Do you make friends quickly?
By winterose
@winterose (39887)
Canada
April 25, 2007 3:58pm CST
Is it easy for you to make friends? I don't mean on the computer but in your hometown, at school, work, etc,
Are your neighbors your friends, or just people that live next to you that you will never see again if you move?
How long does it take you to make friends, if someone introduces themself to you do you consider that person to automatically be your friend?
Or do you pick and choose your friends, and decide who you want to make a friend with and why?
Is it hard for you to make friends, do you try yet nobody wants to be bothered with you?
Do you have to go out of your way to make friends or do new people automatically come to you?
People automatically come to me, as I am a friendly person, but I tend to pick and choose my friends, just because I know you are smile when I say hello to you on the street does not make me a friend,
A real friend is a friend that would do anything for you and your for them. They would be with your through good times and bad, and they would be happy for you when you succeed not jealous because you have something they do not. That is why my friends are really good people and are as precious to me as gold,
What about you,
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@lovespecialangel (3632)
• United States
26 Apr 07
It's not real easy for me to make friends as I'm normally shy around people I don't know. But I'm not rude either. When someone talks to me, I speak to them and on occassion that person and I hit it off and become friends. As for the people who live next door to me, they are my parents. So, it's safe to say I would see them again if I moved. I'm not real picky about chosing my friends. I tend to chose my friends based on their personality and the type of person they are. I would say it probably takes me a couple hours to make friends, depending on the person.
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@pendragon (3349)
• United States
26 Apr 07
I totally trust my instincts, usually I'm very wary about someone or I feel like I've known them forever,so good or bad its usually my first impression thats right on.
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@DuoMaxwell (953)
• United States
26 Apr 07
Yes it's hard for me to make friends, and yes, I try but no one wants to be bothered by me, offline AND online. I've never had any friends in both worlds, but I don't mind. It's fun when no one cares whether you die alone or not. It's fun to have no friends. It's fun to be unpopular. It's fun to be alone. It's fun to not have any friends to intervene in your life. At least I don't have any emotional connections to anyone anymore.
I even used to have a girlfriend online, but we broke up. I tried to make up, but it failed. Years later, I realized that being single and friendless is a GOOD thing! You don't have to bother with complexities of relationships, you can save your money, you are free to do what you want, it's complete bliss.
I've been bullied and harassed in my childhood school life. I was very unpopular. VERY unpopular. But I didn't mind. Even if they voted I was to die alone, i don't mind.
I've been locked out online from a few message boards, and it still hurts me even now. I never forget. But it's fine by me, because they won't EVER recieve my help at all. I'd tell them to "sit and spin" instead. I'm no longer concerned with them at all, and i'd leave them hanging in a ditch until they fall off and die.
Short summary short: Even though I have no friends and no love (girlfriend or emotions), I still have my independence and freedom.
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@ElicBxn (63593)
• United States
27 Apr 07
I do not make friends easily, but I do make them well. I have a person I've known since 2nd grade that I still corrospond with & see when we are in each other's town, that's like 45 yrs. But I have to admit that its probably more because she refuses to give up on me than my hard work. If I can pick up a phone & call someone I might, but I'm just as likely to not do so. I've lived in my house for over 20 years &, while I'm on talking terms to some of my older neighbors, I only know the ones right around the house. It might've been different if I had kids that played with other kids in the neighborhood, but....
I try to be friendly, but I'm really rather shy & aloof - some even call me cold or that "B" word, but honestly I'm not. I don't handle certain types of people well, generally men that act like children, and drunks (the roomie's brothers for example.)
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@tater03 (1765)
• United States
26 Apr 07
It takes more than one meeting for me to regard someone as a friend. But I find making friends fairly easy. I have a very outgoing personality and will talk to just about anyone. My parents used to laugh at me when I was young because I would stand in line at an amusement park to get on a ride and a few times by the time I got on a ride I would have made a friend and even gotten their address. My parents used to laugh at me.
Just like my neighbors it's weird because I know alot of the neighbors but there are people that live around me that don't even no their next door neighbor.
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@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
I can be friendly with anyone and engage in few conversations. But I don't go out of the way to make friends around. I'm pretty selective with friends. Its not that I'm aloof or something, I just want to give myself a time to get to know a new friend. I always rely on my instinct on the personality of each individual. There must be this instant "connection."
I honestly don't like to force myself on anybody to become my friends. Friends will come forward and urge me to help and support them but they will vanish like thin air when you need them. I'm getting tired of friends abusing my kindness. I'm perfectly content with having a few close friends rather than one huge circle of friends when only a few are qualified to be called my true friends.
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@someonesmom (5761)
• Canada
26 Apr 07
I wouldn't say it's super easy for me to make friends, at least not like some people, who seem to make a 'new' one everyday. I have some very good neighbours, who's daughter I've done daycare for since she was 8 months old (she's almost 6 now). As far as them being friends, they're good and helpful neighbours, since I've been looking after their daughter, but we don't have a lot in common, so haven't really crossed over into a friendship. People I just meet are acquaintances, but it takes a long time to make a very close friend. Sometimes new people come to me, as I've been told I'm friendly, and a good listener, but that doesn't mean we'll become really good friends. To sum it up, I have several of the 'precious' type of friends, you've mentioned, and some I've known for over 30 years. We've been there for each other through 'thick and thin,' and they mean the world to me.
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@haedescanes (592)
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
Well, i am the snobbish type of person at first impression but when people start to talk to me, they often see me smiling and very accomodating person. Being polite is nice but that doesn't mean they are my frined already. I can talk and have many acquiantances with anybody but that doesn't mean they are considered my friend. I am always choosy when it comes to friends. I make it a point that we share the same ideas and interests in life. I consider them friends if they are not bragging and we come along together. If not, and if they bother me all the time and i am not enjoying with their company. I think i don't consider them as my friend..I prefer frined swho are humble but funny and has humour. I am not very hard to please but if they found a friend in me and if i found a friend in someone, i think i am all ears and all out support to this person no matter what. Goodluck!
@cherry_pig (118)
• United States
26 Apr 07
I make friends rather easily, but keeping them is another thing. I have a rather short attention span and forget to return emails and phone calls. But thankfully the few good friends that I do have understand that about me and still love me.
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@touchnshine (2821)
• India
26 Apr 07
Well for me -- It's easy to make friends. I don't make friends automatically .. if there is some chemistry between me and other matches then we are for sure friends. I generally pick my friends -- I don't like to be just a normal friend .. when I go for friendship that I believe in the best one .. the one with whom I can share my happiness and sorrows and will remember our old good times. Yeah I agree friend is never jealous on our success.
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@feliniti (875)
•
26 Apr 07
I find it easy to make friends. I can usually make friends in a very short time. I don't always find it easy to make good friends. I am a friendly person, and I am easy to get along with. I don't suffer fools gladly though. I will reject a friend if they are messing me around. So in that way I will pick and choose my friends. I will always give people a chance but if they don't seem worth the effort I will give up on them. It is different for the ones I would call good friends. Those I will be a lot more patient with.
@jbrent21 (36)
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
Well im the type of person whom they call Snob at first sight. Usually if im new with a group or in an environment i tend to be quiet and serious. But thats the way i gauge people on whether they would be a good friend but im approachable though hard to please. I might talk to you but it doesnt mean i like you already. My close friends are my schoolmates since highschool and college. Now that im working im so choosy because you dont know whom to trust now adays especially when you work on the same place. Getting my trust is easy BUT once broken you cannot expect me to be as close to you anymore. Im the type of friend who will treat you as a brother/sister in short family. Im the type of friend whom you can rely and help you in everything i can.
@curvychick77 (1084)
• United States
26 Apr 07
Yes, I do make friends easily, but I am selective. If I'm introduced to somone elses friend like my sister in law's friends then I can get along with them right off. I consider them a friend after getting to know them after about a week or so. But I do start talking to them right off. Sometimes we get along and other times we only do it for the sake of the person who's friend they really are. So it can be complex. I enjoy spending time alone sometimes so, not having anyone to talk to at times is fine too.
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@cancatis (406)
• Brazil
26 Apr 07
As most of the Brazilians, I usually make friends very easily. I always try to insist in subject that we share, if the person is a new friend to me, it always helps on creating a link between us. Also, I try to keep in touch with my friends all the time, so they see me interested on keeping the friendship on and they get stimulated too.
Life without friends sucks.
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@acs23po (5)
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
Being friendly is one of the qualities I posses. But these days I realized that we must know if you friend can be trustworthy coz' some friends make friends with you because they want something from you. So before you trust someone just feel them coz' true friends will never leave you even if you are in the darkest times.
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@hkdgkurt (146)
• China
26 Apr 07
Hi!Winterose.i used to make a lot friends before i was 30years old becaus i think that will be helpful when i got in trouble.but now,however,i dont think so .i really dont want so many friends but real friends who really want do anything for me and mine for them.
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