Mom or Maid??
By palonghorn
@palonghorn (5479)
United States
April 25, 2007 9:33am CST
I was just watching Rachel Ray, and she had a mom on there that wanted help! She has 4 childern ( and yes a husband), ages 18, 17, 14 and 6. She waits on them hand and foot, the only one that helps around the house is the 6 yr old son. It showed the oldest son sitting on the couch and yelled to her to bring him a drink, and then the daughter sitting only a few feet away from the phone and asked her to bring her the phone......and she did! And now she doesn't want to tolerate this anymore? I only have two remarks on this (1) this did not ever happen in my household, I wouldn't tolerate the laziness. (2) She is giving in to them and caters to them every minute, and now she wants to complain?? So, moms, what do you think about this?
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@sabwinner (499)
• China
25 Apr 07
Mom is a great character. What she giving to us is great love. But sometimes, it need a bottom line, you can not tolerate everything, and you need principle to do everything, even love.
This mom loves her children too much, I have to say it's wrong. If you really want you kids grow up, want them have good character, you should help them with good habbit and well manner.
Love could not be too much.
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@geraldine05 (46)
• Philippines
25 Apr 07
Maybe because she tolerated the acts when the children were still young. As a mother, one should teach their kids some household chores
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@villageanne (8553)
• United States
8 Dec 07
I believe that as a parent, it is our responsibility to teach our children to be self sufficent. That means to pick up after themselves also. At their age, it is too late for her to teach them that. She should have began to teach those skills from birth up. It is her fault they are like that. Children do live as they are taught.
@villageanne (8553)
• United States
10 Dec 07
I think that society is responsible for a lot of this. Everyone is looking for a quick fix and they are not willing to do it themselves. They are always blaming someone else for their own mistakes.
@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
9 Dec 07
I agree, however, she has come to learn that it will not be that way in our house, and her dad (my s/o)has reinforced it by backing me on this one. So now when she comes to our house she has learned to get up off her behind and get whatever it is she is needing. :)
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@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
9 Dec 07
Also, I taught my girls from a young age. And I'm not sure why someone that doesn't then complains later when the children expects to be waited on and have everything done for them.
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@KissThis (3003)
• United States
25 Apr 07
I wouldn't have tolerated this in my household what so ever. I have taught my children to do for themselves. I don't even like to hear one of my children asking another to do something for them just because they don't want to get up.
That mother is going to have a very difficult time breaking her children from that habit. Its a little late now to start complaining. She should have done something about this a long time ago.
@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
25 Apr 07
I have to agree, a little late to think about changing it now, the only way she could do that now is to take drastic measures, for example if they don't clean their own rooms, shut the door and don't look at it! If they want a drink bad enough they will get up and get it when they see she is not going too. But still, why complain now? She put up with it this long.
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@nmhschic2004 (1238)
• United States
23 Dec 07
Sounds more like a maid. I absoultely wouldnt tolerate this either. If that was me i would be telling the kids to get up off their butt and help. And i would tell my husband that he needed to help out more around the house.
@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
23 Dec 07
Same here, particularly since some of the kids were teenagers, and they order her around and she tolerates it! Not me, and ya know she never mentioned what the husband did to help this situation, so I'm guessing he does it too. But as Dear Abby used to say, someone can't use you as a doormat unless you let them.
@WiteNgtOwl (304)
• United States
22 Dec 07
There was no lazyness or talk back when I was growing up. Us kids were the maids. Now I'm a mom and my daughters help out to. How can anyone put up with this sort of behavor? Do they ever tell her thanks?
