Would you tell your mature friend her clothes are to sexy?

She needs to be told by someone that cares or it won't mean anything. She has the ability to shrug off the reactions of perfect strangers so it is up to the people that know her to bring her into the light. If you have to get harsh or rude then so be it because she just doesn't seem to see things that she should. Consider it an act of tough love.

Have you realized that this woman is giving out a distress signal? She feels that she is not being loved and noticed anymore that's why she is doing this. If you will take the courage to talk to her about this properly, she will accept your word and will learn from you. Give her some assurance that she is loved and well noticed as she is, and that she did not dress up that way. Tell her that she will be more lovable and acceptable if she will dress up and act her age.

You must be gentle when telling her about this for she might be offended. Explain to her that men would notice her if she dress her age. At 52 the men that would notice her will respect and admire her for herself. Not by how she dress and look. This attitude are for teenagers only, what she would get will be men playing with her feelings. Point to her the disadvantage of her dressing like that. Hope this helps...

Oh my! What a tough spot to be in. I'm at a loss of words as to how you should approach her with this. I agree with you, she shouldn't be dressing like a tramp - at ANY age let alone at an age when she should know better. It's too bad too since she is such a sweet person but giving off the wrong signal. I bet she would meet more respectable men who give her the right kind of attention if she would just dress the right way. I think if I was in your shoes, I might invite her over for a girls night. Make it a fun night to hang out and just enjoy each others company. Snacks, movies, drinks, junk food. At some point I would maybe ask her how the man hunting was going and then lead into telling her that I think she is beautiful and sweet but there's been something on my mind that I wanted to bring up because I really like her and care about her but I do not want her to take it the wrong way. Of course she would want to know 'what' and I would, as nice as I could, tell her that the way she has been dressing lately is gaining her the wrong kind of attention and I don't want her to attract the wrong kind of men. I would tell her that I think she looks so nice in normal slightly sexy clothes rather than the full blown 'show it all' clothes. Men like when there's something left to the imagination and I just think showing your thong or wearing see-thru clothes makes her look like she's wanting the wrong kind of guys. I might start the whole thing by asking her if things are o.k., like I was really concerned about her. Maybe bring up the fact that she had been reprimanded at work and ask her why she has been all of a sudden dressing so differently. I would probably approach the whole thing as if I was really worried that something else was going on to cause her to start dressing like that and wanting attention from the wrong kind of men. Or I might even say that (not sure, might make it up) at some point a really nice stranger had asked about her (when she was with you but not right next to you) about her and said she was really pretty but it's too bad she was showing all her goods because he wasn't interested in women like that. I don't know - this is such a hard spot to be in. You want to help her but any way you put it, she's going to be insulted. You just have to really make it clear that you love and care about her but that people are saying things about it and it's making you mad but you can see their point. Let he know that even her son is having issues with it. Ask her if she wants to go shopping one day and try on some other types of outfits with you and see what your opinion is on them. Sometimes it's hard to really see what we look like in the mirror and it takes a good friend to tell us what does or does not look good on our body. I wish you lots of luck with this one. If you think it's going to be too hard, then just let it go and hope that at some point, she gets the hint and tries something different with her clothes. Personally, I'd find a way to drop the hint without straight out telling her but then I'm a chicken like that when it comes to my good friends. ((hugs))

First of all you are such a sweet soul. I think you are in a hard situation.One hand your friend will be hurt inside because she think is still young and when you will say somethihng she will get very hurt...other hand you have to warn her if you are a true friend... My advice is to talk with her,and to use all diplomacy you have,to look in her eyes and to tell that you say just for her own good... I don't know you but all i know is i am able to succeed in a situation like this... I wish you succes,and don't forget to say all time you love her... augusta

She is your friend so I would tell her. I always try to be honest with my friends. Just tell her in a really nice way. I am sure she would rather here it from you than anyone else or end up loosing her job, that wouldn't be good. I would tell her.