Love - Marriage

India
April 26, 2007 3:17am CST
One of my friend say Rohit is in love with a nice gal say Neha. Both loves each other. But their caste is different. Further more gal is not good looking. Now Rohit's parents are against this relation. Rohit is very obedient son. He loves her but can't go against his parents. Neha is also an understanding gal. She says we should not marry when our parents are against it. Now they don't talk to each other. Rohit's parents have searched one nice match(Meena) for Rohit. They have given Rohit ample time to understand Meena. Now Rohit is positive baout getting married to Meena. And There is no contact with Neha. Neither Rihit nor myself have contact with Neha. Rohit is feeling guilty and helpless. What should i suggest him ...
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rajeshkumar1113
@rajeshkumar1113 (100)
• India
26 Apr 07
love marriage is so exciting as u marry with that person whom you know better but this is done in some cases as where i live in this place it is not possible to do love marriage as in this palace love marriage is seen with a bad way they think that it is a bad thing but they cant thing that it is a better job as the girl marry with that person whome she know well ... the arrange marriage is that thing in which you dont know the other you know after marriage so it is not so cool .. love marriage is also not good as in some cases the love marriage is no more succeses as they getting bore with the same one they wanna to do something new ... so according to me i wanna to do arrange marriage because my parents wanna this and i cant refuse them ....
vivek_ner
@vivek_ner (63)
• India
26 Apr 07
Hi Rajesh, Thanks for your opinion. You have made your mind that you will go for arrange marriage. Nothing wrong in that. For me ... the most important thing in any marriage is the commitment and understandibilty between the couple. Marriage is not just sharing love between two people. Its a tie up between two families. So it carries much more responsibilty than what normally couples think. Try to understand your partner and give her ample time to know you. Let the love develop between two hearts. And then with go for wedding. I prefer Love - arrange marriage.
pramodthakur
@pramodthakur (2365)
• India
26 Apr 07
Hey Vivek, Why are you making your story as Rohit/Neha story. Say clearly here if you need any advice. Do not hide anything. From the text it is clear that this is your story and you are seeking the solution. This is not typical case. Both are ready to respect the parents view so it is adviseable not marry. You should marry with meena frankly and tell your decision to Neha. She will also agree with you as she is already telling you to respect the parents decision. Problem arises when one is firm to love marry and not ready to hear anything. Here you both are understanding the situation. I can say your love is not true one. This is just street love which has no start and no ending.
vivek_ner
@vivek_ner (63)
• India
26 Apr 07
Hi Pramod, I am hiding the name of my friend because i don't want him to know by any means that i am telling his story somewhere. He shares evrything with me. He is confused, I suggested him to marry meena because he has already come very far. So better not to curse anyone and be faithful to meena.