for richer or poorer?!!!

When people get married the relationship is supposed to be based on committment. Some days you may not love the person you married. Heck, you may not even like them, but you've made a vow to be committed. At the end of the day it's all about being a generous soul and making a life with someone whom you've chosen to be your family for the rest of your life.

There's a saying...the first time you marry for love, the second time for money! Unfortunately, the odds are stacked against you the day you marry. I envy couples who have been happily married for many years. I personally am not marriage material and am much happier being single. People change as they mature and sometimes those changes can pull people in 2 different directions. I also think some people have a fantasy that once your married, that's it. Happily ever after now that the deed is done. They don't realize that you need to work at your relationship every single day. If you don't, the other person is sure to stray.

I think some people do go into marriage with the thought in the back of their mind that if it doesn't work out they can always get divorced. Sometimes though you don't really know someone until you live with them and it does take two to make it work.

I believe that most people that do get married do it with the intentions of staying together for the rest of their lives but over time people change and instead of being happy with each other the relationship becomes strained making it hard for everyone living in the household , resulting in divorce . Getting married is always special and we would like to believe that we will always be as happy as we are on the day we do get married but in many cases this is not to be . Money causes people to argue , having children can bring more responsibility then one though or family problems with other family members can all be the result of a marriage breaking up because two people that so cared for each other have changed and the two drift apart with no idea how to get the feelings of love back again . I don't believe one justs falls out of love but over a period of time with no talking and not understand each other will bring on a change causing one to fall out of love with the other .

Most people marry with the best intentions, that it will be forever and I applaud those who find the person that are willing to share the rest of their life with. However, because there is so any opportunities within our lifetimes, marriage can feel like a trap to some and that the other person is somehow holding them back and they need to free theirselves from the marriage to grow. In short term relationships it is easy to fall in and out of love, however with long term ones some people are unaware of how love develops, moving from the excited getting to know you phase to the settled comfortable phase, this is the pahse where people may think the spark has gone and mistake it for falling out of love. People can fall out of love for numerous reasons, and it dosen't even have to be the other persons actions which have caused it, some people just grow beyond their partner and realise that this was not the one.