What if you found out you married a gay?

well if you know already that he is a gay and continue relationship after that then its OK , but whats more intolerable is the decption rather than the behavior. If that happens to me as i found a lesbian i will take her to some different places to get her mind deviated,as i know curing lesbians is easier than gay.

I really cant comment on that since im a man but to change the issue as if it is reverse the woman now is a lesbian, then i think i will still love the woman, and try to change her and show them much love so that she will not compare me to other woman. But if she thinks she really cant change and try having a relationship with same female then maybe its the time im going to divorce her. I really cant live someone who have some other preferences, its like cheating to me.

Sadly this does happen a lot with both men and women. For so long homosexuality was taboo. You were not supposed to be gay, that it was wrong or abnormal. So many hid what they were. They tried to deny it and lead "normal" lives which included getting married. No one is happy when they are denying who they are. It's a no win situation and until they can accept it they aren't going to be happy. If I found out, after I got over the anger and hurt, I would confront them with it. Get them to discuss it with me. I would encourage them to come out of the closet, to accept who they are and not to continue to hide. Yes I would get a divorce and if possible an annulment. I would hope in time I could be friends with him but I think at first I'd need to keep my distance in order to get over the feelings I had due to the situation. I did have a friend who went through this. Her husband after many years told her he was gay. They had two children, one a teenager. She's remarried now and good friends with her ex but at that time it was a hard blow for her to take.

Well just to tell you, i think in this hypothetical situation you are talking about, the man may be scared or not accepting his real -- how should i say, taste? And therefore when he married err the person, he finally realised he was gay! If this has happened, i would simply just ask him out of honesty and if he seems to lie or something else well i guess you could just say, if your lying, then i guess i cannot trust you. Isn't love about trusting one another? Anyways if this happened you could simply divorce or try a marriage council.

It would upset me if that were to happen. If there were changes that were unusual then I'd definetly be looking into the situation as much as I possibly could. I would ask him if he was gay and if he said yes, then I'd leave him, but at some point or other talk to each other about things, and find out why he never mentioned his being gay in the first place. That is what I'd do. In your situation, you do what you feel is right.

Knowing such thing will ofcourse upset you. But still, He married you, which means he is serious about you. Maybe he just needs time.

I am like you I have nothing at all againest the gay lifestyle. But if I found out that my husband was gay I would be in shock. I would have to think that I would not be able to stay married to him only because I would feel like I am not what would make him happy. So I think that the best thing to do would be to end it.

wow! that was a very, very horrible thing to happen. i dont think i can handle that. i dont know what to do on that situation, i might kill my partner. hehehe.

If I found out I married a gay man I would divorce him or have the marriage annulled, no two ways about it. I wouldn't fancy spending the rest of my life with a man who wasn't physically attracted to me even if he could chat with me like my best friend and advise me on the best clothes to wear as he had a heightened sense of fashion. Personally it wouldn't be something likely in my situation as I wouldn't marry a man before knowing him very well, emotionally and intimately. I can tell you about someone I know through family though. A guy born and raised in the UK of Indian origin went with his widowed mother to India to find a bride for an arranged marriage, met a girl, his mother liked her, they got married and the bride came over to the UK. A year or so later they split up, when one of my aunts asked the girl's aunt (who also happened to live in the UK) at a party what had happened that their marriage broke down so quickly, she aunt told her quite knowingly and quietly "Put it this way, my niece was a virgin when she got married and is still a virgin now, he doesn't like girls!" What a way to find out. When my mother heard this story, she did actually say to me which really shocked me as she's quite a traditional Indian mother in her own way "Make sure you don't marry someone like that..." In other words she was giving me her blessings to check out the goods before I married them! LOL!

You know what your hypothetical situation is real situation in my case.I had a cousin who was married to this handsome guy with macho built & all.she was engaged with him for a year or so.But after marriage he refused to sleep with my cousin.He would kiss her but was not ready to make love.After that she came to know that actually he was a gay.Now they are seperated.

hhhmmm... that situation is hard....it's hard to have a gay husband well just in case it will happen to me what i'm going to do is i will talk to Him and ask if he's still having relationships with men then if it's not i will help him to change but if he is not eager to change i will definite leave him and remain friends...

MY AUNTIE...... she didn't know her husband was g*y, or started to being a g*y... poor auntie, i'm so sorry for her. She's just unemployee woman, n she's depend on her husband's bakery... making a cake... n know she's commit divorce... well she thinks about the daughter psychic, cause her hubby often saw a po*n movee in front of his 8 years daughter... well all my family deal with my aunt decission. Hm.... never think he's gonna do that... -_-!

I think it is a pity to marry a gay.I can't image my life if I marry a gay.The only result is divorce.I don't discriminate any body,but A gay should find a gay but not a normal people.How do you think?

if i found that my husband is a gay, definitely i will very upsad with him, i will never forgive him n' i will asked for devortion to him.. i don't want he have another person in his heart..never

You should read my questions, I also was married to a Lesbian, and I have children by her as well. The deal is they want to have their cake and eat it all too. I have been to counseling about it for years; because of my children's complaints. All my ex wanted is to be a Lesbian and have a paycheck coming in at the end of the month at my, and my children's expense. "REAL SELFISH" and self centered. All of the counselors told me that I didn't do anything wrong; because she is dysfunctional. I should learn from the experience and move on. It cost me a $250,000 dollar home that I paid for, for her and her Bi-Lesbian wife to live with my children. Believe me it will get alot worse, if you hang around in there for too long. So like I said you should read what these idiots in here said to about my ex-wife.

Hehehe. I recently remembered abt a bollywood movie called "Honeymooon travels LTD" it's a real funny movie. In that there's a scene in which there's a couple they are on their way to US after getting married. This guy is an NRI, he comes to India he selects a girl from online sites then he is on a honey moon trip with this girl. Later on this girl finds out this dude is a gay and he just got married to this female so that he can keep his parents happy in US. It's can be really funny but when these things really takes place then it's hard to get out of these things.

obviously no1 can continue tht guy nelonger so the best idea is to dump him

When I was 10 I found out my mom had been married before she met my dad. She married her high school sweetheart, you should see the beautiful love letter in her senior yearbook. THey were married for about a month and she came home from work and caught him in bed with another man. Needless to say she got an annullment as soon as she could. I honestly don't know what would possess a gay person to try to have a relationship and marry a straight person. Maybe it's the prejudice the lifestyle deals with from society. If the signs are there it will do nobody any good to ignore them, life is too short to be miserable.

I think that its horrible to think about having a man turn gay on you in your marriage would devestate you. I couldn't imagine being in that situation, the only thing i could think of is someone would be in serious pain lol.

I just found out last Christmas that my dad is not who i thought he was for the last 19 years of my life. it's really hard to accept. My mother learned it when i was still a kid, but she never got the guts to leave him. she really believes on the our tradition of keeping the family together inspite of all the lies and betrayals. that tradition really is inappropriate to me. i mean, if i wre her, i would have left him the instant i learned the truth..