How do you rest after you have a baby?

I just read breifly the other commints and I was suprized at how many said get help. You carry the baby in one hand and do what you have to do with the other. sometimes when you hubby is home take your 4yr old and go to MCdonalds It will be good for both of you You will be so happy that he is old enough to thing for himself. Like walk! LOL enjoy

My oldest son was 5 when my baby was born. He actually helped out a bit where he could but obviously still needed attention himself. I will usually go to bed early. I'll put the baby to bed then spend some time with my other son and go to bed when he does rather than napping through the day so that I can get on with houseork and things during the day when the baby spends an hour watching tv or something. My partner has an irregular work pattern so I often don't know whenther he will be here or not and when he is here he doesn't really help out so I am basically on my own all the time anyway. Do you remember what you did when you had your first child?

This Is the most important thing Do this above all else do this. Buy gifts for your 4yr old large or small dose not matter. wrap it up as a gift. Put one in you case that you are taking to the hospital. When the 4yr old comes to see you at the hospital give him the gift From the Baby. Any other gifts wrapped and from the baby he gets when you get home. You would not believe how much the 4yr old will help you with the baby. It works Just do it.

Okay I am a nurse and I have 3 children grown now. An Idea that I have told new mothers in the hospital before they go home. when you get home, you will be tired. don't try to do everything. take care of yourself and kids. when you get tired exspecally when others are around. including you husband. go put on a gown or PJ's this triggers in their mind that you are tired. I know its simple but it works. as for your 4year old I set a time of day with a snack for them to watch cartoon's and I took a couch nap. To this day I get sleepy around 3:00. lol

I am afraid to tell you think but I don't think you will get much rest!! Without anyone there to help you it will definitely be hard!! I would suggest taking a nap with your baby when he/she sleeps, set your son up with something to do, the TV or whatever =) So you can stay sane you will have to sleep with the baby!! I really feel for you because I had my hubby here and it was still hard. There were many times I would fall asleep sitting up on the couch holding my son while I was feeding him. Luckily he would sleep a little bit too =) Good luck!!!

It is good to rest in the hospital for atleast two weeks after u have a baby as there will be doctors and nurses who takes ares of you.so please stay in hospital for rest after you have a baby.thanks.

I just don't know where to start, more than you I am feeling scared for you as I had tough time with my daughter with lack of sleep and cysts and so many other problems. I am wondering how on earth re you going to manage all alone. I wish there was no need of boundaries and p[assports and stuff and I could come and take care of you. Why can your mother not stay when you need her the most. I don't have a mother but with my first born she was there and it was so easy to raise a child with her around. I missed her this time a lot. Onlything I can sugest is get talking to your four year old and train him to wake you up if baby cries. I ahd done this wih my son but he was six then. I made him help me a lot. He used to fetch nappies and watch the baby if I am taking bath. I had told him not to try and lift the baby all by himself, and let me help him. we used to talk at great lengths how much life would change for him and me with new baby around. may be you should try this with yoru four year old too.

im afraid that you cannot get the rest that you want as of the moment coz of your son and new baby. my suggestion is try to take a nap when they are sleeping,but before sleeping try to take away all the things that might hurt your kid and lock the door so he cannot get out if in case you sleep heavily.

Congat's !!!Becoming a mother is something Gr8.You can just have a cool life teach you kids moral stories, design thier life,take care of them....This is what you can do at this time...

We didn't live near my parents, and my husband had to go back to work when I came home from the hospital, so I was left without any help. We also had custody of his 5 year old, which was in Kindergarten for part of the day. I don't think I have caught up on sleep yet and it is 7 years later now. LOL I used to try to nap when the baby would fall asleep. But it was usually short lived.

.... sacrifice is the key to your situation now, it's like hard and painful labor,but afterwards all is well and the baby is out of your tummy and when you laid your eyes on that baby, the stress just disappeared in a blink. ..... I am a mom as well,at this point of time, those little rest that we might have is still helpful, later on, we will realize that little naps will soon be better sleep. just have faith in the Lord!

I think you should just take it easy stay home relax and Take care of your baby.

Well with a four year old i'd put him to bed early, and try to get the baby to sleep too. I think that it would be good to instate nap time for the four year old, or just a quiet time when you can nap in the same room he's playing in. Or you could get someone maybe a family member to come over and watch them for a couple of hours so you could get a nap in. You can aslo get your husband to aid in this by getting up with the baby while you are healing, my husband did this for me and it was great.

I can relate I have a 5 yr old and I just had a baby 9 months ago. Rest is rare... because my 5yr old is demanding more attention now that I have another child. Good Luck!!!

Why don't you look into hiring a sitter for your 4 yr old for a couple of weeks while you are getting use to the baby and getting him/her on a schedule. If finances make this impossible, continue to nap when your 4 yr old naps. New borns usually sleep all day anyways, so if you can catch a nap you need to since you will probably be up at night with the baby. Also, do you have any other relatives that would be willing to help? What about church friends?