does age really matter???
By aj2006
@aj2006 (1534)
Philippines
April 26, 2007 11:55pm CST
........my husband has 3 kids when I met him, ( first wife died from cancer) all grown -up. Funny, but me & my husband has a 28 years gap,it means that me & his eldest son belongs in the same age, Our daughter is 1 yr.old at present, it seems like they adore my child,(their step sister) but I feel like, they are not comfortable with me. Is it because of my age? I love my husband, our family so dearly, Please give m some advice on how to let them know I do care and i want us to get along very well............ tnx!
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6 responses
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
13 Sep 08
As long as your hubby and you get quite well with each other its ok. Perhaps your husband's kids find it difficult to accept you because they don't know you well besides the age difference. Maybe they think you are after his wealth and find it difficult that it is true love. Give some time so that they will know you better and accept you more in their life.
@kming52 (280)
• China
27 Apr 07
it is obvious that orientals can not accept these cases till now.I first show my sympathy to you ,as i've met this situation before.And it is not very rare to meet this problem.I can hardly give you any advices more to break this somewhat block between you and your steep children.This phenoninon is hard to analyse as i am too young without enough experiences,maybe
@franziska (410)
• Italy
7 May 07
Perhaps the three kids of the first wife need time to know you better and to get used to your presence near their father. You have only to show that you really love their father and don't interfere in the relationships between father and kids.
@sloanjosiecat79 (299)
• United States
27 Apr 07
your husband and his first wife were married for a long and no doubt his kids miss their mother.they may feel that by marrying and having a chils with someone else that he's being disloyal to their mother's memory. all they, and you, really need is time. time for them to heal and understand that if their dad is happy, and you're not there to take the place of their mother,than that's what matters
@curvychick77 (1084)
• United States
27 Apr 07
Age should never be a factor when you love someone. His family probably feels since you are almost the same age as they are, that they feel uncomfortable with it. Some people cannot accept the age difference. As long as you're happy and you love your husband then it should not matter what others think.
