If your child is being molested by a family member, what do you do?

If I ever found out that someone in my family ever molested my child they will regret the day the were born. I would not only have them arrested but I would make sure that I tell anyone and everyone what kind of person they are. How any mother could something like that to happen to their child without doing a thing about it is sickening.

That is awful. I cannot believe the lady did nothing about her husband abusing the children and molesting them. She is as much to blame as the father of the children. That is sickening. I feel so sorry for those children and they should no longer be in that home. They will be scarred for life because of this. I have told my child also to tell me if something is wrong, no matter what. I tole her to not let anyone make her do things she does not want to do. I will get the authorities involved and put a stop to it one way or another. Children are not made to be abused and mistreated or molested. That man should be put away for a lonnnnnnggggg time.

I completely agree. If I found out someone in my family was molesting my child, I would have no mercy on them. I would prosecute to the fullest extent of the law and they would not ever be allowed to see me or my children again. I don't care who they are. I will not tolerate anyone hurting my child. My child is only 3 yr right now but as he grows up I hope to have the type of relationship with him where he feels comfortable talking to me about anything. Especially something as serious as this.

if you know this person you need to report it. It doesn't matter if the family will be mad at you or not. What matter sis to protect that little girl. get her out of that situation now. Tell the child authorities. At least you will have done your part to protect that child. if there is anyway possible get the child out of there as soon as possible.

If this is happening it needs to be turned into the authorities. You can usually call and make a complaint with them ever knowing who turned them in. This child needs to be removed from the home and the parents should be prosecuted. This child is going to need lots of love and therapy.

And what is stopping YOU from asking a few more questions to find out some NAMES to call the authorities in that town? For GOD SAKE WOMAN...get off your by-stander A## and do SOMETHING.!!!!!!!!!! How can you sleep at night!? Holy Cow!!!

I was one of those children. It was hell and I still have emotional problems today. I am 54 and still there are odors and things that trigger the memories and cause PTSD. I am getting ready to see another therapist. My sisters were abused also and they have never sought out help. I think I have done better because I sought help. When I was in grade school the teacher suspected it and took me to the nurse's office to talk about it. In those days they did not report suspected abuse. Today it is the law and if you suspect it then call the authorities. They can intervene! I have two grown daughters and when they were old enough to understand and they were preparing to go back to visit family where I grew up, I told them about the abuser. It is their uncle. My girls understood and kept distance between themselves and him. He has bad hygiene and is not the kind of person that anyone wants to associate with. I have confronted my abuser and he is in total denial. He refuses to admit to it and he has abused other children. My sisters and I both feel that he abused his children as well. In the case that you are talking about, the father and the mother are both guilty and can lose all rights to the children. It is sad that in today's society that this still runs rampant and people turn their heads and act as if it doesn't exist. Please!!!!! If you know of a case, REPORT IT!

That is horrible, the Mother should be put underneath the jail just as the molester should be buried underneath it. Sadly my daughter was molestered by a man I married when she was 8 years old, I filed charges against him and put my daughter and my family in therapy for many years. She is 27 years old now, but we still talk about it, it changed her life forever, and to think that someone would let that go on and know disgusts me.

If you know who the sister is and the daughter I would recommend calling to the authorities to help. Don't let it continue if you do know who they are. That lady and her sister for allowing it to continue are just as bad as the molester. They can stop it and don't. If I was in the situation of knowing a family member was doing that, first I'd be hard pressed not to kill them. You don't do that to a child. I would never allow it to continue. If I didn't kill them I would get the child and myself far away from the molester and go straight to the authorities. I'd have them locked up so fast they would think they were Linda Blair with how fast their head would spin around. I would make sure they were put away for as long as possible too. I cannot understand these people who stand by and don't do anything when they know what is going on. To me that is just as sickening as the ones who are doing the actual molestation. To stand by and do nothing is just wrong in my opinion.

Whew!! is he still human?? i mean how on earth any dad can molest his own kids?? and the mom??? how could she just let her hubby molest her kids? I mean.. no offense but i think the parents need treatment for what they did to their kids... thats the right thing you did to your kids.. always tell your kids that if anything happens to them or anyone hurt them they should tell you and please parents always believe your children... sometimes kids wont tell because we dont believe what they are telling us... please anyone who knows somebody who abuse their own kids or other kids report it directly to the authorities... God bless everyone...

If I knew someone molests a child, I won't think twice in reporting them myself. Adults are suppose to make this world a safe place for kids to live in. Kids that are not protected and exploited tend to grow up with violence in their minds and coldness in their hearts because of what happened to them and would probably do if not the same, even wirst towards the next generation.

First of all, I would make sure that this child was removed from the family member in question. If I knew of actual molestation going on, I would not hesitate at all. I would make sure to contact the appropriate authorities such as police and social services, and I would not let go of the case until all parties involved had faced the appropriate charges. Most importantly, I would not just hand over the case, I would make sure that the child would be taken care of in any way possible, and I would not leave this child. I think that if the mother is aware of the abuse, then she should be prosecuted as well. I have no doubts about it. Also, this mother cannot protect her child against known and obvious dangers such as molestation she is actually aware of, then she is not fit to be a mother, and no child should be left in her custody. If she did not know about the abuse, or if she acted as soon as she had been made aware or become suspicious of the abuse, then it is a different case.

Molestattion is totally shameful and unacceptable. It should never be allowed in any families. Confront the molestor. Warn him privately first , if he continues warn him in front of all the family members. If he still continues get the help of the local priest. The final step should be reporting him to the police. A child is like an angel. This things will destroy her/him mentally from which he/she may never recover.

I would turn them in in a heartbeat, and I think you need to do the same thing. You have to let the authorities know what's going on so this child can be saved. In my opinion if you know and don't do anything you are just as bad as the molestor. You're allowing it to happen, and I think that mother should be charged too.

that is so disgusting and shocking. i would not hesitate to turn over a family member-molester to the authorities and i'll do all i can to have him jailed, much better if it's reclusion perpetua.

This shouldnt be allowed and strictly checked whoever he is. Make it open if occured and bring the culprit to book without any hesitation .If you need the help of law than seek it and disclose it to your dearest one. Dont let the culprit unpunished please.

I agree with you completely . I don't understand how someone would not report this right away if they knew what was going on , for the child I can understand as there would be fear but for an adult we can't allow this to happen to children . Adults who don't report what is going on are just as mad as the molestor himself as they are allowing the situation to continue and a child continues to be hurt and lives in fear . I would pray my children would tell me as I have told them I don't care who it is that would hurt them , I would do anything to protect my children from this kind of pain in anyway as this is just sick .

Yes report it don't just forget and not help the girl!! The mother is at fault too for allowing this to continue.It's too bad her own mother didn't protect her hopefully she has no other children. They both need to be shot, the mother and the father!

I was just wondering why this lady hasn't told anyone? This is a disgusting thing & the mother should be ashamed of herself for letting it go on, especially with her knowledge. Why hasn't the mother or the sister gone to the police? I think it's just the worst thing ever, especially with the mother knowing & still allowing it to continue. You'd think a mother would love her kids enough to not let things like this happen, maybe she's scared of losing her husband but i think the children are far more important than an abusive partner - as the kids are so young & so innocent & this father should know better. I hope something gets done about it soon, maybe the lady you spoke to needs to be the one to stand up & do something about it, especially if the mother refuses to do anything herself.

Hi Justme. Ghee what a shock of a thing to read. How did you feel and what was your response to hearing such a terrible thing. That poor defenceless child needs your help, well anyone for that matter. This kind of thing really Pees me off "Big Time". No offence but i got to say this, Now you know about this horror, for the safety of the child you must to take action, and the sooner the better, If you dont say or do your part since you know about too, your going to be as much to blame as the ignorant lady for telling you first and not the authorities and her dopey sister who has known about it all along. Man this shyt pees me right off... I really hope something is done about it. A.S.A.P Love goes out to that child...