Can she fall in love? Would you permit her if you have the power to stop her?

I am also from india. I will answer a straight forward no to your question. When you have kids you live for your kids. Your kids interest and future are more important for you rather than your interest and future. Her daughter is on verge of getting married, she is 18 and she will get married in 3-4 years. Just think what will the society will think about the character of that little girl. The society will not take this matter positively. She is directly affecting her childs future. And what about her boyfriend? How did he fall in love with lady of 49? I mean is he true to her? Or he is just making fun of her ? And as her kids are opposing her, they will not be comfortable with mothers boyfriend. They are 16 and 18 that is in junior college life...you know how much 12th marks are important. At this stage its important to keep them tension free and let them concentrate well on their studies, such kinda family emotional problems will distract them from their studies. You and everyone say, why should she be deprieved of her happiness. Its ok from one point of view, but i would like to ask one questions to you and those all that, whose happiness is important? Mother's or innocent childrens?

yes i completely agree with you,after all everyone have their own life to do whatever they want to live better life,they have rights no one can stop her from doing this.

i cant see anything wrong of falling in love again at age 49. she has the right to be happy again. after all, i cant see any reason why she cant marry again since she is already divorced right? if she is my mom, i will support her to the best i can and i will be so much happy seeing how happy she is while walking down the aisle again because i cant give her the happiness she will have with that man. i will be so happy if she is happy. but ofcourse i wanna make it sure that the man she will marry is worth it of her love. if he is not worth it, then i wont allow her to marry that man.

I think if the lady's in love and wants to marry-then it's nobody's business but hers and her significant other's. Her children should stop and think about how much she's given and given up for them. They might then see this in a different light. She should go for her dreams and they just have to accept it.

In my opinion,I will support.Everyone has the right to choose blessedness.For her,she has given up her blessedness for 10 to 12 years in order to make her children happy.Now,her childen has grown up,of course she can do something what she wants to do.

i thought we should support her ,the people life is short,as the children,we should let own parents happy,IN the parents limited life ,do some thing cause parents happy.so i think we should support her

I would definately support her. I think it's great that a woman of her age has found love. She should follow her heart and marry the man she loves. I think its aweful that everyone is against this. Especially her children. They should be supporting her and happy that she has found love. I hope she has many wonderful years with this man.

As an woman of Indian origin but born and raised in the UK I can only say that people should stop interfering in what is not their business. If it were a man who was considering remarrying, I'm sure everyone would be encouraging him to do so, just because she's a woman should she not be allowed the chance to find happiness for the 2nd time? In fact, it might even be for the first time seeing as her 1dt marriage ended in divorce, we don't know the circumstances of the marriage and subsequent divorce but either way, there is no law to say she can't remarry, so why should people get on their moralistic high horse to try to prevent her. I hope she does go ahead with the marriage and I hope she is happy. Her kids should grow up and get a life of their own. Do they not want their mother to be happy and have love in her life and companionship for when she's older? They may be starting out with married lives themselves, do they really want their mother to sit at home on her home for the rest of her life? I am glad to hear that YOU are supporting her decision although I'm saying this not to cause offence but to be brutally honest, it's not your business either being just a neighbour. It is up to her if she wants to go ahead with the marriage even if it alienates her kids, I'm sure they'll come around eventually, after all, who would not want to keep relationships with their mother simply because she is thinking of herself for a change. After all, she might have been able to remarry much earlier, maybe she was waiting for her kids to grow up before she remarried?

lol. Since she is matured enough and have already grown up kids which are going to be independent soon, why deprive her of her own happiness. She needs to have a life of her own. There are still many many more years before she can call it a day. Is she going to spend the rest of her 20 years alone and in misery? I don't think we should be that selfish. I would certainly encourage her to get married or at least have a companion.

hey samrat, Its not only about her dreams i feel. In her age, one seeks a partner to rely on, to be mentally secured, after all, she would also need someone to confide into in her latter days. I am gladthat the children are supportive(it really doesnt happen in india this ways..i know!!) and i feel really pleased that you support her too. I personally feel, if everybody around her doesnt have a problem , then she should go for it! the world is becomming a better place to live and if this way she can live better ,i feel she should just look ahead...let others think what they have to..in india , people forget soon!! dont worry!

If i have the power then i would support her all of us need a partner for our life she is 49 but she is very lonely...i mean kids mean a lot to the parents but partner is the important part of our life and its vital i dont know why would people oppose i am from india too, but people are still opposing these things in 2007, it sucks!!

hi i know what the lady must be going through and i like someone here said abroad no one wud even raise a eyebrow at this kind of a sitution but in india its a bit different iam sure the lady is even called names! i know that sounds awful but it happens...but times are changing i hope u read mariyamaka's post she got her dad married after she lost her mom and she is from india as well...so maybe this lady too will find the strength and yes her kids should stand by her it wud be really difficult for them but if u love someone deeply their happiness is more important than ur torubles! specially if its your own mom her happiness n welfare is should be your top priorty...i will def pray for the lady i hope she finds happiness in everything she does!

My parents divorced when I was 17 and my sister was 22. both of my parents eventualy remarried. this is nothing out of the ordnary here. I was happy for them both. My mother finaly was happy (something I NEVER saw while she was with my dad), and my father found someone who made him a better person. I supported both of them fully, my daughter was also in my dad's weding as a flower girl!

I can believe it. I am 28 and my mother is 53. My mother is divorced for years and I wish she will remarry some day. She looks very young and her boyfriend is 36. I am happy for her. Kids can not be so selfish....

I believe she should go with what her heart tells her. I understand that some cultures are different than others, but no one, no matter what age they are should have to spend their life or remaining years alone. Love finds us and comes to us no matter what the age may be. And I just can't picture having to shut down what my heart is wanting the most. It makes me happy to hear of the older generation finding love again after a first bout of it went wrong. I wish her all the best.

*sighs* I have read about the plot of the movie "water" about widows in India. Apparently, they only have three options, one is to marry the younger brother of their husband if the family permits, two is to throw herself to the burning body of her husband (i think), and three to live with widows in a house and be secluded in society. No offense, I think India is a beautiful country but I really don't get why they are so strict on women. I'm glad you're one of the few who supports women's choices. And my answer for this is of course she should remarry and no one should stop her from being happy.

I believe she should be happy. She has brought up her children and soon they will leave home to start famillies of their own. I would support her and wish her the best of luck for the future.

In India, this country seems to the status of women is not high.This phenomenon is now in China,does not exist.

I will support her if I have the chance . It is her right to get married again and she has the right to chase her happiness and blessed ,that no one has the right to stop her . Her child are are big enough to accept this , though they don't accept this . but they should not only think about for themselves, they should also consider their mother's happiness. The mother pay all her attention to her children for more than 10~20 years, why the children could not understand their mother ? Support her always.~~~~

I would support her if she wants to get married again. Everyone deserves to be happy and have love in their life. Maybe her kids don't support her and no one else does but that doesn't mean that you can't support her. Let her go after her dreams because everyone wants to and everyone deserves to be able to follow their dreams and be happy. Wouldn't you want support if it was the other way around and you were in love with someone?