Mom, WHAT am I GOING to DO? I NEED your HELP, I can't DO IT without YOU??

I think it's a compliment to you that she loves and trusts your judgement so much but you're right, it's time to cut the apron strings. Perhaps you need to step back and bit and not "be there" for her. If she calls at certain times, let the answering machine get it. If she lives with you, it will be a bit harder and more obvious to her that you are stepping back from her life. Sit her down and tell her that it's HER turn now to be 'a mom' and make the decisions in her life and while you will always be there to help her and guide her you can't keep being there with the answers constantly because it's time for you to move into the next mode of your life as a parent with adult children. Either way, first off remember that it's a true compliment that she loves and looks up to you so much. Second off, let her know that it's too much. She probably just assumes since you've always been there you will always be there and while that's true to an extent it's just not realistic as she moves on to the "mommy" and "adulthood" part of her own life. Good luck!

looks like she's grown completely dependent on you hun... Maybe it's about time that you just sit her down and tell her it's time for her to start standing on her own two feet, that you can help her some, but not to the extent that you have been... If that's not the road you want to take, then maybe turn off the phone for a few hours a day, have some you time... I know this isn't much, but i do hope it helps hun,....

Lol..I think she is just starting to take advantage of y our closeness now..maybe she is just lookin for some sympathy and extra cash, Im 34 and i still nee dmy moomy ever n ow and again lol..especiallyw hen things are tough,i dot care if im 60 yrs old,..if my mom is alive i will always go to her for advice,emotional help as well..and yes theer are times i have needed a loan.So i wouldnt be too hard on her..as long as she doesnt take advantage of you.,andif u feel she is..your just gona have to tell her u just cant help her out..There one thing of getting help when you need it..everyone has been there one time or another,,and then there are people like my sister that are so dependent on mom..she wont be able to survive without her i think..so my best advice is help her when she really down and out..but dont let her take advantage hun..take care!

Tell her she needs to grow up and make the simple choices herself. If she is ever facing a hard one, then you will listen to it & see if you can help. She's a grown up, she's a MOTHER ask her what she's going to do when her daughter comes to her at 27 wants to know what to do. Just tell her you are cutting the strings & she needs to start making her own choices, she's never going to learn otherwise.

Sounds like your daughter really respects your opinion and feels as if you are a lifeline for her. I still go to my mom for advise and to rant. Cause I know she has to love me. She's my mom! Mostly she probably just needs to hear an adult voice of reason, and is feeling overwhelmed. My suggestion is bone up on those listening skills, and forget about trying to fix it. Just ask the right questions and let her know that you are in her corner. My mom always knows that I don't really need her to fix the situation but I do need someone who cares about me to listen. Usually when I'm done panicking or feeling sorry for myself or whatever it is... my mom say's, "Well lets pray." That helps a lot!

you should make her convice her that she can do anything without you. should develope the confidence in her. that is the only one of d best way.

Sometimes I get tired of helping my daughter who is also 27. I think back to when I was 27 and I don't remember asking my parents for help. I would use my brain and figure it out for myself. It is how I thought I should be as an adult. My daughter does figure out how to do more stuff now than she did when she was in her early 20s. However, my son who is 22 does not need as much help. Without trying to sound too sexist, I think that boys seem to know that when they become an adult they are expected to figure things out for themselves. Maybe you should not answer the phone but let the answering machine screen your calls. Good luck with your daughter!

Is it possible that she just needs someone she can trust to bounce ideas off of? Do you actually solve the problems, or only listen while she does it herself? My kids have been the opposite, and never let me help enough. I guess we never stop being the parent. Maybe you should turn the tables on her, and ask her to solve your problems.

Change your phone number? lol i'm kidding :) I guess you should tell her that she's a grown woman and she needs to be able to make her own decisions and fix her own problems! What is she going to do when you get older and she isn't able to ask you all these questions?! you better let her learn now!

Just a thought from Dr. Joe.....Maybe you should look up the words "enabling" and "co-dependent"....sounds like a sure fire case of each going on here ...primo faci evidence..."I'll have a talk with her after she graduates next month"...why put off what needs to be done now...Just another symptom.....you know it...but by putting it off..you put off the ending of her dependence on you which you sub-consciously thrive on....Its not a severe mental disease which requires being hospitalization, but you do need to deal with it.... or ...just move her in..pay all her bills ..raise her kids..buy her a car...clothes...medical and legal expenses...you get the drift...I thought so.... Now..you may please leave by my convenient side door so you won't have to confront any other patients in the waiting room. Make another appointment with my nurse for next Wednesday and she will be happy to take your payment. Damn...playing doctor was never like this when I was younger...Everybody still has their clothes on....

Its nice to hear that your daughter still trusts you. But, u should speak to her face to face n telll her that she needs to be independent now, n that u won't be throughout her life to support her

Move? Build a bomb shelter? Tunnel out? These are the sort of things I think of when my kids start in with, "Mooooom!" I think, "where of where can I hide?" She loves you and trusts you and relies on you, that is clear, and it's a good thing- to a degree. You have already gotten a lot of good advice and given it some thought. When I get really fed up with my boys I tell them straight out to use their noodle, it is a brain, not a hatrack. They don't really hang themseleves if you give them enough rope. They are ofen well able tio figure it out, and there is a difference between them wanting to vent and really needing assistance. When they are just whining, I would rather let them figure it out on their own. If they really need me, I am there.

I think you should be happy because even though she have her own life, husband and daughter, she still remembers you, you will still feel that your daughter still needs you. If im in your situation i will just answer her questions calmly and figure out that my daughter has never forgetting me even if she have her own life.