Hellish House Guests
By galatea
@galatea (686)
Philippines
April 26, 2007 3:04pm CST
Have you had any such guests? Right now I have them all snoring in both rooms.
I was told that my dad's daughter and her grandma will be coming over from the province. With a long, deep-drawn sigh I made myself ready for the onslaught.
Lo and behold. I received six guests at about 11pm, two of whom are complete strangers to me. They barged inside the house with their shoes on, dumped their bags in the gallery, asked me for the key to the car (take note they didn't ask for permission) and drove into the night to buy drinks.
My sister's cousin barged into my ym conversation with my boyfriend and proceeded to pound my laptop in frustration because she can't log in to her friendster account. She even told me if she can throw the computer away and I could just get a new one.
I was dumbfounded, speechless, lost for words.
We value hospitality in our country but of what use is hospitality when your house guests do not show the slightest sign of respect towards the house and their host?
2 responses
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
27 Apr 07
The only thing that bothers me here is, why the heck you allow them to do this and that at your own home? If I were you, I would simply tell them that other things here should be left in private, and that there are also limitations for them to do aorund the house. Let's say that we don't want to be rude at them, but please, if they want to be treated as guests, then I suggest them all to act and be like one. They shouldn't touch any personal things, especially without your fathers consent. Just like his car, as you are the one who's gonna be responsible if something happen to it. For the person who told you to throw your laptop, you can tell her that you wouldn't mind. And that she just have to make sure that nothing would be left when she throws it or else you would not hesitate to brek the remaining pieces of it on her head.
I'm sorry for the rant, but I don't treat these types of people us guests, but as "pests". I've seen some of them and dealed with alot of them, I won't think twice to let them know a piece of what is on my mind.
@galatea (686)
• Philippines
27 Apr 07
I feel so helpless. I honestly don't know how to control these people. :( I guess they think that this isn't my house but my dad's, and my dad is away so they really don't care what they do to it. My dad, whom I've emailed countless times, seemed not to care either. I think I'm the only one problematizing the situation. I'm thinking of moving out of this mess. It's taking its toll on me and I can't concentrate on things that I have to do, such as my studies. I can't even communicate with my boyfriend freely now because once I open the laptop, Shiva the destroyer girl rushes to my side asking to open her friendster account.
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@psyche49f (2502)
• Philippines
25 Jun 07
Oh, that's really upsetting. You're sure in a lot of trouble with those house pests, er, guests...so what do you do now once they have left your house? I'm sure you will have a lot of fixing and arranging and putting back your things in order. Next time they give you hints of coming back, change the locks to your main door and sleep in somebody else's house. That's enough for hospitality if the house guests are rude and insensitive. You give them a dose of their own medicine....
@Darkwing (21583)
•
26 Apr 07
Oh, how awful for you! Especially with those you haven't met. I think I would have to speak with them and say that whilst they were in my house, they would have to follow my house rules; otherwise I would be obliged to show them the door and ask them to leave.
You're very patient to put up with this sort of thing. I'll bet you're afraid to leave the house for two minutes... I would be.
Brightest Blessings, my friend, and even if hospitality is a big thing in your country, that doesn't mean the guests can take you for granted. In fact, only two of them are guests really, as that's all you expected. I really do feel you're going to have to put your foot down here, Galatea.
Take care, and I hope you don't have to suffer too much more of this ignorant behaviour. x
@galatea (686)
• Philippines
27 Apr 07
That is the thing. I'm way younger that the oldest person in the group, my sister's grandma. The two other boys (I'd rather not call them men, thank you) are her brother and son. My sister and her young aunt, 13 years old, completes the cast.
My sister's grandma should be the one to control her group. Argh! I haven't been able to reply to my posts yesterday because I locked the laptop in another room, lest someone throws it out the window.