie. To me a gift is a gift, that being said my ex husband thought he could buy my affection and silence, but his gifts always had price tags or rules to go with it, for instance if the gift were say a new house coat I would get a lecture on how it was never to be worn if I was doing some thing that might get it dirty, or if he ever saw it on the floor it would go into the garbage. When my kids were small, my daughter gave away my engagement ring, she had no idea about its value. My ex bought me a new set for Christmas and with it came the I don't want to see you wear these to work , I don't want to see them on you when do the dishes, etc, I said thank you very much and I never wore them ever, I gave them to my daughter in law when she and my son got engaged. I wanted to say that if any thing happened I would get the rings back but I didn't because I do believe once a gift is given I have no more to say about that item and if she throws them in the garbage that is OK.

Gifts given within the relationship should never be taken back by the giver. I believe what happens most of the time is that when a relationship ends, the one left behind usually would want to return the gifts given by the one who started the break up, just to get back at him somehow. This is also the same thing with friends. Whatever we give to our friends, even if we get into a fight or even parted ways, it's unethical to ask a friend to return something that was already heartily given. It's a very offending and hurtful act.

wolfie I must admit that this has never happened to me and I am a great believer that every relationship has its own dynamics and own set of rules! Having said that if this was a gift bought for you - without you asking for it then no - he should never have kept the money for it from you - in my opinion at any rate! xxx

Yes, I am guilty of this, but I didn't exactly take it back to the store. The story goes like this, I dated this guy and he bought me a very expensive and very ugly Ralph Lauren Coat (it looked more like a bathrobe), usually he was pretty good in buying my clothes, but this time he missed it completely, instead of risking taking it back to the store, which he always shopped in and might have the possibility of finding out, I sold it on eBay and when he asked where it was I just told him that it was so expensive I put it in cold storage, he never really questioned me after that and we broke up shortly thereafter so I feel my story was safe ... until now :)

An unsolicited gift is just that .. a gift .. given freely with no come back .. Unless you choose to give a present back to the giver they have no claim on it or the cost of it .. so it was wrong of the person to deduct money for a gift .. I dare say had you gone to a solicitor they would have got all the money for you ..

I had this guy that I broke up with not too long before Christmas. We had been dating a long time and he knew that I had a very expensive gift on hold for him that he had been wanting forever. A few weeks after we broke up, he had the audacity to ask if we would still be exchanging gifts at Christmas. He was like, I still have the ring I bought for you. I was like, "you have so got to get a life."

I think if you were given it as a gift it was yours to keep but i think she probably in her mind decided you didn't deserve it when you said the relationship was over. I personally think a gift is a gift and if you give a gift its theres!

Indeed I have. (except different) =) My wife wedding ring was bent in two places, very badly while still on her finger. (in fact it was cutting the blood off from it) So we hurried to get it removed, it was a cheap ring by no means and I was very annoyed. We think this happened while she was sleeping, although we're not certain but strongly doubt real rings do this. (especially expensive white gold rings) To cut it short, we had to go to another store to get the ring removed and then went back to jewellery store we got it and they happily offered to exchange the ring. (we wanted our money back with it still being within the period of our money back guarantee) nope.. we caused the damage and only an exchange was acceptable. although question regarding how a ring could do this a couple of week after it was bought, if the ring was real. Oh well we gave up and the ring which we got back after also started dinting. (not to badly though)I'm planning on replacing it soon. =) ~Joey P.s All avoid "beaverbrooks" awful for jewellery, I now only trust H M Samuel.

I never take my gifts back. If you got the computer as a gift then it's yours to keep. I think it was wrong.

I have heard some related experiences to yours, and somehow I think to myself that if am gonna be put to that situation, I wouldn't take back any gift I could have given to my partner when we decided to part ways. After all, he didn't ask for it, it was me who thought of buying him one. And taking those stuffs out would simply show that am pretty miserable for the break up and wanted to make him feel that he lost big time (material things) when we had to end everything.

I bought my ex an expensive snowboard, boots and bindings for Christmas, and found out 3 days before Christmas that he had been cheating on me with a coworker since early November. We fought back and forth for months, but when I finally succeeded in kicking him out, I kept the snowboard. Wish I'd kept the receipt to return it, but I didn't, so I sold it to a friend for $300 less than I paid for it.

I think once you give a gift away to whomever it is; it is there. .You should not expect them to give it back A gift is a gift and if they want to give it away that is their prerrogative. That someone you split up from asks for a gift that they gave back is wrong..if they gave it to you only..but say they bought it for both of you ..then they may have a case ..that is if it was both of you and you opt to keep it.. Circumstances come into play here; I believe.:)+

Gifts are given supposedly with no strings attached. It then becomes your property to do with as you please. It was very petty of your ex to take it back. My ex-husband did something similar. We had 4 kids. My washer stopped working. He inherited one from his mother and insisted I have it. I never used it, didn’t even install it. When we went to court for the finale hearing he told the judge he wanted it back. So I know how you feel about the computer. Gifts can become hated because of what they come to mean.

I think it is wrong as I would never dream of doing that once I have bought the Present it is for them if the Relationship ends that is my look out So I think your Partner was wrong there You did not ask for it so why should you pay for it because you ended the Relationship

thats quite an aweful hing to do. best u should rtun it to him and say ill get a new one. if he has one alrady, tell him to take it back as since he never asked u when he gave it to u, he shouldnt respond when u return it to him. rightio?

I can't say whats right or wrong for other people. For me though,when I broke up with the man I was living with for 3 and a half years, I let him take everything he wanted, and then took the rest. He ended up with the computer I bought for US. I suppose its not the same as if I had actually bought it for HIM. All I know, is that at that point it didn't even matter at all as long as it was over.

you not wrong, but whether your partner was really good to you, could be asked to be difficult and be happy together, knew that looking for the partner who could like us really very much. that suggestion from me. have a nice dream zeppelin from indonesia