Single Moms!

I had a similar experience, but in my case I was the child. My mother separated from my father when I was 7 months old. And when I was around 11 years old, my mother is getting friendly with this guy who was also annulled from his wife. All hell broke loose during that time. I made my mother's life miserable and wouldn't even talk to the guy. I was so insecure but I didn't voice it out. As I got older, I realized that my mother wanted companionship too. I will not remain young. I will graduate from college, get a job, get married and move away from home. And what about my mother? So, I encouraged my mother to nurture the relationship even for the sake of companionship because I just realized that my mother is not getting any younger and she is a woman. What I suggest is that, talk to your son, explain to him and ease away his insecurity. His feelings probably is that if you will marry the guy you are going out and will be having children, then you might love his less, etc. Assurance would work wonders. For myself, I just figure it out for myself because my mother would always do everything for me, even if not seeing the guy she is with until now and whom I fondly view and respected for the way he cares for my mother.

I am not a single mom but my twinsister is the single mom. You have the same issue regarding dating and that her son is so sensitive when it comes to that. He gets jealous if his mom dates with somebody. My sister and I always makes him understand by just simply giving him a serious conversation mixed with adult situation.. We know it is hard for him but little by little he was able to understand. He was able to understand why his mom needs to date. But we make sure he is given the attention he needs, i think that is what the kids are most scared of.

First I would like to say that you are very courageous raising a child on your own . I have five children but am married and can't imagine how hard it must be to be a single mom . I give credit to all the woman out there who are able to do this every day :) How old is your son ? If he is still young then he will probably adjust . If he is older then I would explain to him how you love him with all your heart and nobody will ever take that away from him as this is probably his biggest fear . He has always had you in his life and some one new would be threatening to him but if you can find a way to make him understand that what he means to you will never change then maybe he wouldn't have the same fears . You could try asking him what it is he is afraid of . Even as adults we fear what we don't understand and we fear change as this can be scray when you don't know the outcome so it is no wonder a child would be more protective but in this case you do need to think about you . One day your son will grow and move on and it would be nice to think that you will have someone in whom you can rely on and someone who will be there to comfort you . You have the right to be happy too and have the right to a good life . My mom and dad divorced when I was in my late teens and I can remember when my mom wanted to get with someone new . Different family members thought this was horrible that she would go off with some guy yet I can remember my sister and I telling her to go and that all we wanted was for her to be happy and if this is what she thought would make her happy then this was all we wanted . The difference for us was that we were older and understood that things were not going to chance about the way she felt about us if she got with someone else . If you don't take the chance to be happy and go after what you want as you get older you will realize all that you could have had . You can't allow your child to make this decision for you , he will adjust . This may take some time but with love and patience he will understand eventually . Best of luck in this decision but remember to think about you sometimes , I can imagine as a single parent that this is harder to do as it is you that everything lands back on but you deserve to be happy also :)

Are you in a steady relationship ? If so have your date come over and interact with your son . Maybe you could serve dinner and all play a board game afterwards .

Tell him that its not up to him who you date or who you are with, throw him out he can get his own food and clothing.. he'll leave and come back a few hours later. remeber you are the pack leader