I have to be right types

Good morning Emeraldisle, I have one brother that is difficult to sway. Meaning that he doesn't like to accept evidence contrary to his opinion, but he's not beyond reason. The only one in my family who was truly beyond reason was my mother, and she passed away in '98. I cannot say how thankful I am that none of my sibblings is totally irrational. And, that's what the behavior you describe is -- complete irrationality. If one is unable to amend their perspective when presented with evidence that counters their supposition, then it's irrational. It drives me bonkers when a person is that obsessed with emotion that they cannot factor evidence into their perspective. It is a very disturbing characteristic. And, I find it more and more common. Not among my family, but among the general population. Ugghhh! I think I may still have a pair of earplugs that you can borrow for your family get togethers.

Most all of my family, spouse, parents, sibilings, and children are like this. There is always at least two of them if not three of them, that will get together and try to make everyones life miserable, because they have to be right. I have in about the past year decided I was tired of it. So when the I am right you are wrong conversations start, I simply state "does it matter who is right and who is wrong?, of course the answer is always yes, then I reply with how is it going to change the way we live our lives, or is it going to change the way you do things tomorrow." This usually puts a stop to it instantly, because they realize it won't.

i had exes who were like that. even if you caught them in the act of cheating, they will explain and prove me wrong. haha! funny, right? but when it comes to my parents and siblings, we always talk things out. noone is always right. we even apologize and admit our own mistakes. and it's funny... we laugh after fixing things out. yup. we are a happy family. hehe. anne

Yeah I have a few this way in my family and they do make you about crazy.

My hubby is like this, and a brother. My father was very much like this too. I learned as a teenager to just drop it. I end the discussion and purposely change the subject. It is best that way as why fight over something trivial. I can sometimes be sarcastic about it when I change the subject and that ususally gets the point across.

Yes, my brother and my mums boyf' and brother in law just like this. Find it really hard to have a conversation with them.

Me! I'm the one in the family who is always right :) But in saying that I will only argue my point when I know 100% that I am right, because I hate being wrong lol I don't care if I don't know something, but I just hate when people disagree with things I know to be true. It's infuriating when you know something to be true, and someone thinks it's not. I have had the same arguement with one of my best friends over whether or not there is caffiene in Sprite about 3 times now! Not sure on how to deal with other people like this though....maybe try and get them confused so they don't know what they're arguing about haha

my hubby is like that,,,i just shutup when he is arguing.. and talk to him the next day.. and he does listen and agree if it is logical,,..

LOL - I married one! God knows I love him but he drives me crazy with this. Half of the time I just give up and let him think or be 'right'.

My suggestion to you is don't bother wasting your time arguing with them.You won't be heard.I too have this problem.It may be a "guy thing"...just try to avoid the cuss & discussions that get you upset.Turn your head...look cross eyed...bite your lip...mutter...but never let 'em see you do these things...if they know they're buggin' you, they'll probably keep doing it...sometimes people just like to argue for the sport...good luck!:)

My hubby is like this. He always says he's right and never wrong. Most of the time he is but I have caught him out on a few things which he has been wrong about and has apologised for it too. Its frustrating at times and hard to get your point across, so I end up just changing the subject and forgetting about it.

yea..one of them's me LOL my father and i used to be famous for last word arguements.one went on for a month.and to be honest,i don't remember what we were arguing about now.i think it's because we were too much alike,both stubborn.

maybe father is like this. he always think he is right , if don't agree with him ,he will tell me why he is right again and again . Usually, if it is not a big issue, we will not argue with him. We always say" you are right" to him and laugh then. now he is a little shy for this.

Heh I'm afraid to say that I'm one of those kinda people. If I'm reeeally blatently wrong, then I'll admit it....but otherwise, as you say, I'll argue until I'm blue in the face. Sadly, my mother is the same. I can't really "deal" with her because we're both so stubborn, so neither will admit they're wrong. Usually, our disagreements end by us both just pretending nothing ever happened.

In my family it's me and my mom who are like this. We don't down right argue but we do dissagree a lot. If she says the sky is blue I will swear it is green! That's what she always tells me anyway LOL! We don't hold grudges or anything just have differences in opinions. So I can't really say how I would deal with others like this because they have to deal with me and my mom. Usually they just laugh and point out how greatly we are disagreeing and we laugh it off also.