A friend of mine said this today....

I completely disagree. The need to have challenges and fights and disagreement in a romantic relationship purely come from our selfish need to show off our ability to conquer. It's probably one of the many "survial of the fittest" gene that we inherit from our pre-human ancestors. The need to challenge, to fight, to win, to conquer. I find it very disturbing when people refer to their partner as a "catch". Like a fisherman, after a days work in the deep sea, coming to shore, declaring "it's a good catch today!!" There is a serious lack of respect there. Camus wrote in "The Fall" ".....true love is exceptional. Happens once or twice in a century. The rest are merely vanity or boredom..." How true. When you look at your partner as a "catch" and find way through her/him to escape "boredom" than that relationship is not true love, but a partnership of public vanity.