stay faithful or not

I don't think there's anything wrong with reminiscing-but if the situation looks like it's going to go further than that, it needs to be nipped in the bud. Cheating is wrong.

I tell you you are very very lucky to have such a good relationship with your husband. YOu have a good family with three kids and a good husband ( even if not loving, but he is atleast commited to you). Every lady is not this lucky. Dont try to think foolish - i am really angry about what you spoke. You should respect your husband for all things, he has been so nice towards you. Whats the need to get attracted to someone else if u have your jewel. Yes he may be a bit unromantic but you see men have some business problems and lots of others things in their life which makes them a bit uncheerful in romantic life. You should understand this and take the lead to make your life a bit cheerful. I again tell you, you are very lucky to have a good loving family everyone is not this lucky, so try to respect and maintain what you have got. Bye...

You said you love your husband, and you said you like thinking that someone still desires you, those two statements lead me to believe that you may be feeling like your relationship is in a rut. Try to spice the relationship up a bit. Have your husband court you all over again. Ask you on a date, take you out for a nice dinner, complete with flowers and the works.

I think that you should just stick to talking with the hubby's friend only around your hubby. I mean you may not think that anything could happen, but you never know what the guy is thinking. what if he tries to take advantage of you and you get yourself into a situation you are not comfortable with ? You said you knew him for many years i know.. but I had a friend that i "knew" for seven years, and it turned out after all that time, he wasn't really my friend, he was obsessed with me and doing SCARY things! Anyways, i figure since then, If i dont put myself into any weird situations that i'll always be safe :) Also, If you are having doubts that it is unappropriate behavour, isn't that your concious telling you something ? It's saying, HEY something isnt' right here.. Think about this.. WHAT if, it was your hubby talking to his ex, your friend, how would you feel?

I think you should put a little distance between you and your friends husband. trust me, the lure of someone else thinking of you gets addicting and it could turn into something more even if you love your husband. Is it enough to say that you are "happy enough"? Maybe you and your husband are growing apart. If that is the case talk to him about it and either stay together and be happy or separate, but if you end up cheating it will tear your whole family apart.

I dont think you've necessarily done anything wrong, but if you flirt with idea's eventually things happen. And you have to keep in mind how would your husband think of the situation? Or if the script was flipped how would you feel if he was the one remenisin with an old girl friend. Like I said I dont think you've done anything wrong but it could be lethal if you flirt with it.

well, 17 years isn't a joke. besides, you don't seem to really have any problem with your husband at all. it's just that maybe, upon talking to this friend of your husband, you found a little spark with him... i don't know but you felt something, right? but it's you who said that you weren't brought up to cheat and you are against cheating on your husband. so, just do what it is you believe is right. and be happy instead. happy myLotting!

I think your marriage is worth far more than a little reminiscing about the past. Are you even sure that the other guy loves you? I advise you to be faithful.

It's not wrong to feel flattered whenever someone thinks of you in a special way, even though you're married. We girls like to feel very much appreciated, and I know that I still feel sexy and wanted whenever a guy eyes me. So I don't think there's anything wrong with what you're feeling, just as long as you don't act on it. Just try to keep your feelings at bay and keep from doing anything that you know you'll regret later on. Best of luck.

just stay cool :)

That's not fair to you or him, you need to let him go and that staying together for the kids is for the birds. You are only going to make matters worse,why did you marry him if you've felt this way all along? That doesn't make sense at all. What if the shoe was on the other foot you would be heart broken and the kids are just going to suffer . Leave that so called friend alone ! That was the past . Pray about your marriage and your family and leave that buster alone.

I'd have to say stick with your husband and try to find ways to spice up your relationship. I've been cheated on before and very few things in the world hurt that much. If you husband truly loves you he'll be devastated if you cheat on him.

I have been married for 23 years. We have 5 kids,9 grandkids. I love my husband but not in love with my husband. I am so ready to be done with him. I think its just the same old stuff every day that I am done with. I need a change, not another man. You should have a change also, just you and hubby do something together.Do soething different. My hubby and I did soething different, this is what we did we had alot of time to ourselfs we actually enjoyed each others company, we had xxx with no tapping at the door ( kids) and so on. We got us a room at blackhawk casino in colorado where we live. We had 500 each to blow, we gambled all night long slept in a very nice king size bed, room. had great uninterupted xxx. gambling again the next day. just him and I. dinner was great, breakfast was great. Now the good part-- I won 7500.00 make your fun, relight that candle get your flame burning again any way you can.

Is it wrong to talk about when you used to date to a man you used to date? Not at all. Is it wrong to no longer be head over heals in love after seventeen years of marriage? It is probably the norm rather than the exception. I think in life we must follow our hearts and do what we want to rather than what convention expects us to do.

I understand. I have been with my partner for 14 years now. I think that it takes a lot to keep a relationship alive. I understand your feelings...you love your husband but the attention from your ex..probably makes you feel good and have those old feelings again..which you may not had in a while. I think that you should do what my boyfriend and I are planning and have a regular date night and see if that helps the relationship. Until then just know that someone remembers there time with you as happy and leave it at that...

I think you will be better off if you stop thinking about what the other guy said. Even if you don't intend for it to it could lead to trouble. Tell your hubby you need more attention. You guys just need to get a litlle of the spark back to fix your problem :)

If you really love your husband then you should not feel that way,but it seems that your elationship is in kind trouble,i mean maybe there's something wrong with your husband or it's in you..maybe lack of attention and then your relationship starting to fade?well,before it's too late both of you should work it out.and you must be the one to do the first move since you are having this kind of problem..cheating is not really good.

I've heard of the sevn year itch, but not the 17,lol. If you do anything with anyone else,leave your husband first, cheating is one of the lousiest things a person can do.You may not be IN love w/ your husband from the sounds of it, so if you fall for someone make sure they are in love with you too, before you do anything drastic.

well days when we find ourselves lovely and pursued by others are best to be reminisced. and there is nothing wrong with it. its just art of your memories.

yah that's a hard situation,if you really love your husband and you think that he really loves you,you better be stop thinking about his friend,that's not good,i hate cheaters, many people is being hurt because of that,my dad was cheated by my mom and i can see that he was really hurt!so you should think about your feelings.