How to maintain your love?
By vicky19810
@vicky19810 (1600)
China
April 25, 2007 3:47am CST
Sometime,I always think about,what is love,and what is marriage,but i can not get a clear answer!maybe for myself,i don't know what is love,even if i am seeking for it.so now,i am a little afraid of love,even the marriage.i fear them,not because i do not yearn them,but i fear to loss them.i wish to get them too much,while i feel perhaps one day,i would loss my love.if it really would happen to me,i can not image how i would be and how i would do anything.i think i catch the love dread illness.i have no idea in my mind sometimes,when we caught in quarrel.at that time,i really did not want to say anything with him,as i know it would be non sense whatever i said,because the misunderstanding was existed already.it only becomes the gap of our love,and would not disappear.
my friends,would you often consider about your love,and have you got a exact answer?i really want to recourse to everyone,how to maintain our love or marriage?
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18 responses
@boyfriend2k4 (398)
• Australia
25 Apr 07
Always choose the right guy, its not easy but you have to judge them and notice them. Maintaining love can be sacrificing but make sure it worth all the sacrifice. Through my experience, what i can say is whatever looks beatiful from a distance might be ugly when u go near
@vicky19810 (1600)
• China
25 Apr 07
yes,friend,i understand your meaning,and thank you very much for suggestion.i think that i can do it better.
@chenvstony (365)
• China
27 Apr 07
Maining our love is depend on ourselves.Care the man more,think things on his side,give him a hand when he need and take much time to get together and so on...
@romel_ece (1290)
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
I think the best way to maintain our love to our partner is to show it everyday.We must be understanding,full of patient, knows each limitations, respect each other, and most of all care each other.
@jasdownie (165)
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
You need to be dedicated to the idea of marriage. A deep contentment and sense of security and dedication that can withstand the test of time. Married people should stay forever young. Keep listening and keep yourself honest.
Live everyday like it's the first time you met. You gotta surprise each other every now and then, go out and have fun with each other.
@una1129 (271)
• China
26 Apr 07
Hi,friend.I always think anout this question,but i have no clear answer.Fot the past three or four years(when i was at school,last year i graducated),i've sought for love and eagerly to own it.But now,after i worked for almost one year,I realize that it's difficult to find the true love,my present boyfriend is not found by meself.So i'm not srue whether we will have a bright future.
@pendragon (3349)
• United States
25 Apr 07
Compromise, working at it, fanning the flame of passion, going above and beyond with the little everyday things.Sometimes pushing the world away when you know it should just be you two against everything.It's a great and awesome feeling , the companionship and desire. It never needs to fade, just get deeper,wider more eengulfing and satisfying.
@shineison (874)
• Uganda
25 Apr 07
LOVE is LIFE, so Simple it is. Man and Woman are two wheels of life Cycle, and marriage is the perfect way to keep your Cycle going Perfect.
and marriage is the only good and perfect way to maintain your life. and you must have to marry, in western culture marriage is less and thats why they face so many problems in their lives, many children do not know their parents. marriage is necessary for you.
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
25 Apr 07
In order to have a good and lasting marriage, make sure that the man you marry is the man you truly love and that he loves you in return. He loves you if he values you and he cares for you. He is willing to do so much for you and he is willing to sacrifice for you if called for. It is important that you will be able to talk about things until the issue at hand is settled and becomes truly clear enough for both of you. Good and open communication lines among couples is among the most important things to have in order for the relationship to last a really loooong time.
@kitkat1 (1227)
• Canada
25 Apr 07
Well my love there are several elements to maintain our love and marriage. Communication is the largest of them all always make sure the lines of communicatoin are open. Dont make decisions on your own about family do it together. Also trust and faith in your partner. Share your feelings not matter what they are. If you have true love this is easy to do u dont even have to work at it hard. The only thing i find you have to keep a constant check on is communication though u can get lazy with that easy.
@shekaina24 (161)
• Philippines
25 Apr 07
On everyday routine I see to it that I put this ingredient called "LOVE". From there, kind a exercise the love w/in that makes me healthy in heart and outside. Just the way, basically maintain and abounds love.....
@Easytime (126)
• Nigeria
25 Apr 07
how to maintain your love is simple. if you have love for people, you will always do.... love is not infertuation nor is it lust. love is natural, not selfish, faithful, honest, not easily provoked, forgives, gives without reproach, dose not hate, loves irrespective of the race, low level, type, academic qualification of a person.infact, it is all about being nice to people not only to a specific person.
to maintain your love, you have to continue to do all the things i have put up above and be of good xracters.
@letzap519 (408)
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
yes.. sometimes it's really a question how to maintain a certain relationship or marriage.. now what i can advise you should have both a give and take relationship and yo should be sensitive of other's condition and feelings... there should be always communication and show your love in every way...this way it will help the relationship to bloom and stay longer...
@cyrile07 (236)
• Philippines
25 Apr 07
love cannot be defined.. nor can i understand what really is marriage and if there is such perfect marriage.. well, from all the experience of my friends that ive gather, i realize that marriage is a learning process.. you learn a lot of things as years pass by.. you learn that your love grows each day towards your partner or learn to outgrow your love... one thing that has to be practice in marriage is that constant communication with your partner so that you will fully understand each other and you will then realize what really love is.. Love for me is an emotion that you feel toward your partner.. dont look for love it will naturally come..
@mdchennai (2129)
• India
25 Apr 07
Well vicky, quarrels in love do happen. Now talking about maintaining love, it is not a difficult task. First of all you should know the things that your partner doesnt like. If you dont do the things that your parnter donesnt like then there wont be any problem. If some problem occurs between you and your partner, then try to talk and find out on whose side the fault is. You/Partner should be ready to accept the fauts instead of dragging the argument. I think this will surely keep the relationship strong :)
@fairygreen (533)
• Philippines
25 Apr 07
For me the best way to maintain love is through good communication, understanding and trust.Because how would you define love without them?.As an old saying goes"asking me to define what is love is like drinking water" coz water is no difinite taste, odorless and tasteless.Like love it could strike and anyone could be caught.You have to be open with one another too to catch up things easily.
@patricia24 (568)
• Philippines
25 Apr 07
I think the secret in maintainig our love to a person is when at least once a week, you will have time for each other. and you consider things or problem is part of your trials. JUst be more like friends so you will know what is he feeling for you right now.
