Punising our children

I also think spanking is not a bad thing. I don't think you should beat your kid. There is a difference. My daughter was raised with both spankings as well as punishment. She is a very stuborn child and what worked one time never worked the second. I had to keep changing things up. My daughter is now sixteen and a good kid. She has good grades, doesn't smoke, doesn't drink and she is very open with what is going on in her life. I like the communication being open and up front.

Well ok I have avery differemt opinion about this so here goes. Think about this if someone comes upto you and belts you one in the head what are you going to do? your going to hit them back right? Children do what their parents do. A child is more likely to bite their nails or smoke because their parents did. I have never had to physically discipline my child because I started when he was very little to talk to him and it has always worked. If he picks up on how older kids talk when their parents are around I talk to him about 3 times about it and it stops. Most of the time kids do not want their parents to be unhappy so when you tell your children (when they can understand it of course) that something they did made you upset, mad or tell them it will make you cry they usually do not want to disappoint you so they stop. My son is almost 5 and it has always worked. BUT YOU have to be consistant with it. A child that has been able to get away with doing bad things is going to take longer to get into this type of routine so it is always best to start positive discipline young and stick with it otherwise your gonna end up with a problem child.

I think that spanking, within reason, works. We were smacked on the butt when we were younger and my sister and I both turned out good, with a good sense of right and wrong. I smacked my kids butts when they were little and they learned pretty good right away what not to do, and now i get compliments on how well behaved they are. we don't even have to smack them any more. I think the hard thing is kids are too smart now, they'll threaten to turn you in for abuse for just smacking them on the butt, which makes it hard to keep them inline if they don't fear getting into trouble.