Violence against woman,how to stop it?

@raydene (9871)
United States
April 25, 2007 6:44pm CST
There is a man I heard speak on TV about Domestic violence saying that violece againse womaen will not stop untim men begin to hold men accountable for hurting their sister,cousins,wives,mothers,aunts,friends..He believes that peer pressure from male to male is the only way to stop this.He is traveling speaking to men's groups. I think he may be on to something.Tnhe law certainly hasn't stopped the battering,rape and murder..Maybe one by one men can change.What do you think?
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@mummymo (23706)
26 Apr 07
I think that he could be on to something there honey! I truly believe that the majority of men hate this kind of behaviour - but us women have to start being more honest about what is happening to help these changes happen! xxx
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• Philippines
26 Apr 07
Oh raydene, stories like this never fail to move me. I'm happy this one had a lovely ending. You're a good person. May this be a lesson and inspiration to all those who are suffering within the prison of violence. :) Lovely pic by the way, rated it +++
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@mummymo (23706)
26 Apr 07
What a terrible thing to have happened! I was in tears reading this (yes, again!) No wonder you are so proud of your family honey - I am honnoured that you have adopted me into it! love to all xxxx
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@raydene (9871)
• United States
26 Apr 07
She has been through alot in her life.She now has a family and I tell her all the time she IS my daughter. xoxo
@thai11 (239)
• United States
26 Apr 07
Great concept...change happens with one person at a time!!! I hope he does educate more people.. I really do believe that knowledge is power!!!!! I think that man has his work cut out for him being that there are still a lot of male dominated societies that are probably not going to want to be accountable for hurting the various women in their lives.
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@raydene (9871)
• United States
26 Apr 07
We can only help or hurt what we can reach...........
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
26 Apr 07
Well Ray Sweet I really hope so The Law won't stop it as they will not get involved in Domestic until it is to late so I really hope that this works
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
26 Apr 07
I wish I knew what the answer is to that, stricter laws, forced therapy for anger anger management courses Women who will agree to report it because many do not. social workers, forced home visits
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@raydene (9871)
• United States
26 Apr 07
I taught anger management at a job corps specifically for offenders.These kids were 16-24 and some were hard ...They had lived all their lives in a state of impatients and anger.Sad but I might have helped a couple.I think we have to give better support to the home life of children because that's where they learn to cope or not..
@kathy77 (7486)
• Australia
26 Apr 07
Yes well this is quite right what this man is saying in regards to domestic voilence, and most of the time even before people enter the courts they look at the person that is doing this and feel sorry and forgive them and so this encourages them to get away with domestic violence. I do not think that this will ever stop in our lifetime it has been going on for centuries. But I do wish that it would stop.
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@raydene (9871)
• United States
26 Apr 07
We have to try something...We have to keep it in everybody's minds.. xoxo
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
HI raydene. I know that domestic violence is a vicious cycle. And only some of the women involved have the courage to break this cycle. To know that a man is advocating to break this cycle of violence is promising I must say. This is good.
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@raydene (9871)
• United States
26 Apr 07
Yes Hon,We just need more of them to join.Thanks so much. Check out my response above yours.
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@chertsy (3798)
• United States
26 Apr 07
Funny how some men get's upset when they hear that there mom or sister was abused by there husband, but then turns around and does it to there wives. It's like a double standard. I pray that this man get's through to a lot of men. Women also should have classes that will teach them to stop being the victim and take there lives back. I think once a woman puts the abusive man in her shoes, he won't like it and will want to do things to fix the problem. I just feel if the men saw first hand what they are doing and were it could lead them to, it would open there eyes. Some men just need the crap beat out of them by a woman. I mean if a man turned around and hit a man like they do there women, that man isn't going to stand there and take it. He's going to hit the guy back. I think that's the main reason why men do it, they know somewhere in the back of there mind that they can hit a woman and she will be to scared to hit back. Us women need to realise, we are strong, we are not punching bags, we are brave. We need to take our lives back and not let any man control or change us.
@shell52 (144)
• United States
26 Apr 07
I think he is right. Girls in the home need to be shown the correct treatment that men should give to their wives. This is done by men standing up for the female in their household. Men need to be less riticuled on TV. American gets the idea that the man is lesser in mentallity and utter disrespect for the male role comes across. Man is the real role model to his children through how he treats his wife and family. We need more morals and control over family values. Woman need to feel self assurance and take control of their lives, demand respect or get out of the bad situation. It is ok to stand up for ones self and not be made to feel less.
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