Do you respond to people that are rude or that attack you personally when you

I usually respond, I've unfortunately heard everything here on mylot, the latest was that I'm a bad mother *rolls eyes*, but there's a certain point where I don't want to say anymore because they aren't worth it and thrive on negativity. I also rate them negatively. Most of the time I've noticed that people that do this only have a few posts, so they are trolls that just want to stir the pot.

Till now this never happened to me. I happened to receive very rude messages in other forums, I'm Italian and I sometimes fight with somebody, Italians have the blood a little hot.... I think that if a myLotter will be rude with me or will respond a violent comment against me, I'll be prudent, I think not to get angry, it isn't worth while. But I hope not to experience something like this.

Usually i dont attract too much spammers or aggresive people.May be because i allways try to formulate my discussions politely and without any rudeness in them.I had just one case, when a woman accepted my disscussion as personal attack in result of her and i was surprised. My reaction was emotional and i tried to explain that there is just missunderstanding. And that was all. When i argue, i give and take facts. And this is my rule in all my arguments.If i miss facts, i dont argue.

I used to answer all rude comments but I stopped cause I think they do it just to start arguments cause they like to fight. I did recently come up with a discussion recently about it cause i had seen a big rise in the amount of rude comments,including having some trouble with a rude member myself.

If anything i would probably rate them negative and perhaps report them if their behaviour warranted it. I would ignore the comments in the sense of not responding in writing to them. I just don't find any point in rising to people who are like that, it's what they want, attention and for you to rise to their attacks.

Well I'm guilty of responding and you know I don't even know why? I'm not sure if letting them know that they are rude will change their behavior at all.

I think you are right. However..I really have not had that problem. Everyone has been quite nice. Of course there are those who won't agree with some of your posts. I do take the time to explain myself and hopefully do it in a tactful way...I think that is best. Why should we fight and fling hurtful words around. We are all here to better ourselves and express ourselves and hopefully make a little money and that should be our main concerns...

Well i've never encountered nasty mylotters, but one ocassion when people misunderstood what I wrote and left behind nasty comments. When I saw that I went ahead and cleared it out with them and they apologized. But incase it happens to me again, to some person who is deliberately rude, I will jsut leave behind a comment and ! them. If they dont leave my back i'd just ignore them and report them to mylot. But i;ve never received rude comments so far, i'd like it to stay that way!

Usually i ignore them. There is a phrase: "Kill the fool with silence" Most of them are rude just because they need attention -and i refuse them this attention. But this is not allways possible and then i try to reply politely, this is confusing for most of them. I have still not meet aggresive behaviour here, but i am active just from a day :-)

I've had one that I asked politely to not respond again in the manner she had done on one discussion. She came back reiterating her very hurtful position. I Ramped Up to Please Go Away and Please Avoid any further of my discussions. Yet again this person revv'ed the engines and came screeching back in with another punch of the Same Thing. I hit the QueenB button on my personal settings and offered to take the matter to the admins - that her commentary was not only beyond rude but hurtful and that if she did not end the repeated zaps to my discussions I would be filing a formal complaint under cyber stalking laws. That finally got her to go away. sigh. I'm relatively polite the first time, sternly matter of fact on the second, tempt me to take it to a third time - I'll pull out all the stops I can and you will get a negative rating blast on all previous comments.

i do respond to discussions who like to take a cheap shot.i can definitely roll up my sleves and get down to a really cheap dig.but most of the time i rather ignore it because i think that it is isnt just worth it.some people think that it is just ok to insult anyone and everyone and get away with it.but they got to remember there is something called a negative rating and a chance to report them.i rather ignore them.

it depends on the answers. if they attack friends of me and i come across these answers, i tell them what i think, i try to be as polite as possible. when its abusing or harassing i report them to mylot. is it against the guidelines, i report them too. but if its only stupid, i ignore it

I hear you. I don't understand why some people can't respect other peoples opinions and differences. I don't always respond to rude comments but if I do, I always have a smart, witty answer that is at the same time polite. I make them feel stupid for being rude. It always works.

simply just ignore them.....and would say let there be peace on earth!!!