Do we, can we create our own realities? Is it truly about perceptions, or

Thinking positive and having faith I feel is a big part of it, I mean have you ever noticed that those people that worry all the time about the what ifs of things that can go wrong do in fact keep having the very things they worry about go wrong? So I know what you are saying, my mom was such a worry type person, and I would always say but mom, it always works out for the best, which I feel it does. Til I got her to realize I was right. Example, we needed a new apartment, rent was to high etc. We found one that as decent, good rent, etc, well the guy said yes we could have the place so we went back to meet with him and leave a deposit, only to find out that his wife didn't know he had said yes to us so she rented it to someone else. Well the neighbor hood was ok not great but ok, and it was close to tracks. So we didn't get the place, right after that we got an apartment that was a 3 family house with the tenents on the two upper apartments almost never home, place had a front door and back door, the other tenents never used the back yard so we had a back yard to ourselves. The rent was lower than what we would have paid for the other place and it wasn't across the street from tracks. In a great neighborhood. So yes sometimes when things go wrong, there is a good reason for it, and things just fall into your lap. I do however think that you had faith in the good things that would develop and so they did. As for that part about how there are times when people are drawn to you, and times when they are not, and that your polarity changes, it is interesting since there is an idea of the cycles our lives go, that we have repeative cycles, where we will have times of endings, times of beginnings and times of say preparation, a kind of in between time, from the endings and beginnings as well as times for things to be building up in our lives. I looked into this one time, and thought wow. Because after doing the calculations based on this theory of cycles in our lives, I had come up with the idea that I was in a cycle of endings, which means I may find that people who have been in my life would not be there such as friendships of long standing ending, or people passing away or losing a job, etc, LOL well I laughed about that. Because well yes the math was right, based on my birth, I was to be in a cycle of ending, of losing things, of major changes. During that cycle, the company was sold for my part time job so I lost my job, then a month later the company was sold for my full time job and I lost my job, 2 months after that my mom passed away, 3 weeks after that my grandmother passed away, 2 months after that friends of mine moved out of state. hmm yeah a year of endings for sure. I do agree positive begets positive, I do think however there is some kind of fate or destiny or karma involved. However my idea of karma and someone else's may differ to me it is not such much that we lose our free will but that we make a choice before we are born to have certain things happen in our lives for specfic reasons, or lessons, and so sometimes when it seems like things are spinning out of our control or hands as if there is some unforseen force creating our reality, it is in fact that we are doing it our sevles either consciously or subconsciously to fulfill those lessons we decided we would learn so that we can have fate take a role in our lives and free will at the same time, since it was our own free will which set us up for those fated moments. However you put it well when you trust the universe things go well, it is not so much that you are forcing that things happen as you wish them to, but that you know it will happen for the best, and so it does. But when you fight this energy and don't trust then things kind of get messed up. I like how you put that.

As for the thing with your place, finding it, I don't believe in coincences it happened so you could find that nicer place. Would be interested in hearing of your "calculations"

Indigos have been around awhile, but my baby is only a year so he should be a crystal. But if he's been waiting.... She knew, not what we were thinking about then but lately, that I was thinking of an environmental career and my husband politics - that shocked me as my husband is not the most outgoing, social person. He loves screens more then people (currently, I'm a WOW Widow) - yet he'd been reading a book about how to become mayor. Wow, ten kids, that's alot. However, I've thought of adopting that many! That's pretty cool about your grandfather! And the mentalist must have had some skill if he knew. I would think the offer of an adventure like that would have been wonderful - knowing, although he made the moral choice, that you have options -and the option was quite an adventure. Sounds a bit like astrology, in that it goes by the year, they always want to know the hour of my birth and exactly where I was born. If you put in Brooklyn - where I spent my first six months - they offer up several choices, which my mom doesn't remember. It be interersting to find out more. For my babys birthday I originally wanted to do a full chart but we never got around to getting that. I love seven! I will certainly check out the site. Wow you've turned out to be the most interesting mylotter by far.

I like what you have said, and how you put things, I do consider much of what we live subjective, and it is at least in my view a perceptual issue as to what are realities are. Your answer was deeper than that which most people would go more philosophical, but then the entire issue is philosophical. I was a kid, and we broke down, got a flat, rather than see the situation as oh we got a flat bummer, my grandmother saw it as we got a flat right in front of a junk yard where we could get a new tire to fix the flat rather than someone on the road [pre cellphone days no ready calls to make] So we could change it, and fix it quick enough because of that. I suppose it is also a glass half full or half empty issue, yet when ever they asked me if the glass was half full or half empty I was told I was being a smart alec, when I replied it is well balanced.

Fake it til ya make it sounds good. I like that. I agree, I have learned that when you are miserable you only get more miserable, but when you are happy, people want to be around you, and they also want to be happy so that you and they are usually having a good time. Or that if you look for the good in people, expect the good in people they will try to live up to your expectations, since they don't want to be less and enjoy being more.

Yes the book The Secret is just the latest in such books, the Power of Positive Thinking, by Norman Vincent Peale written years ago is still being printed and read today. Also Creative Visualization by Shaktai Gawain Other books same idea Law of Attraction by Esther Hicks and Jerry Hicks Law of Attraction by Michael J. Losier Law of Attraction Workbook by David Hooper The Life of Your Dreams by Cindy Day Power of Subconscious Mind by Joseph Murphy and many others. It is a general theme that has been writtenabout for a long time the secret is in fact not revealing a secret so much as rehasing the same stuff that some may have over looked.

Wow! You must be die hard fan of self help and motivation books fan With all those books,it can keep u high