love without pain is impossible, right?

I don't think its because people are cowards that they don't want to get into another relationship after they have just come out of a bad one or one that didn't work. Every person handles life experiences differently and some may tough it out, others my dwell on it and others may not look at another one for years or even want to go down that road again. Good on you for facing the pain and dealing with it and wanting to move on. Some people take a little longer and some may never recover from it. I on the other hand had lots of support in terms of close friends and they helped me get through my last relationship of 7 years before I met my husband. It took a while to get over it but eventually I did and moved on with my life. I concentrated on me first and then everyone else fell into second place.

i'm not a coward person but when I met my boyfriend now, I learn how to be strong,, I know how to face all the problems in life and in relationship.. But when it comes to relationship I always cry even though I'm strong I don't know why? maybe it's just a sign of the true love.. and a true love needs sacrifice and strong personality..

I think pain is present anywhere we go whether we love, we work, we give birth etc. We appreciate everything for the pain we feel. Without pain i don't you will experience real love, joy and happiness and peace. It's only when you are in great pain that you feel the great love of ofriends and family for you so pain is a part of life already.

GUess I was a brave one for I went into one after first hubby and had 2nd hubby for 42 1/2 years but I wont go into another one. To me it wouldnt really be proper and I always said I didnt never want to train another one my way lolololol

There is no guarantee about relationships, and when you love it is expected to feel pain and get hurt. I never thouht I could be in such situation but I am also one of those who have loved and got hurt. Its ok and part of growing up and maturing as a person. When you love you give the person the right to hurt you and hurt them in return but in a way that was not really intentional and something that we mean to do to hurt other people. There are other limits when people hurt us, and then we decide if the hurt is too much and over what we can bear. I am the kind of person who fears these kinds of emotions, who would want to get hurt and cry, of course we would want to be happy but its part of life. I got hurt and learn in the process. I have appreciated it and it made me a better person.

Thats impossible, abnormal. Pain is the twin sister of gain. You could never be happy or have joy or have contentment unless you have gone trough many bitterness in life. Success is measured by suffering, by the challenges that comes along. As the famous quote says 'No guts, no glory'.

I'm not sure I can agree with this. For me, the pain comes when the love has gone. Anything that causes or brings pain to someone who loves you means you don't love them back. It maybe a momentary aberration but it's a choice....do the right thing or hurt the one you love. If someone chooses not to enter into a relationship for fear of being hurt or betrayed then this is not cowardice. It's a choice....made because what you get isn't worth the risk

if you love someone pain and sacrifices are there. pain is the process of life, without it you wont know how to get hurt and how to value someone you love. life is not easy but our love ones makes us a strong and better person including what happen in the past wither its painful or happy. it molds us into a better person now. im willing to sacrifice for my love ones, afterall they are the very reason why im happy now.

Its been said that we always hurt the ones we love. So it goes that you cannot go not hurting or feeling pain when you love. Deviating or trying to avoid pain is not cowardice at all. It is in fact having a different prospective in how you react to the situation and how the pain affects you. After a few failed relationships I have learned that it is better to be cautious than just running away from it. Call me paranoid but prevention is indeed of utmost importance. :) live, love, get hurt, stand up, love again and live happy. It's cycle.

Yes I agree with you that some people afraid to love the second time around because of the hurt feelings they have experienced before.I agree with you that love without pain is impossible because if we don't love that person then we don't feel the pain and hurt whenever misunderstanding and heartaches occurs.Thus with tis pain we will just let it go and be ready to love again and learned that past experiences you have by avoiding the same mistake again.

Well in order to live life you have to have pain at certain points there is no way around that. These are times to look at as learning experiences not as tragedies and stop living. You can not go through life if you dont. It would be the words of a garth brooks song. Life is not tryed it is just merely survived if you standing outside the fire. To me if you cop out because you had pain from something you are just that outside the fire. In my own words it is not living it is just staying. Have a great day folks cause i know i am.

Yes, in a way! When you love someone you would do anything for them, then here comes the hurt. Love and hurt goes hand in hand. Sometimes you have to let them go if you love them and that will hurt and hurt will cause you pain.

It's impossible. When there is love, there is pain. You have to do sacrifices in order to let your relationship last. I wish there's no pain anymore, coz i'm always in pain :(

Love u say is impossible without pain. Quite true! But one should find true love first. love makes life meaningful and interesting but is quite painful. Its very hard to forget the person u have just loved. All those touching memories keep coming back. I..........................I can't tell u how bad i felt when my first love came to an end. I was completely heartbroken. But as they say, life must go on. So have i!!!!!!!!!!!

Cheers to you! Pain is part of loving. It is part of life. You are right. When we experience pain we become a stronger person, and after we have gone through all the pain we realize the true meaning of love and the real sweetness of loving and be loved. That's when we are able to cherish love the most.

Your right then...I do believe that through this pains... any love/relationships grew stronger and stronger...These are spices that makes a love/relationships sweet and stronger.I can't blame for others who don't engaged into another relationship after those painful experiences because its not easy to be hurt. It takes time to heal the pain inside.Me, personally i been through a lot of pain also...but it makes me a better person instead in facing another relationship.After i have been hurt i give chance to knock another relationship immediately...it's my way to ease the pain i felt and let someone fill in the emptiness inside. Though honestly at first things are not the same as my previous relationship..it really varies, limitations exist but at times goes on..things put into place because i never close my heart to any changes occurs in the new relationship and put aside the past relationship..the painful it brought into my life...move on to life and relive again...new challenges...new pains but this time i could say i was a better and a tough person.

no one can get happy without pain, I think. if you never face to pain, you will never know what is happiness and blessed. If you love, just love him/her in your courage ,no matter whether you will get pain or not. Actually, you will understand how happy after pain.

Sure!it's truth that EVERYONE will get pains for the lovejust like you said..it's a part of relationship of love.but the difference is some people get coward,or neet to sacrifice for the love.. some people get strong,so i dont think that real love is impossible without pain.

i think..i have many bad experience in my love story, 3 months for a relationship??? and one whom i love never get closer in my heart

pain the twin sister of love... coz u never feel love if u never feel the pain, yes, indeed sacrifices is a part of it, which inflicted pain. the painful experiences that we had the more we learned from it. pain is the way to heal other people, its consist of sharing, i can't believe that some people let their pain to be kept inside...as a matter of fact the more u share ur pain into a relationship the better u feel, and its a matter of how both of u adjust and understand each other.