Getting Married.. get ready to bear the brunt of your wife's anger.

OUCH!!! Did you have an arranged marriage? I've been married for over 25 years and have never held my husband responsible for all of my anger. Until recently, I have been able to fully support better than half of all the bills (we have no children, though). It's true that EACH partner needs to make compromises, but that's what being partners for life is all about. If a woman is treated as less than an equal she's bound to be resentful and angry with the person who is making her feel that way. Cultures can be so different, though, particularly where marriage is concerned. I can only speak from an American woman's point of view -- there are probably many American men who feel the same way you do. It's a pity, really. My husband and I are each other's strength and solace. I feel sorry for those whose marriages are so unbalanced and stressful. Sometimes, though, people just have unrealistic expectations about what marriage is like, and it can make them very bitter when they finally understand the reality of living with another person all the time.

I have been married for over twenty years and I have very few things to complain about. My husband loves and suports me in all ways as I love and support him. The first few years of our marriage we both worked full time jobs. We bought our first home together. I had my daughter I took off work for about a year. My husband was glad that I was with his child. Then I decided to go back to work. Again he supported me. We have had an up and down income because of companies down sizing and other problems but we made it through together. Marriage is not always a 50/50 deal. Some times it is 60/40 and 30/70. The thing is that you can adjust and work together to get through anything that life throughs at you. I am proud to say that I can see my marriage lasting forever and a day.

well, as for me, i will work to build up money along with my husband in anyway i can. i will not just sit down, take care of the kids and the house and do nothing about helping out financially. there are lots of ways alrady to earn extra cash aside. women these days are clever in looking for ways to earn some, too. well, life might no longer be a game... marriage is a serious stage in life. but one can still have fun with your spouse. just enjoy life and make fun of everything... even laugh at your own mistakes. hehe. happy myLotting sukumar!

If you have a good wife, it will be worth your effort to keep her happy. It really takes two people to make a good marriage.

I agree. Better be a responsible and loving husband or else the wife will nag you. But then again it's the husband's responsibility to take care of the family so welcome to the real world guys.

wow...its sad you have stero-typed marriage to be like that,to me no matter what culture it is if you married out of love then you still have plenty of ways to have fun with your husband,in actuality when i had my kids i asked my husband to stay home and take care of them for a few months while i worked(i was under contract with the company) and now we have reversed roles but even now i am working at home as a web designer and we still find time to go out on the weekends and have fun so marriage is not all like that just keep each other happy then there will be no reason for you or your wife to think of marriage like that, just compromise

are you serious?

I do believe that marriage is always a fifty-fifty proposition. The married pair can be described akinned business partners, where profits and losses will have to be shared always. Whatever there is in the marriage, this must be equally shared, not necessarily, in terms of equal computations as figures, but that both are well aware of what responsibilities are to be done or assumed and shared as musts, to keep the marriage going smoothly. If one partner does not come up with their expectations, both would have to accept that and a making up to compensate what cannot be done must be also be allowable. Stretches and allowances, with endurance and understanding should be great motives if not factors to make the marriage work out as good.