When do you tell your mom that you don't live at home anymore?

Wow, this sounds so much like my situation! The only difference is even though my Mum loves her Granddaughter, she acts like she wants to be her mother rather than just her Grandmother. She's already ruined my partner's 1st Father's Day, Xmas we spent everywhere but alone with our daughter, we didn't get much say in Easter, she's already made plans for Mother's Day (even though it's my 1st one she thinks it's her right to spend every possible holiday with my daughter - before we do) & she's is in the process of organising what we'll be doing for my daughter's 1st birthday so she's kind of only thinking of herself. It's been this way since the day my daughter was born (last June) & i haven't been living at home for 8 years now. I have tried telling her that i'm the mother now & would like to be the one that makes the decisions where my daughter is concerned & she throws it all back at me by telling me i'm using her & cutting her out of my daughter's life - that last one came up when i swapped her visits from weekly to every other week, she thinks having a routine visit is the way to go - i disagree, mainly coz all she does is take over! She says she likes to give me a break but seriously, my daughter is a great little girl & is no trouble anyway, i don't need a break! I hope your Mum is more understanding than mine - let us know how you get on with it! If it works, you'll have to let me know how you went about it & i might have to try it myself! Good Luck!

Your mother will always worry about your decisions as long as she is alive. You are her child and even though you don't live with her, she is trying to advise you to do what she feels is best. Why not listen to her advice and tell her that you appreciate her opinion, but you would rather do it your way. Moms don't want their kids to make the mistakes that they have. I am sure that if you are honest with her and accept listening to her opinions you will both be happier.