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erm.. i think it's quite common for a man refuse to have baby after marriage..eventhough he is financially stable.. maybe he thinks differently.. having a baby is not as simple as you think.. expensses will increase. and i think for a man with high ambitions, they would prefer to have a baby later.. you know.. my teacher once asked me to calculate how much my parents spend for me.. after some calculation.. i belive the amount exceed nearly 100k - 500k.. i think it's even more when it comes to tertiary education.. that's why.. you need a proper plan before having a baby... it's not like he's not going to have baby at all.. unles something is wrong with his health.. i think you have to tell him the truth..

i think u were wrong i think he is trying to stand on his feet and become rich so he can give his kid everything he wants and in my opinion u shall face it

I think you did the right thing, because if now before marriage he does not agree with you, then later on in life there will be many circumstance where you both will have different point of views and simply there will be unnecessary conflict which will spoil your married life. Always see that your partner agrees with you in most decisions. otherwise you both are two diverting personalities. May be the right one has still to come.Best of luck.

Do you love him? Difference in personality affect a relationship greatly. But I am not saying that yours will be no different. Honestly speaking, marriage is all about give and take, forgive and forget and unconditional love. I think he is right to wait for two years before starting a family. The two years is solely belong to both of you. Getting use to each other, loving each other and building a strong husband and wife relationship. For differ in points of view, have a heart to heart talk. Im sure when two people really love each other, surely there is a way to overcome differences. Well, thats about it. This is only my opinion. It best if you dont rush into thing especially long term commitment.

hi!pretty.Think about it carefully ,then make your decide.what you should to do depend on how much you love him.it's your choice you made whether what will happen to you.goodluck my friend!

A difference in opinion regarding a child is such a small thing that both sides can at least compromise. If there are, as you mentioned, certain things that made you decide not to accept, then that may be a big thing for you, especially if compromise may be out of the question. For me, its not a right or wrong decision, but a life-changing decision which is now a turning point in your life. My suggestion is to simply move forward. :)

I think you did right thing, babies is not an issue you can take lightly. I married my hubby not even knowing what he thinkls abotu this issue and I suffered a lot. I guess you just did the right thing. To marriage be a success yopu two should be compatible mentally too and must have some center poit to meet on your opinions.

i think you have done the right thing, if he not into the things you are, and wants different things well how can either of you be happy etc. so many people go wrong like that.. thats my person opinion.

If all that kept you from accepting is him wanting to wait a couple of years I would suggest talking with him. See if there isn't a compromise you can both agree to. Also something to think about which he might have already, when a couple first get married there is a lot of adjusts to make. Adding in a new baby can make that time very stressful and rough. Sometimes it is better to wait a bit so that you two are settled in and have worked out everything so that adding a baby won't make things more tense or frustrating. However if there are other reasons then there is more going on. I think you need to determine if those issues are just excuses or if they are real issues. If they are just excuses then you need to figure out why you actually said no. If they are real issues then I think you already know you did the right thing.

so in that case i guess your the one who is not yet ready emotionally. So i guess you did the right thing because if you pursue it i think its the marriage that will ruin and will not work out.

It is not an issue.Ur partner is just asking to wait for two years, I think u can wait.Who knows when u will become parent after marriage.Do u have any guaranty for becoming mother in a year or two years after marriage. I think both of u should take some time for settling ur married life than after u should think to start ur family.It may take approx. two years. God Bless u and ur future husband.

Hi pretty. I think marriage is a contract or agreement in a way. so if there's no agreement over some very vital issues, it won't be wise to go ahead with any proposal. cheers!

Well, it depends on if you really liked him and loved him. Or you rejected just because you wanted a baby right NOW. Well, you may find some jerk who you get baby from and have it. You should choose the one you really like instead.

I think the first question, is do you love him? If you love him then waiting to have a baby is not that big of a deal in my opinion. The years will go by fast and it is not as if he i saying he doesn't want any at all. I would rethink your decision.

i myself backed out from three proposals from three of my exes before. it's basically i wasn't prepared to get married years ago. i listened to my heart and decide on what i know is best for me. as for you, you talk to your boyfriend about what you want in life with him. a good lasting relationship always has open communication. think about it. you really have lots of time to think. and i supposed, your boyfriend will understand your point... he should since he loves you, right? happy myLotting!

Well,i think the most important thing is do u love each other vrey much.We all have differences.And marriage means understanding and compromise.Do u really have being together for a long enough time to know each ohter well.U said ur relatives all love him,that is nice, cuz sometimes whether the marriage is happy or not depends on the relaitonships between the in-laws.But in the other hand,it is u not ur relatives marry him.So u should ask urself ur feelings to him before u decide.

It doesn't matter if your family or relatives love him or not. It only matters if you want to spend the rest of your life with him and obviously something holds you back. If you weren't really surprised and with joyful tears in your eyes when he proposed, then I think somehow deep down in your heart, you know he is not the one. I have that experience before and I won't look back because once the decisions are made at certain times, I think those would be the best choices I made if time can be reverse again. Why even spend time on thinking something so untangible? No one knows what the future would be, I think you have already did the best choice taking into consideration of what you want at this stage of life. Don't spend time in regretting, you should find a man whose mind is in line with you!

I would say that if he has more than one personality that it maybe isn't a great idea. What really matters is if you love him. He's right about wanting to wait to have a baby! I've been married for 13 years happily!

I think you are not on the same page. Think about this and weigh things out, if you are more compatible with the things that matter most for you rather than the petty things than you should decide for the better. Just weigh it out.. That is just my suggestion. By the way, don't rush into a serious relationship if you are not sure a bout a partner.

my opinion on this is obviously you two are at two different stages in life and usually if one partner wants a child while the other doesn't can bring alot of conflict in the marriage so i think you did the right thing besides i also believe that should marry for love it makes the marriage experience that much better