Feast!! What would be your reaction if you remain unattended by the host??

Yes I would as I think it is rude If you have a Party then you need to make sure that you attend to all your Guest no matter what

Well if the host is a very close friend of mine and I feel that the he is deliberately neglecting me then only I will feel bad but as in your case the host came to you once . So we cannot expect the host to come to you many times in a big gathering. In big functions it very much normal for the host to be busy as he/she has to look after so many arrangements and meet so many people so we should not take it seriously at all.

I would not feel bad. I like people and I like to talk and don't feel shy talking to strangers so I probably would not even notice that the host was gone for awhile.

you stated he did come over at first so he did welcome you as you say if he was buisy i see no wrong in it you wernt completely ignored your wife needs to understand you were not the only ones present !

OMG, how old is your wife, 12? How childish of her. It was a gathering and your host acknowledged that you were there. Did she actually expect him to stay by your side and entertain you the whole time? He had other guests who needed his attentions too. I don't feel insulted if my host/hostess only stops for a moment once or twice during the night. They have other guests who need their attention. I would only be insulted if I was invited and then wasn't even acknowledged. I mean, there are other people there that you can mingle with. Personally, I think it is bad manners of your wife to try to put your friend in a bad light because he gave his attentions to his other guests and didn't just stay with you and your wife. I would be more insulted by my spouse's behavior than by the behavior of my host.

i dont take it against the host...since sometimes i host parties too and i dont get to entertain all the guest...we have to understand that hosting a party is not easy and its understandable that we will really get busy..so what i usually do if this things happens, i just enjoy the rest the party with he other guest.

i will understand if the host can't spend so much time with me. i understand that i am not the only person for him/her to entertain. but a small part of me will feel a bit sad. being not able to feel a warm welcome from the host. but as i've said, we're not the only people invited, so, we just need to understand the situation.

Well, was this just a party or is your friend a boss and this was a party of a lot of important people. How close a friend is he? If it was a large gathering he has a responsibility to touch base with other people also. It sounds like you are taking this personal and it really isn't. Is he just a friend with no other thing involved? Is he someone you spend a lot of time together with or is it just someone who is just a friend. Nothing close. I wouldn't take offense at it. I would say he didn't even realize this happened. I would mention to him in passing if it is bothering you. In a way that it won't offend him.

How many people were at this gathering? I don't expect a host to cater to me every second. But I do expect a 'everything ok' every once in a while. A good host does not stay in one place the entire time. A good host make their guests feel welcomed and comfortable. I am not a shy person and I have no problems speaking with other people at a party. But not everyone is like me. There may be guests that need a little more attention and if the host is 'too busy' to notice that then they are not doing there job. I don't think i would have been offended. It takes more then that to offend me. But I would have noticed if I did not see the host any where all night.

Depending on the size of the party, it is not unusual for a host to not be seen often by everyone. If it was a small party with just half a dozen or so people there I might be concerned that the host was missing but on the other hand if there were people there who I was easily able to chat with and have fun with, I wouldn't be too bothered. It might be that they organised the party and then something important came up with had to be dealt with urgently hence the host's occasional disappearances during the evening. Sometimes emergencies crop up that we cannot forsee and we should hope our friends are understanding that they can get along with each other whilst we deal with the unforeseen situation. If your friend makes a habit of throwing parties and then disappearing then that would be something else to consider but it might be that he enjoys organising parties but is not so keen on the chit chat that goes on during the party and would rather everyone was well fed and watered and he can carry on with other tasks (rather unusual but it could be one reason for his absence)...

I will not take it seriously if the person greeted me atleast once in that busy party.He/she needs to welcome all others too hence i will understand his schedule and keep myself busy with others attending the function. But i feel bad if the person sees me and just carry on with his work just ignoring my presence.In this situation being a close friend i will let him know that he just kept going without noticing me probably the next day or to make him realise his mistake.

it's kind of a bummer,but if it's a big party,sometimes that happens.i've been to a few weddings like that,matter of fact. but,most of the time i figure it's free food anyway,so i don't complain ;)

I will put myself on the host"s shoes. If i had been the host, i will be very busy attending to so many things. I would understand the host's situation and will not expect some special treatment.Being invited to the party means i'm one of his/her friends.

I would disappear, fast! Good if there are other guests I can relate well with. But of course,I understand that with lots of guests around to keep the host busy, he could have at least make regular rounds to all his guests so as not to leave anyone behind like a wall flower. We have hosted parties in our house and I gave instructions to my kids to help me entertain the guests and never to leave anyone unattended. Another tip is to invite a manageable number of guests so as not to leave anyone out.

I really don't think about these kinds of things I guess. It wouldn't bother me a bit if the host were too busy to get around to spending time with me. I know when I have an event like that (not that I do often, but I have in the past) I'm more likely to focus on people that obviously feel uncomfortable or don't know many people there, trying to make them feel comfortable. So I would assume the host was doing the same, and just relax and enjoy myself.

It is obvious that the host was too busy to attend everyone as much as he would have liked. He may have felt that you, as a good friend would be more understanding than some others would that did not know him as well. As long as there were others I could talk to so that I was not left standing by myself the entire time, I would understand and not feel bad about it. If I were alone and could not find someone to talk to, I would feel bad, and perhaps mention it to my host the next day. If I chose to mention it though, I would be careful to bring it up in such a way as to not cause hard feelings on his part too. I would say something like, "I know that you were busy with other guests last night, but I felt out of place being there all evening without seeing anyone that I knew."

Party ! Party ! Party ! Life is good ! Forgive me on that, its been quiet a while since i attended one where i am not the host or somehow connected with in responsibility of the party. Its really a handful when you host a party, be it small or large, no matter how you prepared for it something dramatic would always surface. For the host to be as active to all his guests is really insurmountable, as most often he is also responsible on the what going on behind the party. There are varied kind of host characters, largely dependent on the host experience in hosting one & basically the personal attitude of the host also affects how one behaves. All host would always come short for anyone, nobody's perfect. I do believe the party itself is the overall host, you just cant expect to be usher or recept so much, there a lot of people to attend to & various other things. Just enjoy the party. Party ! Party ! It's party time !!!

I will feel embarrassed,but i dont blame the host .It is common , we should chat with others happily ,enjoy the party .We have a proverb in our country, since you come ,please enjoy it .